stealth2
Under the Radar Member
There are any number of non-drinking activities available, especially at a school not in the sticks (and even there). My son is a college freshman; he doesn't drink. Somehow, he has no problem finding activities - on and off campus - any day of the week that don't involve drinking.I applaud your decision to stay away from drinking. It's possible - and a lot of people do it and even have a good time (being drunk isn't a lot of fun at all, especially considering the consequences of being sick, hungover, or even pregnant or worse). But, ultimately, you are likely to find yourself in the presence of alcohol so you will be tempted - and there's always a risk of consequences. I would try very hard to find alternate activities. Have an alcohol-free party in your dorm room. Get a bunch of people together to go see a movie. Volunteer for Big Brothers/Big Sisters. Whatever.
I have to agree with this, too. My son didn't go to a lot of parties in HS because he wasn't willing to risk losing opportunities based on others drinking. My daughter takes her chances because her friends do drink, and she feels someone has to be responsible. I've had plenty of late-night calls to come and pick them all up because the girls have gotten stupid drunk. And no - I'm not deluding myself. But it seems a shame that she could be penalized for doing the right thing and being the "designated driver", as it were.I understand the recent efforts by law enforcement to crack down on underage drinking, but IMHO, they've gone too far. When a kid can be penalized for making the right decision NOT to drink simply because there are other people drinking, I think it's a mistake. Not to mention the entire premise that college kids are old enough to fight for their country and get shot at and bombed militarily, but not get bombed in their dorm rooms. But, unfortunately, I don't make the rules.