Accussed of Child Abuse by School Counselor

[stealth2]

The one thing that hits me is how much the OP dislikes her own daughter.

Uuuh... perhaps you missed that OP is a guy? Way to make assumptions. DAD is the one being "accussed". (Is it just me, or does anyone else find it sad that a member of the School Board can't be bothered to spell check?)

 

[CdwJava]

Actually the counselor did NOT respond appropriately and properly and should lose his job. Why? Because he did NOT contact Children's Protective Services/CSB or what with the allegations of abuse so that they could do an investigation. INSTEAD, this counselor called the wife. Wrong move. And quite frankly NOT the legally mandated one. So in actuality the counselor did something that PROTECTS the OP rather than the child.

To be fair, we do not know that CPS was not contacted. A referral may have been sent their way. In my state, we don't broadcast these contacts and it is likely the same in the OP's state also.

 

[PQN]

Iowa Standards for Making a Report
Citation: Ann. Stat. §§ 232.69; 728.14

A report is required when:
A reporter, in the scope of his or her professional practice or employment responsibilities, reasonably believes that a child has been abused.
A commercial film and photographic print processor has knowledge of or observes a film, photograph, videotape, negative, or slide that depicts a minor engaged in a prohibited sexual act or in the simulation of a prohibited sexual act.

Even a mandated reporter isn't required to report every whining complaint of a child. They are required to report when they have 'reasonable belief' that a child has been abused.


Based on the fact that OP says that they are having other issues with their daughter, he should get her into counseling immediately.

 

[mistoffolees]

Iowa Standards for Making a Report
Citation: Ann. Stat. §§ 232.69; 728.14

A report is required when:
A reporter, in the scope of his or her professional practice or employment responsibilities, reasonably believes that a child has been abused.
A commercial film and photographic print processor has knowledge of or observes a film, photograph, videotape, negative, or slide that depicts a minor engaged in a prohibited sexual act or in the simulation of a prohibited sexual act.

Even a mandated reporter isn't required to report every whining complaint of a child. They are required to report when they have 'reasonable belief' that a child has been abused..

You are correct that the counselor would only be required to report it if he believes the complaint is reasonably likely to be true.

However, given "posted 2 separate triads stating how I have hung her over a wall by her hair, twisted her arm and beat her", I would think that a reasonable thing to do would have been to at least have it investigated.

Furthermore, why did the counselor call MOM and not the person who was accused?

 

[LdiJ]

Iowa Standards for Making a Report
Citation: Ann. Stat. §§ 232.69; 728.14

A report is required when:
A reporter, in the scope of his or her professional practice or employment responsibilities, reasonably believes that a child has been abused.
A commercial film and photographic print processor has knowledge of or observes a film, photograph, videotape, negative, or slide that depicts a minor engaged in a prohibited sexual act or in the simulation of a prohibited sexual act.

You are correct that the counselor would only be required to report it if he believes the complaint is reasonably likely to be true.

However, given "posted 2 separate triads stating how I have hung her over a wall by her hair, twisted her arm and beat her", I would think that a reasonable thing to do would have been to at least have it investigated.

Furthermore, why did the counselor call MOM and not the person who was accused?

Maybe because the counselor was uncertain that it was true and hoped that mom would give him a clue or hint regarding that? I would think that a school counselor would not be allowed to contact the actual accused. He technically might not have been supposed to call mom either, but I could see a school counselor doing that if they were uncertain.

I know that when my daughter was elementary school (which was some years back of course since she is almost 23 now) there was a whole procedure that had to be followed and one thing they absolutely were not allowed to do was to warn the parents in any way that CPS was being called.

 

[mistoffolees]

Maybe because the counselor was uncertain that it was true and hoped that mom would give him a clue or hint regarding that? I would think that a school counselor would not be allowed to contact the actual accused. He technically might not have been supposed to call mom either, but I could see a school counselor doing that if they were uncertain.

That doesn't follow logically. If the counselor thought there was enough merit to call Mom instead of Dad, then he would have been obligated to report it.

If he thought there was not enough merit to report it, then there would have been no reason to call Mom rather than Dad.