Legal Daddy :)

[Nicaho]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IN

Got results back in court today and I am 99.999% the Pappy!!!!

Prosecutor asked if I wanted the baby to keep moms last name and I said no. Asked her if she was willing to hyphenate the two and she said no. Went back in front of the judge and my daughter was given my last name and her moms last name stayed but as a second middle name.

Mom is to follow the Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines, which is what I wanted from the beginning, but mom seemed to think I deserved or would get less than the time stated in there. I already sense some hesitation from mom on some of that, so I see going back to court sometime in the near future.

I was told I could start seeing and take the baby on my own right away but I told them and mom that I would wait 2-3 weeks so that my daughter could get familiar with me again after going 3 months with only seeing her once.

I am very happy with the way things have turned out so far. I know it is still a long road ahead but now that I am legally a father and I have my daughter back in my life, that is all that matters at this time!!!!!!!

Thanks again to all those that helped and supported along the way

 

[liandrajade]

YAY!!!!!!!!!!! I am very happy for you daddy!!! Its nice to see a parent stick up and be a parent, not easy to do. Well big hugs and good luck!!

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

I suggest a calendar with the weekends marked in blue and pink accordingly. The same with the holidays. Have a copy for both you and mom.

Log your time according to how well it is followed.

Remember that communication with the both of you will be key to good parenting.

 

[mistoffolees]

Congrats and good luck.

 

[CourtClerk]

One more child has a dad and that's a wonderful thing.

Congrats to both of you.

 

[Antigone*]

I suggest a calendar with the weekends marked in blue and pink accordingly. The same with the holidays. Have a copy for both you and mom.

Log your time according to how well it is followed.

Remember that communication with the both of you will be key to good parenting.

Very good suggestions.

Remember one more thing dad. True love toward your baby will mean that you will co-parent and never disrespect or degrade mom in such a way that baby ever has a way of finding out. Do and say whatever you want out of frustration and anger in a locked soundproof room, but never let it be made public. A man with such honor and integrity will certainly never fail as a father.

 

[Frank"TJ"Mackey]

Congratulations to you and your child!

 

[Nicaho]

Very good suggestions.

Remember one more thing dad. True love toward your baby will mean that you will co-parent and never disrespect or degrade mom in such a way that baby ever has a way of finding out. Do and say whatever you want out of frustration and anger in a locked soundproof room, but never let it be made public. A man with such honor and integrity will certainly never fail as a father.

Somethings I hear along the way in life just stick with me. This is one of those things Thank you for this!

 

[Nevergrowup]

I was told I could start seeing and take the baby on my own right away but I told them and mom that I would wait 2-3 weeks so that my daughter could get familiar with me again after going 3 months with only seeing her once.

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I really, really like you.

That just shows you care about your daughter more than what you want, and I think that is a great start to a great future as a wonderful father.

And please, take EVERY SINGLE visit you are due. Let mom get comfortable with this and perhaps it will be easier in the future. The first time you ask her to keep the baby for you is the first time she says "See! I knew it!"

 

[LdiJ]

Nicaho,

I recommend that you read the IPTG several times, all the way through, to make sure that you are very familiar with them. Some parts of them can be confusing, so the more thoroughly you read through them, the better your understanding will be.

I am very impressed that you recognize that your daughter needs to get to know you again and that you are willing to be flexible at the beginning. I recommend that you do a shortened version of the phases until you catch up to where you would normally be at this time.

 

[Nicaho]

It's been 5 months and things are going great! Haven't been on this site in awhile but just stopped by to check things out.

I see my daughter usually 3 times a week unless I happen to work late one day. But mom has been pretty good at giving me some extra time.

I guess I have a question:

My new gf moved in and she has a 3yo daughter and 11 month old son who is 2 weeks younger than my daughter. I still don't get over nights and I dont know when I will. I think with IPTG I can after 9 months of continuous visits which would mean in May when my daughter is 16 months old. I guess my question is if there is a right way to go about asking mom if I can have them any earlier. I have plenty of experience now not only with my daughter but with an infant at home every night.

I've waited out so much already and I know I can wait to get over nights but just the thought of waking up to her is just something I dream about

Anyways, so far so good and hopefully things stay smooth with mom but after reading a bunch on here it doesn't always work the way you think or hope. But if not I will be back for more help from the pros!

 

[CJane]

My advice? Let it ride. The IPTG are there for a reason, and if Mom is following them, allowing you extra time, etc, why would you rock that boat?

Does Mom know that GF and kids have moved in?

 

[Nevergrowup]

If you do approach mom about it, I wouldn't use the argument that you take care of your girlfriend's baby so you know how to do it. That is bound to make mom defensive and just remind her that her child with you will then be around another woman and her kids much more.

I agree with CJane, don't rock the boat.

 

[Nicaho]

Thanks for the advice! That's why I come here I'll just wait it out and those over nights will be here before I know it.

 

[stepmom4ever]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IN

Got results back in court today and I am 99.999% the Pappy!!!!

Prosecutor asked if I wanted the baby to keep moms last name and I said no. Asked her if she was willing to hyphenate the two and she said no. Went back in front of the judge and my daughter was given my last name and her moms last name stayed but as a second middle name.

Mom is to follow the Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines, which is what I wanted from the beginning, but mom seemed to think I deserved or would get less than the time stated in there. I already sense some hesitation from mom on some of that, so I see going back to court sometime in the near future.

I was told I could start seeing and take the baby on my own right away but I told them and mom that I would wait 2-3 weeks so that my daughter could get familiar with me again after going 3 months with only seeing her once.

I am very happy with the way things have turned out so far. I know it is still a long road ahead but now that I am legally a father and I have my daughter back in my life, that is all that matters at this time!!!!!!!

Thanks again to all those that helped and supported along the way

You should have married the women you slept with in order for her child to have your last name...why do you want it anyway, the child dosen't live iwth you...you're not married to the mother. You just screwed the mom and left her. You acting all goodie, good now...WAIT until years from now....you wont have any interest in your child...due to the children you already have with your new girlfriend that's not yours anyway.....