Issues

[stealth2]

And I wonder what the young man may have said/done to Mom to provoke the situation.

 

[Nikki Green]

And I wonder what the young man may have said/done to Mom to provoke the situation.

That is a valid point. Kids certainly have lots of growing up to do.

However, there are "mothers" who have an inferior complex, are jealous of their children, and try to put them down at every moment.

When I was younger I knew a girl who was excelled in school (was Valedictorian in her graduating elementary school), and was pretty, yet her "mother" would call her "stupid", "ugly", and other names that cannot be said in public.

Not sure what happened afterwards, but last I heard the father divorced the "mother" once their girl turned 18, that way, there wouldn't be any custody battle.

Point is, there are some really bad parents out there, and the boy may not have done anything to warrent a slap on the wrist, let alone a punch in the face. As nextwife says, "Sharing genes is not what makes you a "parent"!

Hope the OP gets the best for his son.

 

[CJane]

Did I miss how old this kiddo is?

 

[mbkdc]

My child is 12, will be 13 next month. I did ask him what he did, he said he rolled his eyes. In my pinion this definetly doesn't warrent a punch in the face and being called a bad name. I also forgot to mention one of his friends were there and watched the whole thing. She is also hardly home with the kids. Which my lawyer told me to write it all down for a couple months, but I do not want them to go through it that long.

 

[Just Blue]

My child is 12, will be 13 next month. I did ask him what he did, he said he rolled his eyes. In my pinion this definetly doesn't warrent a punch in the face and being called a bad name. I also forgot to mention one of his friends were there and watched the whole thing. She is also hardly home with the kids. Which my lawyer told me to write it all down for a couple months, but I do not want them to go through it that long.

I have to ask WHY you did not DEMAND the SP or police in the child's hometown to go and check on said child?

Personally? I would hitailed my a$$ to my child. Period. End of story.

 

[CJane]

Ok.

So, what is it that you actually hope to accomplish here?

Because at this point, you don't appear to have a legal issue.

 

[majomom1]

My child is 12, will be 13 next month. I did ask him what he did, he said he rolled his eyes. In my pinion this definetly doesn't warrent a punch in the face and being called a bad name. I also forgot to mention one of his friends were there and watched the whole thing. She is also hardly home with the kids. Which my lawyer told me to write it all down for a couple months, but I do not want them to go through it that long.

Ok. You spoke to Mom, what did she say happened and why? Exact words. Nothing warrants a "punch" but is that really what happened. I'm not calling you a liar, I'm asking you if this could possibly be exaggerated.

What you should have done was asked the police to do a well fair check and make a report. They would have been able to see your son and any physical damage and the friend would have been able to tell the police what he witnessed.

Your attorney needs you to document in order to show a pattern. Without it he cannot help you. And it will not help if you go from she hits or abuses the boy to she is hardly ever there. Set your emotions aside and do what your attorney tells you to do.

 

[mbkdc]

Their mom said he rolled his eyes. If I were to go the child like suggested without permission I could be arrested for causing a disturbance and being on her property. What good am I going to do by being in trouble with the law. Maybe I should have insisted but when the police tell you there's nothing you can do you feel helpless. I am writing everything down as my attorney stated. That's not the problem. I just don't want my son being punched. I do believe there is a legal issue as the kids are being left alone and now she is being violent.

 

[Just Blue]

Their mom said he rolled his eyes. If I were to go the child like suggested without permission I could be arrested for causing a disturbance and being on her property. What good am I going to do by being in trouble with the law. Maybe I should have insisted but when the police tell you there's nothing you can do you feel helpless. I am writing everything down as my attorney stated. That's not the problem. I just don't want my son being punched. I do believe there is a legal issue as the kids are being left alone and now she is being violent.

sigh...

IF! You had "bothered" to see to your child and Mom called the police, then said police would have discussed the abuse with said child.

 

[CourtClerk]

My child is 12, will be 13 next month. I did ask him what he did, he said he rolled his eyes.

Quite honestly, if my child (especially at 12) would have rolled his eyes at me, he'd be picking himself up off the ground too.

 

[mistoffolees]

sigh...

IF! You had "bothered" to see to your child and Mom called the police, then said police would have discussed the abuse with said child.

Or if he had simply asked the police to check on a child who reported that he had been punched. No need to make a custody issue of it nor to inflame the issue by appearing in person.

 

[gr8rn]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?PA
Okay. My son called and said his mom punched him in the face and wanted me to come get him. I told him I couldn't because she has custody of him. She got on the phone and admited to doing it. Well I tried to call domestic relations they are not in until monday. I was then forwarded to the state police who said they could do nothing because it was her day to have them. Is this really the case? And if I do go to domestics on Monday what will they do?

I need to correct you on where you need to go. Domestic Relations in the PA court system is the area where child support is ordered. They do NOTHING about child abuse or custody issues. You can ask at the front desk of the courthouse to direct you where to go, but Domestic relations cannot help you at all.

Also, CYS has a 24 hour hotline. You call and make a report and they have to check on it. But if mom punched the child and there is not visible mark, then they will close the report as unfounded. Perhaps you need to go see your son and view the damage before you run off trying to take the child away from Mom.

 

[CJane]

Is Mom leaving the child alone for days at a time? Because at his age he's more than old enough to be home alone. Even in charge of younger siblings. Trust me.

Why do you believe you'd be arrested if you showed up at Mom's house? Does she have a restraining order against you?

If the child was actually punched in the face by Mom - and was in continued fear of actual injury/danger to himself - he needs to learn to call 911.

What I think happened? Kiddo was being an Azz. Mom reacted badly and smacked his face. Kiddo said "I'm calling Dad!" Mom said "G'head." And he did. And he was angry and wanted you to come get him and rush to his rescue.

He wasn't in fear. He was p*ssed.

 

[stealth2]

Is Mom leaving the child alone for days at a time? Because at his age he's more than old enough to be home alone. Even in charge of younger siblings. Trust me.

Why do you believe you'd be arrested if you showed up at Mom's house? Does she have a restraining order against you?

If the child was actually punched in the face by Mom - and was in continued fear of actual injury/danger to himself - he needs to learn to call 911.

What I think happened? Kiddo was being an Azz. Mom reacted badly and smacked his face. Kiddo said "I'm calling Dad!" Mom said "G'head." And he did. And he was angry and wanted you to come get him and rush to his rescue.

He wasn't in fear. He was p*ssed.

That's about how I read it, too.