20 year old dating 16 year old

[Mar606]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ

The guy is 20 years old and the girl is 16.....

Her parents approve and his do not.....I know they can date as in hanging out situation???? What draws the line of the 20 yo getting in trouble? I believe anyone can report a situation if they know he is a adult and she is a minor but what do they have to see.....making out, kissing, petting......I heard any touching is against the law and just because her parents are letting her date it does not mean he can be suxual or have intercourse with her???? (do not believe intercourse has happened yet and his parents are wanting to stop this and get through to him) Can someone make this clear to me of the law and at what point in touching is it crossing the line, I am having a hard time getting through to both sides about the situation. WHY WHY WHY would parents let a 16 year old date a 20 year old**************a war is about to start over this because every one think they know, the 20 year old seems to thinki if her parents let her date him, then its ok???? His parents are very upset and heart broken that these parents have made him think all is well when his parents know it is not so I am trying to help clarify the situation so they can talk some sence into him, they are very shocked he is even in this siutuation since I know they have always preached these matters to him, communication was always good until now.
Thank you

 

[Indiana Filer]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ

The guy is 20 years old and the girl is 16.....

Well, first of all, he's an adult, so you (and his parents) need to back off.

 

[Mar606]

Really?

ok turn it around if some 20 year old wanted date your 16 year old daughter who is still in high school would you back off???? or would you want your 20 year of son to be dating a 16 year old????? There should be a law for her parents who letting this continue, they do not care about the 16 year old welfare. We are trying to stop a situation in which the 20 year old is being told its all okay by her parents, he seems to think "just because they love each other and she's different" the law is not being broken she is a minor no matter how you look at it, and from what I understand anyone can report him, teacher, friend and so on**************and if he is an ADULT then he needs to start acting like one and and grow up. This can cause him to loose everything and his parents do not want this to happen**************..im seeking this information for him also because he seems to think different.

 

[Just Blue]

ok turn it around if some 20 year old wanted date your 16 year old daughter who is still in high school would you back off???? or would you want your 20 year of son to be dating a 16 year old????? There should be a law for her parents who letting this continue, they do not care about the 16 year old welfare. We are trying to stop a situation in which the 20 year old is being told its all okay by her parents, he seems to think "just because they love each other and she's different" the law is not being broken she is a minor no matter how you look at it, and from what I understand anyone can report him, teacher, friend and so on**************and if he is an ADULT then he needs to start acting like one and and grow up. This can cause him to loose everything and his parents do not want this to happen**************..im seeking this information for him also because he seems to think different.

Who are you in this situation??

 

[mistoffolees]

ok turn it around if some 20 year old wanted date your 16 year old daughter who is still in high school would you back off???? or would you want your 20 year of son to be dating a 16 year old????? There should be a law for her parents who letting this continue, they do not care about the 16 year old welfare. We are trying to stop a situation in which the 20 year old is being told its all okay by her parents, he seems to think "just because they love each other and she's different" the law is not being broken she is a minor no matter how you look at it, and from what I understand anyone can report him, teacher, friend and so on**************and if he is an ADULT then he needs to start acting like one and and grow up. This can cause him to loose everything and his parents do not want this to happen**************..im seeking this information for him also because he seems to think different.

I don't think you made it clear who you are, so let me spell it out:

If you're the parent of the 16 year old, you can tell her to stay home and not go out with him.

If you are not a parent of the 16 year old, you are not involved.

 

[stealth2]

Google is your friend. I'll even give you a hint - "age of consent".

However, there is a HUGE difference between just hanging out dating and having sex dating. I've told my 19yo son that he needs to be very careful what he does with any girl under 18. However, I can't stop him from doing as he pleases (just hope that he's listened to me). But I've also allowed my 16yo to date a friend of his who is a year older. But they were hanging out dating.

In any event - this is none of your business.

 

[Mar606]

I have my info

I have my info and for all who want to know I am the sister of the mother of the 20 year old and we was looking for the information....thanks

We wont sit here and let a young man go down the wrong road that is what is wrong with some who think just because they are adults they make good choices and parents who set back and let it happen, yes he will do what he may but at least we are trying to make him understand he is messing with fire and what the out come will be if he continues**************..I believe letting an 16 year old girl date an adult is insane regarless if you think they are not playing around more than often they are right under your nose. A 16 year old is still in high school and has a lot to look forward to before becoming an adult why would you let an adult take that away from her? This is not only thinking about him but for her sake....its not like he can go to prom or homecoming with her and there are many tiny and big steps that she is going to take before becoming an adult, he has no right coming between these things being an adult who has gone through these stages and has been to college already. My sister does not need a prego 16 year to deal with on her hands either since he may be a father to his last girlfriends baby, who is of age, he has know right bringing a young girl into that either. We have a right we are family so thanks for no information, I got it anyway from a lawyer, who he may need after all is said and done.

 

[stealth2]

I have my info and for all who want to know I am the sister of the mother of the 20 year old and we was looking for the information....thanks

We wont sit here and let a young man go down the wrong road that is what is wrong with some who think just because they are adults they make good choices and parents who set back and let it happen, yes he will do what he may but at least we are trying to make him understand he is messing with fire and what the out come will be if he continues**************..I believe letting an 16 year old girl date an adult is insane regarless if you think they are not playing around more than often they are right under your nose. A 16 year old is still in high school and has a lot to look forward to before becoming an adult why would you let an adult take that away from her? This is not only thinking about him but for her sake....its not like he can go to prom or homecoming with her and there are many tiny and big steps that she is going to take before becoming an adult, he has no right coming between these things being an adult who has gone through these stages and has been to college already. My sister does not need a prego 16 year to deal with on her hands either since he may be a father to his last girlfriends baby, who is of age, he has know right bringing a young girl into that either. We have a right we are family so thanks for no information, I got it anyway from a lawyer, who he may need after all is said and done.

You're welcome.

 

[Silverplum]

I have my info and for all who want to know I am the sister of the mother of the 20 year old and we was looking for the information....thanks

We wont sit here and let a young man go down the wrong road that is what is wrong with some who think just because they are adults they make good choices and parents who set back and let it happen, yes he will do what he may but at least we are trying to make him understand he is messing with fire and what the out come will be if he continues**************..I believe letting an 16 year old girl date an adult is insane regarless if you think they are not playing around more than often they are right under your nose. A 16 year old is still in high school and has a lot to look forward to before becoming an adult why would you let an adult take that away from her? This is not only thinking about him but for her sake....its not like he can go to prom or homecoming with her and there are many tiny and big steps that she is going to take before becoming an adult, he has no right coming between these things being an adult who has gone through these stages and has been to college already. My sister does not need a prego 16 year to deal with on her hands either since he may be a father to his last girlfriends baby, who is of age, he has know right bringing a young girl into that either. We have a right we are family so thanks for no information, I got it anyway from a lawyer, who he may need after all is said and done.

Ah, the classic "OG Effect."

Personal note: I have noticed that the more a poster uses poor spelling and grammar, the quicker the OG Effect takes place.

 

[Proserpina]

Ah, the classic "OG Effect."

Personal note: I have noticed that the more a poster uses poor spelling and grammar, the quicker the OG Effect takes place.

I concur!

 

[Zigner]

Ah, the classic "OG Effect."

Personal note: I have noticed that the more a poster uses poor spelling and grammar, the quicker the OG Effect takes place.

Excellent observation!