strathywins
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia
I wanted to let everyone on here know how things went with Cora's dad and I. I am the mother that has the control issue about how I thought that feeding my daughter sweet potatoes was in fact "endangering" her life.
Welllll, since then my daughter's dad and I have been to a co-parenting class that is offered in our area by child protective services and social services and it did a world of good for our whole family. It made us both more understanding of each other and now we work everything out for the greater good of our daughter's future. We both love her and want the best things for her. I recognize now that I was controlling, overprotective and flat out mean sometimes and I have learned that that doesn't work when it comes to parenting. And her father and I are both parents. We created a beautiful baby girl and there is no sense in us acting the way we were.
The class has helped us figure out how to deal with one another and gave really helpful tips, guidelines and advice on how to work out things and issues that are bound to arise in situations like ours where we are parenting together but living apart. Just because we decided to make a move apart from one another doesn't mean our parenting ends there. We are in it for life and getting along is so much better, so much more relaxing than the fighting and arguing and all we are really doing by arguing and fighting is hurting our sweet girl.
I hope everyone who reads this can stop hiring lawyers, because I have paid mine over 15 grand for practically nothing. While in court split up couples fighting over their child are only hurting one another and making their child and their futures miserable. Who knows your child best? You and your co-parent. Not a judge or a lawyer. Unless there is true abuse or something else going on a lawyer and a judge should not have any part in it. Except maybe at first to lay down some ground rules and schedules for the parents to work from. Getting along with your co-parent and letting them parent their way and you parent your way is the best way to make your children healthier and happier. Communication is the key and it does start with yourself. Make sure you are the better man/woman and it will pay off. The other party will come around and if they don't then that's their problem. At least you did your part to be a good parent.
It's all about our future and our children are our future.
Thank you all for your previous advice. You all settled my nerves and because of her dad and I working hard to get along the case was dismissed. The judge even asked us if we wanted to teach a co-parenting class now that we have faced the bad and come out of it carrying good.
Good luck to everyone having trouble. It is a long journey and my advice would be one thing. Learn to let go and be calm. Breathe... Look at your children when you talk to your co-parent. See the love they have for the both of you in their eyes. Treat your co-parent the way you want to be treated and just see what happens. It's not easy but it is so worth it once you get past the bad.
Thank you...
I wanted to let everyone on here know how things went with Cora's dad and I. I am the mother that has the control issue about how I thought that feeding my daughter sweet potatoes was in fact "endangering" her life.
Welllll, since then my daughter's dad and I have been to a co-parenting class that is offered in our area by child protective services and social services and it did a world of good for our whole family. It made us both more understanding of each other and now we work everything out for the greater good of our daughter's future. We both love her and want the best things for her. I recognize now that I was controlling, overprotective and flat out mean sometimes and I have learned that that doesn't work when it comes to parenting. And her father and I are both parents. We created a beautiful baby girl and there is no sense in us acting the way we were.
The class has helped us figure out how to deal with one another and gave really helpful tips, guidelines and advice on how to work out things and issues that are bound to arise in situations like ours where we are parenting together but living apart. Just because we decided to make a move apart from one another doesn't mean our parenting ends there. We are in it for life and getting along is so much better, so much more relaxing than the fighting and arguing and all we are really doing by arguing and fighting is hurting our sweet girl.
I hope everyone who reads this can stop hiring lawyers, because I have paid mine over 15 grand for practically nothing. While in court split up couples fighting over their child are only hurting one another and making their child and their futures miserable. Who knows your child best? You and your co-parent. Not a judge or a lawyer. Unless there is true abuse or something else going on a lawyer and a judge should not have any part in it. Except maybe at first to lay down some ground rules and schedules for the parents to work from. Getting along with your co-parent and letting them parent their way and you parent your way is the best way to make your children healthier and happier. Communication is the key and it does start with yourself. Make sure you are the better man/woman and it will pay off. The other party will come around and if they don't then that's their problem. At least you did your part to be a good parent.
It's all about our future and our children are our future.
Thank you all for your previous advice. You all settled my nerves and because of her dad and I working hard to get along the case was dismissed. The judge even asked us if we wanted to teach a co-parenting class now that we have faced the bad and come out of it carrying good.
Good luck to everyone having trouble. It is a long journey and my advice would be one thing. Learn to let go and be calm. Breathe... Look at your children when you talk to your co-parent. See the love they have for the both of you in their eyes. Treat your co-parent the way you want to be treated and just see what happens. It's not easy but it is so worth it once you get past the bad.
Thank you...
