onegooddad (questionable)

[SESmama]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? N/A

I had a really good post too!

OP, you are definitely putting your choices ahead of your child. YOU choose not to live near her. You can live across the border in Nevada, Arizona, or Oregon if you really don't want to pay that extra 9% in taxes. It would still be closer to your child. You could file to modify the plan to where you get bigger chunks of time although not as often. You could decide that your child's education is far more important that a few hours when you could simply take her to school and then have lunch with her.

However, from the sound of it her education also does not matter to you any more than it matters to mom. You are just as guilty at curbing her education as mom is. I suppose though, that her education is not that important since you plan on supporting her all her life (thinking Kardashians or maybe Jessica Simpson here).

Now a suggestion I am thinking is the child is young and the parents are apparently well able to afford whatever so why not simply hire the child a tutor that can travel with the child. Then the child does not miss any education. Of course my child's education is far more important to me then that extra hour or two.

 

[onegooddad]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? N/A

I had a really good post too!

OP, you are definitely putting your choices ahead of your child. YOU choose not to live near her. You can live across the border in Nevada, Arizona, or Oregon if you really don't want to pay that extra 9% in taxes. It would still be closer to your child. You could file to modify the plan to where you get bigger chunks of time although not as often. You could decide that your child's education is far more important that a few hours when you could simply take her to school and then have lunch with her.

However, from the sound of it her education also does not matter to you any more than it matters to mom. You are just as guilty at curbing her education as mom is. I suppose though, that her education is not that important since you plan on supporting her all her life (thinking Kardashians or maybe Jessica Simpson here).

Now a suggestion I am thinking is the child is young and the parents are apparently well able to afford whatever so why not simply hire the child a tutor that can travel with the child. Then the child does not miss any education. Of course my child's education is far more important to me then that extra hour or two.

Hello??? Oregon and Arizona have state income taxes??? I don't want to live in Las Vegas or have my child live there.

I have several homes for what it's worth. I choose to maintain my residency where I currently do.

Does missing 1 or 2 hours of school a couple of times every few months constitute missing education?

My child is smart. We do homework via Skype and while we're together. I stay up to date with my child's teachers and school administrators. I attend parent/teacher conferences. If they don't have any issues with the situation, why should anyone on this forum?

Support my child ala Kardashian? Not so. I'm teaching her to invest. I've given her a decent sum in a separate trust last Christmas to manage using a simple Warren Buffet philosophy. By the way, the Kardashians are doing just fine on their own.

I guess we all live in different worlds. I'm sorry to have entered this forum and caused a stir.

Put simply, I asked for comments on what is wrong with delivering my child back at 11:20am instead of 9:30am when the times I do deliver my child back at around 8:40am, she rarely gets to school until noon.

I recognized in my original post that I doubted that I might get any sympathy in this forum and was correct.

 

[stealth2]

And he STILL can't leave!

BTW - there is more to NV than LV!

 

[Isis1]

Hello??? Oregon and Arizona have state income taxes??? I don't want to live in Las Vegas or have my child live there.

I have several homes for what it's worth. I choose to maintain my residency where I currently do.

Does missing 1 or 2 hours of school a couple of times every few months constitute missing education?

My child is smart. We do homework via Skype and while we're together. I stay up to date with my child's teachers and school administrators. I attend parent/teacher conferences. If they don't have any issues with the situation, why should anyone on this forum?

Support my child ala Kardashian? Not so. I'm teaching her to invest. I've given her a decent sum in a separate trust last Christmas to manage using a simple Warren Buffet philosophy. By the way, the Kardashians are doing just fine on their own.

I guess we all live in different worlds. I'm sorry to have entered this forum and caused a stir.

Put simply, I asked for comments on what is wrong with delivering my child back at 11:20am instead of 9:30am when the times I do deliver my child back at around 8:40am, she rarely gets to school until noon.
I recognized in my original post that I doubted that I might get any sympathy in this forum and was correct.

becasue it's against the court order!!!! either you follow the court order, or you request a modification. VERY SIMPLE!

 

[RRevak]

Hello??? Oregon and Arizona have state income taxes??? I don't want to live in Las Vegas or have my child live there.

I have several homes for what it's worth. I choose to maintain my residency where I currently do.

Does missing 1 or 2 hours of school a couple of times every few months constitute missing education?

My child is smart. We do homework via Skype and while we're together. I stay up to date with my child's teachers and school administrators. I attend parent/teacher conferences. If they don't have any issues with the situation, why should anyone on this forum?

Support my child ala Kardashian? Not so. I'm teaching her to invest. I've given her a decent sum in a separate trust last Christmas to manage using a simple Warren Buffet philosophy. By the way, the Kardashians are doing just fine on their own.

I guess we all live in different worlds. I'm sorry to have entered this forum and caused a stir.

Put simply, I asked for comments on what is wrong with delivering my child back at 11:20am instead of 9:30am when the times I do deliver my child back at around 8:40am, she rarely gets to school until noon.

I recognized in my original post that I doubted that I might get any sympathy in this forum and was correct.

We just dont like to give sympathy to dads who have the means to do better but instead choose to be "weekend dads"

 

[onegooddad]

Can you say "trolls"?

 

[stealth2]

Put simply, I asked for comments on what is wrong with delivering my child back at 11:20am instead of 9:30am when the times I do deliver my child back at around 8:40am, she rarely gets to school until noon.

And you got your response w/in a few posts - your court order says 9:30. Period, end of story. What Mom does after that is actually not your concern.

 

[msmom22000]

I'm just going to put this out there. You already got your legal advice.

You have made it abundantly clear you have the resources to move if you so choose. However, you have chosen not to. That is your choice to make. However, given that you have the resources, and, it seems, the time, why not get a weekend place in her community? She's 8 now. Soon, she will want to be more involved in extra-curricular activities and spend more time with friends. Now, I know that shouldn't preclude her from spending time with you, but....
If you were to get, say, an apartment in her community, there would be several advantages.

1. No plane rides taking up valuable time and no time changes.
2. She would be able to get to school on time on Mondays, and you could even take her.
3. As she gets older, she could still spend time with her friends, and you too, by bringing them to your house/apartment.

To me, this seems the best solution, instead of fighting over who gets her to school when. Put your daughters needs first. You really are coming across as selfish here. Most Non-custodial parents don't have the flexibility or resources to go that extra step, or see their children as often as you do, living so far away.
Really, it's time to take a step back and quit lashing out at the volunteers here. I'm not saying I agree with everything, and I usually just stay in the background and read, but in this instance, you really are coming across as selfish and petty.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

WOW, I was thinking what a great dad, spending all that money to see his kid.

When I am out of state for long periods of time, I only see my family about every 6 months.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Speaking from experience here, a certain father had a similar attitude about the time a child should get back from visiting. Guess which father lost the right to make ANY travel arrangement for the same child in question, but must defer to the plan that ***I*** arrange. Oh yeah - dad was hot.

 

[not2cleverRed]

Put simply, I asked for comments on what is wrong with delivering my child back at 11:20am instead of 9:30am when the times I do deliver my child back at around 8:40am, she rarely gets to school until noon.

(1) Because that's in violation of the court order.

(2) Furthermore, I suspect the intent of the original court order was: the kid should be in school on time on Monday morning OR if there happens to be no school, then you get the kid until 9:30. As far as long weekends go - most of those Mondays off are due to holidays - which are usually explicitly divvied up in visitation orders as well.

Does missing 1 or 2 hours of school a couple of times every few months constitute missing education?

YES.

And if I were your child's teacher, I'd be really annoyed. I might be polite to your face, and smile even, but only because I'd know from experience that you're the type of parent that will be a thorn in my side no matter what I do, best to make the best of it. But I'd have a lot of choice words for you when venting about my job.

I know this, even though I taught at the university level.

I don't care how smart your kid is. There's more to life than being smart.

I'm surprised that at her age she isn't busy with activities with her own peers on weekends or going to birthday parties.

Oh, and OT, but... all that air travel is unhealthy.
Air Travel and Blood Clots

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

(2) Furthermore, I suspect the intent of the original court order was: the kid should be in school on time on Monday morning OR if there happens to be no school, then you get the kid until 9:30. As far as long weekends go - most of those Mondays off are due to holidays - which are usually explicitly divvied up in visitation orders as well.

When I read that statement, I suspect that was the thought process but it was badly written. I also had a badly written statement in my court order that my X tried to use - his mistake on that one cost him $5K.

I do NOT see where a judge is going to okay a child missing school every other week. If mom were to choose, she could go back to court to clarify that statement - I certainly would.

 

[onegooddad]

When I read that statement, I suspect that was the thought process but it was badly written. I also had a badly written statement in my court order that my X tried to use - his mistake on that one cost him $5K.

I do NOT see where a judge is going to okay a child missing school every other week. If mom were to choose, she could go back to court to clarify that statement - I certainly would.

You lady are truly in Neverneverland. So be off with the lost boys... oh yeah, you don't like boys. Tigerlily may be willing to hang out though. But please, don't pollute Tigerlily's mind.

 

[CreativeBlock]

You lady are truly in Neverneverland. So be off with the lost boys... oh yeah, you don't like boys. Tigerlily may be willing to hang out though. But please, don't pollute Tigerlily's mind.

Honestly, just say "No" to drugs. Your children will thank you.

I can say unequivocally that not only do I believe your claim of making $16K while sitting in here on this board applies to some fantasy world you've created in "Second Life," but I also believe (strongly) that you have inadequate personality issues.

Simply put, you're a loon and you're not fooling anyone.

And please make no further stunted references to JM Barrie. You make his corpse cry out of shame and regret when you do that.

 

[stealth2]

You lady are truly in Neverneverland. So be off with the lost boys... oh yeah, you don't like boys. Tigerlily may be willing to hang out though. But please, don't pollute Tigerlily's mind.

Look - you said long ago that you were done here and weren't posting again. SO be man enough to be true to your word.