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Age of Exemption in DE: Do parents need to know?

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mysolarsailors

Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Delaware


I am eighteen and my boyfriend is sixteen. We are both gay, and before we go any further in the relationship I want to know if his parents can charge me with anything despite the close in age exemptions. according to wikipedia even if he was fifteen it would be legal because the 4 year age difference (were only a year in two months apart) and the fact that im under thirty and hes sixteen (almost seventeen). But his parents dont approve of homosexuality, and dont know hes gay or that were together. if they found out, could they do anything?
 


cbg

I'm a Northern Girl
Yes, they could. They could refuse to allow him to have contact with you, and if you continued to have contact they could get a restraining order, and if you violated the restraining order they could have you thrown in jail.

The age of consent relates only to the age at which the state will not pursue statutory rape charges. Until a minor reaches the age of majority, which in no state is younger than 18, the parents still have complete control over who he sees, where he goes, and, in fact, everything he does.

This answer, btw, would be exactly the same if you were heterosexual.
 

mysolarsailors

Junior Member
oh i know it goes both ways, gay or straight, and if it didnt i wouldnt try to fight it.

and im prepared to not see him if his parents decide we cant be together, trying to see him would only bring both of us more trouble.

but for the time being they dont know, can they charge me? what can they do to me is the question. i know they can stop us from seeing each toher, but beyond that can i get in to legal trouble if i step out of the picture as soon as they tell me to?
 

acmb05

Senior Member
oh i know it goes both ways, gay or straight, and if it didnt i wouldnt try to fight it.

and im prepared to not see him if his parents decide we cant be together, trying to see him would only bring both of us more trouble.

but for the time being they dont know, can they charge me? what can they do to me is the question. i know they can stop us from seeing each toher, but beyond that can i get in to legal trouble if i step out of the picture as soon as they tell me to?
No you could not. And make sure to wear a condom please.
 

mysolarsailors

Junior Member
thank you so much for your help! oh and i will when the time eventually comes, though i dont think im ready for such a big step. I just want to be sure before this goes any further! and i love the quote you have. its rather epic.
 

cyjeff

Senior Member
No you could not. And make sure to wear a condom please.
Wow.

Another post about teen agers having sex and you just couldn't wait to wave them through....

OP... I would think about this...

§ 1103. Definitions relating to children.

(a) "Abuse" means causing any physical injury to a child through unjustified force as defined in § 468(1)(c) of this title, torture, negligent treatment, sexual abuse, exploitation, maltreatment, mistreatment or any means other than accident.

(b) "Child" shall mean any individual 18 years of age or less. For the purposes of §§ 1108, 1109, 1110, 1111 and 1112A of this Title, "child" shall also mean any individual who is intended by the defendant to appear to be 14 years of age or less.

(c) "Delinquent child" means a child who commits an act which if committed by an adult would constitute a crime.

(d) "Neglect" or "neglected child" is as defined in § 901 of Title 10.

(e) "Prohibited sexual act" shall include:

(1) Sexual intercourse;

(2) Anal intercourse;

(3) Masturbation;

(4) Bestiality;

(5) Sadism;

(6) Masochism;

(7) Fellatio;

(8) Cunnilingus;

(9) Nudity, if such nudity is to be depicted for the purpose of the sexual stimulation or the sexual gratification of any individual who may view such depiction;

(10) Sexual contact;

(11) Lascivious exhibition of the genitals or pubic area of any child;

(12) Any other act which is intended to be a depiction or simulation of any act described in this subsection.​

(f) "Truancy" or "truant" shall refer to a pupil enrolled in grades kindergarten through 12 of a public school who has been absent from school for more than 3 school days during a school year without a valid excuse as defined in regulations of the district board of education of the school district in which the pupil is or should be enrolled pursuant to the provisions of Title 14, or where a student is enrolled in a charter school, by the board of directors of the charter school.

(g) "Visual depiction" includes, but is not limited to:

(1) Any image which is recorded, stored or contained on or by developed or undeveloped photographic film, motion picture film or videotape; or

(2) Data which is stored or transmitted on or by any computer, or on or by any digital storage medium or by any other electronic means which is capable of conversion into a visual image; or

(3) Any picture, or computer-generated image or picture, or any other image whether made, stored or produced by electronic, digital, mechanical or other means.​

§ 1106. Unlawfully dealing with a child; class B misdemeanor.

A person is guilty of unlawfully dealing with a child when:

(1) The person knowingly permits a child less than 18 years old to enter or remain in a place where unlawful narcotics or dangerous drugs activity is maintained or conducted; or

(2) The person knowingly permits a child less than 18 years old to enter or remain in a place where unlawful sexual activity is maintained or conducted; or

(3) The person knowingly permits a child less than 18 years old to enter or remain in a place where gambling activity which is made unlawful by this Criminal Code is maintained or conducted; or

(4) The person, being the proprietor or person in charge of any dance house, concert saloon, theater, museum or similar place of amusement, where wines or spirituous or malt liquors are sold or given away, knowingly admits or permits to remain therein any minor under the age of 18 years, unless accompanied by a parent or guardian.

Unlawfully dealing with a child is a class B misdemeanor.

§ 1112A. Sexual solicitation of a child; class C felony.

(a) A person is guilty of sexual solicitation of a child if the person, being 18 years of age or older, intentionally or knowingly:

(1) Solicits, requests, commands, importunes or otherwise attempts to cause any child who has not yet reached that child's eighteenth birthday to engage in a prohibited sexual act; or

(2) Solicits, requests, commands, importunes or otherwise attempts to cause any child who has not yet reached that child's sixteenth birthday to meet with such person or any other person for the purpose of engaging in a prohibited sexual act; or

(3) Compiles, enters, accesses, transmits, receives, exchanges, disseminates, stores, makes, prints, reproduces or otherwise possesses by any means, including by means of computer, any notice, statement, document, advertisement, file or data containing the name, telephone number, address, e-mail address, school address or location, physical characteristics or other descriptive or identifying information pertaining to any child who has not yet reached that child's sixteenth birthday for the purpose of facilitating, encouraging, offering or soliciting a prohibited sexual act involving such child and such person or any other person.

(b) For the purposes of this section, conduct occurring outside the State shall be sufficient to constitute this offense if such conduct is within the terms of § 204 of this title, or if the child was within the State at the time of the prohibited conduct and the defendant was aware of circumstances which rendered the presence of such child within Delaware a reasonable possibility.

(c) Sexual solicitation of a child is a class C felony.

(d) Nothing in this section shall preclude a separate charge, conviction and sentence for any other crime set forth in this title, or in the Delaware Code.
In a nutshell, the above poster doesn't even know HOW to look up the statutes....and you are playing with some pretty strong laws....
 
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cbg

I'm a Northern Girl
And I will remind him of what I told him in the other thread he's attempting to use to justify his position - not all applicable charges are sex charges.
 

cyjeff

Senior Member
So you suggest we don't educate them on safe sex?? very interesting point of view.
This is a legal site.

You gave grossly incorrect LEGAL advice. Just because you threw in a "Condoms are your friend" PSA at the end doesn't change the fact that you were, again....

Completely...

Utterly...

and, Dangerously (from a legal standpoint) WRONG.

We are not here to educate them on safe sex... in fact, that was NO part of the question whatsoever. Just because you think you found a nugget of value in a completely under researched and incorrect post doesn't justify your actions a single bit.

Again... read more, talk less.
 

quincy

Senior Member
Advising teenagers to practice safe sex is NOT advising them to have sex, nor is it an advisory given teens by pedophiles. It is wise advice given by responsible and educated adults to children, adults who recognize the very real fact that teenagers HAVE sex, whether the adults wish it or not. And kids in high school range in age from 14 to 18 - it is not unheard of for a freshman to date a junior or senior in high school. These are not adults dating children. These are children dating children.
 
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cbg

I'm a Northern Girl
An 18 year old is legally an adult whether they are still in high school or not.
 

quincy

Senior Member
Well, in cyjeff's cites above, Delaware defines a child as "any individual 18 years of age or less." ;)
 

cyjeff

Senior Member
Advising teenagers to practice safe sex is NOT advising them to have sex, nor is it an advisory given teens by pedophiles. It is wise advice given by responsible and educated adults to children, adults who recognize the very real fact that teenagers HAVE sex, whether the adults wish it or not. And kids in high school range in age from 14 to 18 - it is not unheard of for a freshman to date a junior or senior in high school. These are not adults dating children. These are children dating children.
We are off on a tangent.

The question was not whether or not the sword should be sheathed, but, instead, what legal issues could be involved with an adult having a relationship... a physical relationship... with a child.

For the record, I have had the sword talk with my own 17 year old child... but that was not the question asked.

Next are we going to be giving advice on the dangers of mixing stripes and plaids?
 

quincy

Senior Member
Correction, cyjeff:

The questions asked by mysolarsailor were about what legal issues could be involved with an 18 year old child having a relationship with a 16, almost 17 year old child. The two children will be a year apart in age in two months. Read again the Delaware definition of "child" that you quoted.

My earlier post was in response to a post (or two) that have since been deleted. And plaids and stripes can be worn together if they are chosen carefully and worn with confidence.
 

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