What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IL
I havebeen divorced for over 2 years, have 2 minor children (10 and 6), and work 2 jobs. Ex lives about 45 minutes away, has not worked in 2 years. First off, sorry if this is long!
We have joint legal custody, so he is supposed to be involved in decisions. I have residential custody, he now only sees kids every other Stauday to Sunday.
When we got divorced, My kids and I moved to my parents' home for about 1 1/2 years. During the first year, they didn't charge anything for childcare. However, it became more cumbersome, as the economy is down and they are both retired. So I agreed to pay them $120 per week for fulltime care. During this time, they took the kids to doctor's appointments, dentist, pool, etc. Ex did not participate in any childcare whatsoever. Also, when first divorced, he was out of work. He refused to care for our youngest (who was not in school at the time) unless I drove to his home, an hour away, every morning and evening, so he could do the "favor" of watching her. 2 years later, my parents could no lomger care for the kids. At this point, I had moved into my own home and had to find new daycare. I mentioned it in court prior to the change, and he offered no help or alternatives. So now they have been in new daycare for 4 months.
Ex is stating that since he was not involved in finding daycare, he doesn't have to reimburse his court-ordered 1/2 for this or any that I had to pay my parents (because he did not sign a "contract" with the, - it was ok when it was free, though!)
Also, he states that I have violated decree by him not being consulted.
The new daycare listed the name, address, phone on receipts which I have emailed (to which he did not respond or contact her at all). Any validity to his claims?
He is doing the same with medical care. I have been emailing about visits to drs, when my son needed x-rays, when daughter needed an MRI for headaches, etc. All of these were prescribed by the pediatrician. He actually complained to the judge that I was scheduling appointments during his time and that he did not want to take them! Can he refuse to pay these and state that I violated the decree because the visits were recommended by primary dr and I did what dr said?
Any advice is greatly welcome!
I havebeen divorced for over 2 years, have 2 minor children (10 and 6), and work 2 jobs. Ex lives about 45 minutes away, has not worked in 2 years. First off, sorry if this is long!
We have joint legal custody, so he is supposed to be involved in decisions. I have residential custody, he now only sees kids every other Stauday to Sunday.
When we got divorced, My kids and I moved to my parents' home for about 1 1/2 years. During the first year, they didn't charge anything for childcare. However, it became more cumbersome, as the economy is down and they are both retired. So I agreed to pay them $120 per week for fulltime care. During this time, they took the kids to doctor's appointments, dentist, pool, etc. Ex did not participate in any childcare whatsoever. Also, when first divorced, he was out of work. He refused to care for our youngest (who was not in school at the time) unless I drove to his home, an hour away, every morning and evening, so he could do the "favor" of watching her. 2 years later, my parents could no lomger care for the kids. At this point, I had moved into my own home and had to find new daycare. I mentioned it in court prior to the change, and he offered no help or alternatives. So now they have been in new daycare for 4 months.
Ex is stating that since he was not involved in finding daycare, he doesn't have to reimburse his court-ordered 1/2 for this or any that I had to pay my parents (because he did not sign a "contract" with the, - it was ok when it was free, though!)
Also, he states that I have violated decree by him not being consulted.
The new daycare listed the name, address, phone on receipts which I have emailed (to which he did not respond or contact her at all). Any validity to his claims?
He is doing the same with medical care. I have been emailing about visits to drs, when my son needed x-rays, when daughter needed an MRI for headaches, etc. All of these were prescribed by the pediatrician. He actually complained to the judge that I was scheduling appointments during his time and that he did not want to take them! Can he refuse to pay these and state that I violated the decree because the visits were recommended by primary dr and I did what dr said?
Any advice is greatly welcome!
