Married in Puerto Rico-easiest cheapest way to get divorced?

[ryaba10]

My husband and I live in North Carolina. We were recently married in Puerto Rico and never filed our paperwork here in North Carolina. He wants a divorce. I do not, but can't make him stay in a relationship he does not want to.

Does anyone know the easiest, cheapest way to get a divorce, given our circumstances? We don't have kids, and the only joint assests we have are some furniture and stocks that are probably worth no more than a few hundred dollars.

I really just want to move on and am sick of the emotional, mental, and physical stress of the entire situation. Any advice or insight would be much appreciated!

 

[LdiJ]

My husband and I live in North Carolina. We were recently married in Puerto Rico and never filed our paperwork here in North Carolina. He wants a divorce. I do not, but can't make him stay in a relationship he does not want to.

Does anyone know the easiest, cheapest way to get a divorce, given our circumstances? We don't have kids, and the only joint assests we have are some furniture and stocks that are probably worth no more than a few hundred dollars.

I really just want to move on and am sick of the emotional, mental, and physical stress of the entire situation. Any advice or insight would be much appreciated!

Its doesn't matter that your marriage took place in Puerto Rico, it also doesn't matter that you never filed any paperwork in NC. You can still divorce in NC. Unfortunately, however it won't be quick. NC requires a one year separation before you can file for divorce.

It may possibly even be a legal separation that is required. Get a consult with a local attorney to be certain.

 

[justalayman]

a pro se divorce in your state.

You should be able to research what a court requires for filings and documentation. Your only costs should be the filing fees and recording fees.

 

[xylene]

My husband and I live in North Carolina. We were recently married in Puerto Rico and never filed our paperwork here in North Carolina.

Do you mean you moved to MC from PR after getting married legally in PR

Or

Do you mean that you have always been NC residents, went to PR and got married in a church and never recorded a marriage license?

 

[ryaba10]

We've lived in NC for about 5 years and got married in Puerto Rico.

 

[xylene]

We've lived in NC for about 5 years and got married in Puerto Rico.

Did you record a marriage license?
Either in PR or NC?

I don't mean said "I do" in front of a priest.

 

[LdiJ]

Did you record a marriage license?
Either in PR or NC?

I don't mean said "I do" in front of a priest.

I think its better to say, did anyone record a marriage license. Normally the officiant is the one who sends it in.

If it was a legal marriage in PR, its a legal marriage everywhere in the US.

 

[xylene]

PR legal wedding is possible...

But - A legal wedding in PR requires blood tests (done in PR) and a ten day waiting period.

If they never applied for and the recorded (themselves or by the officiant) a marriage license in either PR or NC, then they may not be legally married.

There is no common law marriage in NC (or PR)

If they are not legally married, it certainly simplifies (or complicates) a divorce.

So I guess my advice to the poster would be to speak with a lawyer and discuss the prospect that they might not even be married

 

[ryaba10]

We legally filed in PR. I have the certificate/paperwork.

 

[ryaba10]

Did you record a marriage license?
Either in PR or NC?

I don't mean said "I do" in front of a priest.

***Yes, we did file all the paperwork necessary in PR. I have the marriage license. I really don't want to get a divorce. I wish he was willing to work it out. He won't even go file... says he's too busy.

 

[Zigner]

Then, it seems to me that the following is what you are left with:

Its doesn't matter that your marriage took place in Puerto Rico, it also doesn't matter that you never filed any paperwork in NC. You can still divorce in NC. Unfortunately, however it won't be quick. NC requires a one year separation before you can file for divorce.

It may possibly even be a legal separation that is required. Get a consult with a local attorney to be certain.

 

[Mr.X]

You need to be separated for 1 full year before you can file for divorce. Being separated means living separate and apart. Most states have some wait time to make sure that you dont get back together and change your mind.

 

[xylene]

It isn't a joint thing.

***Yes, we did file all the paperwork necessary in PR. I have the marriage license. I really don't want to get a divorce. I wish he was willing to work it out. He won't even go file... says he's too busy.

If he doesn't file, and you don't file....

Then you remain married, so be careful what you wish for.

 

[ryaba10]

Thank you!

Thanks for all the advice and insight!! I appreciate it... still waiting for my "husband" to file any necessary paperwork.

 

[xylene]

Thanks for all the advice and insight!! I appreciate it... still waiting for my "husband" to file any necessary paperwork.

Glad to help.

I do want to say that I think you might have missed my point.

He doesn't have to do anything.

You might want to consider filing a divorce, since he has abandoned you.