Restraining Order

[TheGeekess]

My happy dance was short lived
Less than 4 hours after being served, he violates the restraining order by calling me making threats.

And of course you reported it.

 

[mistoffolees]

My happy dance was short lived
Less than 4 hours after being served, he violates the restraining order by calling me making threats.

So call the police.

 

[novemberbride]

And of course you reported it.

Sure did.

I called my local PD. The Sergeant had me come in so he could make copies of the TRO and proof of service. He said he would contact my ex and get his explanation.

 

[mistoffolees]

Sure did.

I called my local PD. The Sergeant had me come in so he could make copies of the TRO and proof of service. He said he would contact my ex and get his explanation.

The only other thing you can do is take a picture next time.

 

[novemberbride]

Take a picture of?

 

[mistoffolees]

Take a picture of?

Him near the kids (or him near your house) - which would be evidence of his violation of the restraining order. Make sure you have the camera set to put a time stamp on the picture.

It's not proof (the time stamp can be fudged), but it's pretty good evidence to back up your testimony. A third party witness would be even better.

 

[novemberbride]

Excellent advice. Thank you. I didn't even think of that.

 

[novemberbride]

Another question:

I had my hearing last week. Judge was prepared to issue a 3 year restraining order, but my ex was contesting it. He then begged the judge to lift the TRO because it was (according to my ex) a violation of his civil rights and he needs to be able to "gather evidence" against me to use in our custody case. He said the restraining order prohibits him from doing that, so he wanted it lifted. Judge said no.

My ex then requested a trial.....so the judge gave us a new court date. The TRO is still in effect. I had to fill out a "restraining order after hearing form" and the judge signed it. Does this have to be served on my ex too?