Another alienation of affection plus child neglect.

[CJane]

Frankly I thought he was referring to the Italian horror movie director.

Apparently I was quite, quite wrong...

*snort*

Also, I learned a new word today! And "arguendo" sounds so much cooler than "for the sake of argument". I'll bet people will think I'm using dirty words!

 

[Proserpina]

*snort*

Also, I learned a new word today! And "arguendo" sounds so much cooler than "for the sake of argument". I'll bet people will think I'm using dirty words!

(I totally love that you got that!)

I certainly will, and I'll be having a private little snort whenever I see it written from hereonout

 

[Proserpina]

Back to OP though...

OP did contact me via PM, and this all apparently happened in the Vietnam War era.

So the issue isn't just moot, it is truly mooter than moot. It's more moot than Moot Gingrich, who I believe may be featured in some poor law school's moot court next semester.

Perhaps mootiny abounds?

 

[Isis1]

Back to OP though...

OP did contact me via PM, and this all apparently happened in the Vietnam War era.

So the issue isn't just moot, it is truly mooter than moot. It's more moot than Moot Gingrich, who I believe may be featured in some poor law school's moot court next semester.

Perhaps mootiny abounds?

Oh hell no. that's a long time to gripe about something. My Uncle Speedy is rolling in his grave right now.

 

[Proserpina]

Oh hell no. that's a long time to gripe about something. My Uncle Speedy is rolling in his grave right now.

It's a croc.


(sorry)

(LOL)

 

[Isis1]

It's a croc.


(sorry)

(LOL)

*snicker*

 

[Carlos Ray]

Back to OP though...

OP did contact me via PM, and this all apparently happened in the Vietnam War era.

So the issue isn't just moot, it is truly mooter than moot. It's more moot than Moot Gingrich, who I believe may be featured in some poor law school's moot court next semester.

Perhaps mootiny abounds?

What was that about snarky? Would that it were mooter, than moot! I followed someone's advice and looked up OK statutes my darn self. I found several applicable statutes, including adultery, unlawful cohabitation, and

OK statutes §10A-1-1-105. Definitions.
46. “Neglect” means:
[ . . . ]b. the failure or omission to protect a child from exposure to any of the following:
[ . . . ](2) illegal activities, or
(3) sexual acts or materials that are not age- appropriate, or​

As I told someone via PM my lawyer took my $$ and provided no advice whatsoever. Evidently 2 lawyers told my wife something that scared her so much that when I told her I was taking my son to another state where I was based she instantly agreed to go with no argument.

As for "a long time to gripe about something". Not sure what it is called when a person goes about their life for years thinking that the past is the past and suddenly seeing/hearing something that plunges them right back into the reality of the situation with all all the rage, feelings of being powerless, seeing the destruction of 9 years of marriage, the threat of losing my son, etc. Maybe MTSD marriage traumatic stress disorder? Yes, "losing my son!" My military duties might have brought me somewhere close to him once every 3-5 years, then only for a 3-4 weeks max.

What do I hope to achieve? How about a good night's sleep, an appetite, the ability to pick up a book and read a page and actually remember what I read. Counselling? Had some, helped a little, waiting for the pros to fit me into their schedule.

Thanks for the little I did receive.

 

[mistoffolees]

What was that about snarky? Would that it were mooter, than moot! I followed someone's advice and looked up OK statutes my darn self. I found several applicable statutes, including adultery, unlawful cohabitation, and

OK statutes §10A-1-1-105. Definitions.
46. “Neglect” means:
[ . . . ]b. the failure or omission to protect a child from exposure to any of the following:
[ . . . ](2) illegal activities, or
(3) sexual acts or materials that are not age- appropriate, or​

As I told someone via PM my lawyer took my $$ and provided no advice whatsoever. Evidently 2 lawyers told my wife something that scared her so much that when I told her I was taking my son to another state where I was based she instantly agreed to go with no argument.

As for "a long time to gripe about something". Not sure what it is called when a person goes about their life for years thinking that the past is the past and suddenly seeing/hearing something that plunges them right back into the reality of the situation with all all the rage, feelings of being powerless, seeing the destruction of 9 years of marriage, the threat of losing my son, etc. Maybe MTSD marriage traumatic stress disorder? Yes, "losing my son!" My military duties might have brought me somewhere close to him once every 3-5 years, then only for a 3-4 weeks max.

Look up "statute of limitations". That's why it's mooter than moot.

What do I hope to achieve? How about a good night's sleep, an appetite, the ability to pick up a book and read a page and actually remember what I read. Counselling? Had some, helped a little, waiting for the pros to fit me into their schedule.

I'm sorry to be the one to break it to you, but a lawsuit is not going to help your sleep or reading abilities.

In fact, it may make things worse rather than better.

 

[ecmst12]

You definitely need a therapist, not a lawyer. It's also hard to judge something that happened 40 years ago based on TODAY'S legal climate. The case law and even the statutes are a lot different now then they were at the time. It really is useless to pick apart the past, you will only succeed in driving yourself more crazy. And honestly the trauma of being at war in Vietnam is affecting you much more then the rest...a LOT of people came back from there not being the same person their spouse remembered and being very difficult to live with. People cope in different ways. And it's very rare that a marriage breaks up because of only one person. Sure, some messed up things happened, and you didn't know what to do about it at the time. Now you do, but I doubt you're in a position where this could happen to you again. Time to move on.