Violent mother in law

[Alex1176]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
My MIL (mother in law) living with me, my pregnant wife and my 8 months son. In the last weeks MIL became very aggressive and we have several light physical fights. But in the last fight she treat to break the PC monitor on my head and also to kill me. Also she threw a big office chair on me. I left the house today and now I'm in a motel.
I did not call the police because I am 35 Y.O. man, she is 60 Y.O. woman and nobody will believe me that she is the "crazy" one, and so they can arrest me instead of her. I have a good job and a criminal record will kill my career and my dreams to became a Citizen (i am new in this great country).
What do you think i can do? Does getting a restraining order against her can be realistic? Do you think they will believe me? Or they working with the attitude that if you are a young man and she is old woman, you are always "the bad" one?
I am really don't know how it works and i don't want troubles. Thank you.

 

[Banned_Princess]

in this situation its just best if you guys dont live together.

Just dont live with her, and your conflict problem will be solved.

Your welcome.

 

[Alex1176]

in this situation its just best if you guys dont live together.

Just dont live with her, and your conflict problem will be solved.

Your welcome.

Thank you for your advice, Princess. I'm just looking for the best way to do it with the less loss for all of us. I think that Temporary RO will be the best way, but i don't know if the court will believe me, because my age and gender against her age and gender.

 

[Banned_Princess]

Ok, Why, if you want the least "loss" for all of you, which I take to mean the least emotional stress ( Correct me if I am wrong ) then you wont pursue this in court.

If you get a restraining order depending on the type, you guys cant live together anyway, so it would be the most least problem and stress on every single person just to move you and your girl and your children into your own place.

And if you do get the restrain from (no abuse) order of protection, are you going to pull it on her and send her to jail?

For that you might as well have her daughter have her evaluated and comitted to a hospital until she gets her self under control.

If you make a complaint to the police, they will believe you if its true, plus your babys mother will give the same version of events wont she?

What do you want exactly.

 

[Alex1176]

Ok, Why, if you want the least "loss" for all of you, which I take to mean the least emotional stress ( Correct me if I am wrong ) then you wont pursue this in court.

If you get a restraining order depending on the type, you guys cant live together anyway, so it would be the most least problem and stress on every single person just to move you and your girl and your children into your own place.

And if you do get the restrain from (no abuse) order of protection, are you going to pull it on her and send her to jail?

For that you might as well have her daughter have her evaluated and comitted to a hospital until she gets her self under control.

If you make a complaint to the police, they will believe you if its true, plus your babys mother will give the same version of events wont she?

What do you want exactly.

I want this crazy woman out of the house. I'm afraid that in the next time she will attack me physically, the situation will go out of control and somebody will get hurts. You know how to start a fight but you never know how it ends.
Also, this is not her house. We all live in a rented house that I paying for. And yes, if she will not obey the TRO, i will put her in jail. I just don't know if they are going to believe me.
And i'm really not sure that my wife will give the same version, because nobody wants her mom in jail.
Again, thank you for your advices.

 

[Banned_Princess]

I want this crazy woman out of the house.

It is best if you wait until another occurrence, then call 911 immediately.

I'm afraid that in the next time she will attack me physically, the situation will go out of control and somebody will get hurts. You know how to start a fight but you never know how it ends.

Well, if you are afraid of the old woman, tell the police that. when you call 911 when she is attacking you.

Also, this is not her house. We all live in a rented house that I paying for. And yes, if she will not obey the TRO, i will put her in jail. I just don't know if they are going to believe me.

Next time it gets even vaguely violent, call the police right away from your fight, so the 911 operator can get a feel for the aggressor. then they will come, decide what to do, and you can get a restraining order from there. any earlier might get you no results.

And i'm really not sure the my wife will give the same version, because nobody wants her mom in jail.

Well then do it the last way I said. just go about your business, make it known to your MIL And wife that you will call the police next time, they will believe you and you will pursue all options the law will provide you.

then do it.

 

[Isis1]

OP, i'm going to be honest with you. If your wife is not willing to stand by you to protect you, you may have to look at separation as an option. This enviorment is not good for the child. And you are endorsing her behavior by not acting on it. It only gets worse.

 

[Alex1176]

It is best if you wait until another occurrence, then call 911 immediately.




Well, if you are afraid of the old woman, tell the police that. when you call 911 when she is attacking you.




Next time it gets even vaguely violent, call the police right away from your fight, so the 911 operator can get a feel for the aggressor. then they will come, decide what to do, and you can get a restraining order from there. any earlier might get you no results.



Well then do it the last way I said. just go about your business, make it known to your MIL And wife that you will call the police next time, they will believe you and you will pursue all options the law will provide you.

then do it.

I don't think that i'm going to take the risk. She is crazy when she is violent and my possible reaction can put ME in jail or having me paying a lot of money that i don't have to lawyers to prove that i'm not a camel. So, i'm not coming home until she is out, and at Monday I will go to court to try to issue the TRO.

 

[Banned_Princess]

Good luck then Sir.

 

[Alex1176]

Good luck then Sir.

Thank you for your time.