Mom who wants pregnant minor back home

[krazyfish6]

I live in Greenville County, South Carolina. My 17 year old daughter is 5 1/2 months pregnant and ran away from home to live with the baby's father who is 22. That only lasted 3 days before they got into a horrible fight and she moved in with a friend from school and her mother. Initially, I wanted to report her as a runaway, but wanted to give her some time to think about things and made her a deal. If her grades were not acceptable (if she failed ANY of her classes), she MUST return home. Well, her report card came in. 2 D's, 1 C, and an F! On top of that, she misses school for no reason and now, her insurance expired and her OB doctor won't see her. She was informed in Dec about her insurance info needing to be updated and this woman she stays with was aware of it also, but due to her irresponsibility and lack of income, my daughter is without prenatal care. They both swear that her legal right is to stay there. She won't be 18 until November 2011, and has no means of supporting herself so I doubt an emancipation would be approved, which she thinks she legally doesn't need to do that to stay there.This woman also refuses to make her move back home. I want her to move back home, but I really need to know my rights before I end up alienating my daughter and risking not being able to be part of my grand daughter's life. Please help me!What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? SC

 

[Zigner]

I live in Greenville County, South Carolina. My 17 year old daughter is 5 1/2 months pregnant and ran away from home to live with the baby's father who is 22. That only lasted 3 days before they got into a horrible fight and she moved in with a friend from school and her mother. Initially, I wanted to report her as a runaway, but wanted to give her some time to think about things and made her a deal. If her grades were not acceptable (if she failed ANY of her classes), she MUST return home. Well, her report card came in. 2 D's, 1 C, and an F! On top of that, she misses school for no reason and now, her insurance expired and her OB doctor won't see her. She was informed in Dec about her insurance info needing to be updated and this woman she stays with was aware of it also, but due to her irresponsibility and lack of income, my daughter is without prenatal care. They both swear that her legal right is to stay there. She won't be 18 until November 2011, and has no means of supporting herself so I doubt an emancipation would be approved, which she thinks she legally doesn't need to do that to stay there.This woman also refuses to make her move back home. I want her to move back home, but I really need to know my rights before I end up alienating my daughter and risking not being able to be part of my grand daughter's life. Please help me!What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? SC

It's a bit late for that. Otherwise, she wouldn't have left in the first place.

 

[krazyfish6]

Pregnant teen

My daughter was not living with me at the time she ran away. She was living with her grandparents. The reason she left there was to move in with the baby's father who is 22 yrs old. She was 16 when she got pregnant and lied to her grandparents about the age of the boy. When we all found out the age of the boy, we put an end- or tried to keep her from seeing him. Her grandparents also wanted her to consider giving the baby up for adoption. This is what caused her to move out of their house. She ended up skipping school to go hang out with him. The day of her 17th birthday, she never came home from school. My mother called me and I started hunting down my daughter. I found her living with her boyfriend which only lasted a few days, before they got into a terrible fight. She came to my house and wanted to stay with a friend for a short time until we got the spare bedroom ready for her. She has refused to come home and this woman is trying to take over as her mother!!!!!!

 

[Zigner]

My daughter was not living with me at the time she ran away. She was living with her grandparents. The reason she left there was to move in with the baby's father who is 22 yrs old. She was 16 when she got pregnant and lied to her grandparents about the age of the boy. When we all found out the age of the boy, we put an end- or tried to keep her from seeing him. Her grandparents also wanted her to consider giving the baby up for adoption. This is what caused her to move out of their house. She ended up skipping school to go hang out with him. The day of her 17th birthday, she never came home from school. My mother called me and I started hunting down my daughter. I found her living with her boyfriend which only lasted a few days, before they got into a terrible fight. She came to my house and wanted to stay with a friend for a short time until we got the spare bedroom ready for her. She has refused to come home and this woman is trying to take over as her mother!!!!!!

Why was she living with the grandparents?

 

[stealth2]

Thank you for not making me ask that, Zig!

 

[CdwJava]

Apparently, you have not been acting in the role of mom/guardian for some time. Now, you want to take on that role?

It is a tragedy that your daughter has decided to hook up with an older guy and get pregnant. Now she will be forced to grow up too fast, and she will be stuck raising a child on her own with a guy that will probably only barely be involved.

Have you contacted the police and asked them to accompany you to the house so that you can take custody of your child?