Trying to strip my parental rights

[Just Blue]

My name is not on the birth certificate, so no I couldn't do much of anything. They don't even let me know where the child is going to school at. The GAL asked me that and I told her they don't provide me any info at all as is expected of a custodial parent.

Its high time that I get legal custody and start knowing whats going on. Also, my attorney says we can avoid reintegration if we can prove that the child has a relationship with my parents.

I understand paying support doesn't guarantee anything buy they can't accuse me of dead beat if I pay regularly.

Why didn't you have your name placed on the child BC?

 

[Proserpina]

My name is not on the birth certificate, so no I couldn't do much of anything. They don't even let me know where the child is going to school at. The GAL asked me that and I told her they don't provide me any info at all as is expected of a custodial parent.

Its high time that I get legal custody and start knowing whats going on. Also, my attorney says we can avoid reintegration if we can prove that the child has a relationship with my parents.

I understand paying support doesn't guarantee anything buy they can't accuse me of dead beat if I pay regularly.

That is HIGHLY unlikely.

A relationship with your parents - legal strangers - is NOT the same as a relationship with you.

You ARE looking at reintegration (assuming your rights are not terminated).

 

[CJane]

That is HIGHLY unlikely.

A relationship with your parents - legal strangers - is NOT the same as a relationship with you.

You ARE looking at reintegration (assuming your rights are not terminated).

Anyone want to place a wager on whether OP or his parents are the driving force behind the sudden desire to have a relationship with the previously ignored child?

Betcha no one cared at all til Mom decided the child needed an actual father.

 

[Proserpina]

Anyone want to place a wager on whether OP or his parents are the driving force behind the sudden desire to have a relationship with the previously ignored child?

Betcha no one cared at all til Mom decided the child needed an actual father.

Sigh...I think you're right.

 

[majomom1]

Sigh...I think you're right.

Me too...

 

[Sparco23]

Yes it is indeed very important to my parents because if I lose my parental rights they would be cut out for sure.

But also remember that I drove 8 hours to show up and contest the adoption. My attorney said the very fact I showed up demonstrates a strong interest in the child.

Combine that with the ample child support I've provided (306 per month for over 4 years), and you can see I am a fit parent.

I think the stepparent will have a rude awakening when I show up to parent MY child and let the child know that his last name is moms maiden name, not dads last name. By law, his last name will always need to be moms maiden name.

Also, I intend to gain joint legal and force her to add my name to the birth certificate.

 

[AHA]

Yes it is indeed very important to my parents because if I lose my parental rights they would be cut out for sure.

But also remember that I drove 8 hours to show up and contest the adoption. My attorney said the very fact I showed up demonstrates a strong interest in the child.

Combine that with the ample child support I've provided (306 per month for over 4 years), and you can see I am a fit parent.

I think the stepparent will have a rude awakening when I show up to parent MY child and let the child know that his last name is moms maiden name, not dads last name. By law, his last name will always need to be moms maiden name.

Also, I intend to gain joint legal and force her to add my name to the birth certificate.

Too bad you can't even manage to answer simple questions.

 

[WittyUserName]

Yes it is indeed very important to my parents because if I lose my parental rights they would be cut out for sure.

But also remember that I drove 8 hours to show up and contest the adoption. My attorney said the very fact I showed up demonstrates a strong interest in the child.

Combine that with the ample child support I've provided (306 per month for over 4 years), and you can see I am a fit parent.

I think the stepparent will have a rude awakening when I show up to parent MY child and let the child know that his last name is moms maiden name, not dads last name. By law, his last name will always need to be moms maiden name.

Also, I intend to gain joint legal and force her to add my name to the birth certificate.

If you've been paying support, you are legally this child's father. Why would Mom need to be "forced" to add your name? Why didn't you just do it yourself?

And don't pat yourself on the back too hard. One eight hour drive does not a parent make.

 

[Isis1]

Oh good grief. You can't force mom to do a darn thing. The courts can order the name be added to the birth certificate, and you can walk your fancy butt to the courthouse and add it yourself.

And why is your parents having a relationship with YOUR child more important than YOU having a relationship with your child? Hmmmmmm?

 

[Sparco23]

First of all, I can answer any questions. I'm not embarressed by anything.

I can force mom to give me info about school and other things about the child. mom WILL have to communicate with me.

The whole reason I am upset by this is because she basically took a ton of money for me over the last 4 years, and now all a sudden she doesn't want my money and wants to cut me out.

 

[AbbaDabba730]

Yes it is indeed very important to my parents because if I lose my parental rights they would be cut out for sure.

But also remember that I drove 8 hours to show up and contest the adoption. My attorney said the very fact I showed up demonstrates a strong interest in the child.

Combine that with the ample child support I've provided (306 per month for over 4 years), and you can see I am a fit parent.

I think the stepparent will have a rude awakening when I show up to parent MY child and let the child know that his last name is moms maiden name, not dads last name. By law, his last name will always need to be moms maiden name.

Also, I intend to gain joint legal and force her to add my name to the birth certificate.

This seems so similar to the behaviour of dogs marking their property...

 

[AbbaDabba730]

First of all, I can answer any questions. I'm not embarressed by anything.

I can force mom to give me info about school and other things about the child. mom WILL have to communicate with me.

The whole reason I am upset by this is because she basically took a ton of money for me over the last 4 years, and now all a sudden she doesn't want my money and wants to cut me out.

How old is the child?
When was the last time YOU saw the child?
When was teh last time YOU made any atttempt at contact?

 

[Isis1]

First of all, I can answer any questions. I'm not embarressed by anything.

I can force mom to give me info about school and other things about the child. mom WILL have to communicate with me.

The whole reason I am upset by this is because she basically took a ton of money for me over the last 4 years, and now all a sudden she doesn't want my money and wants to cut me out.

No you can't. You have no authority to force mom to do anything.

 

[AHA]

First of all, I can answer any questions.

Apparently not.

 

[Sparco23]

How old is the child?
When was the last time YOU saw the child?
When was teh last time YOU made any atttempt at contact?

Child is 6. I originally told the GAL the child was 7 on accident.

I saw the child summer of 2008 when he visited my dad.

The last time I attempted contact was 2005 when the child was 1. I've been unable to attempt contact since then because mom moved far away from me. She also didn't give her number to me, I requested her number at the child support hearing but she told the judge "it was a luxery she couldn't afford at the time". She gave her work number.

I'm not calling the work number, its the child I want to talk to and I know the child is not at work.

The GAL is very rude to me and was very short during our conversation. Its a good thing she isn't the judge.