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My child's father and I had an off and on relationship for about 3 years before my child was born. During the first year of my child's life, the father was only around for 3-4 months. By the time my child turned 2 years old, the father was gone. I begged his to visit my child, but he was always to busy or had other plans. The father went an entire year without any contact with my child. During that year, I left the child support going. I figured it was the least I could do for my child, since the father didnt want to be bothered. I then met someone who treated/treats my child as his own. He is more like a father to my child than his boilogical father. After my child turned 3 years old, I recieved legal papers in the mail from an attorney, stating that the father was sueing me in court for custody of my child and that mediation was schedualed for the following Monday. I pulled myself together, got a lawyer, and had a temporary custody order set in place. In the months that followed, I prepared to go infront of a judge because neither one of us could agree. The day before court, the father agreed to visitation and the child living with me. For an entire year, the father, his girlfriend (now wife) and myself were very disrespectufl to one another. All the parties included were rude, mean, and said horrible things to eachother. That lasted for a whole year. Finally I had enough, and contact both of them, and expressed my concern for how the child involved was a witness to every situation. Everyone involved agreed to act as adults and treat eachother with respect. Sadly, that only lasted nine months. The father did not agree with an activity that I enrolled the child in, and became upset. Instead of acting as adults, the father went right to an attorney and tryed to force me to see things his way.
The first lawyer contact started in 2008 (that was when the child's father tryed to sue me in court for custody). During all these years, I have had deep concerns about the well being of my child. The fathers now wife, once had posted in the internet that she was the mother to two twin boys. When in fact, she does have a child from another man, but other than that my child was the only other child in the home at that time (i believe my child was 2 years old at the time she posted that). Also, the wife has posted pictures of herself, her child, and my child with captions stating "mommy and HER boys". The wife has repeatedly disruppted phone conversations with the father, refusing to let me speak to him. The wife and the father, let both of the children outside in the back yard naked to swim in a baby pool, took pictures and posted them on the internet for people to see. I find that the most disturbing due to the fact that there are 4 sex offenders within a block of the current home. The wife has written nasty and demeaning information about myself and my fiance. The wife openly and publicly offends myself and my fiance. I have had two lawyer and am now on my third because they werent taking my situation as seriously as I do, and I felt it best to find another. However, do to my work schedual and his office hours, we do not get to communicate as much as I would like.
I enrolled my child in a sport this past year, and had given the father plenty of advanced notice. The father participated in one practice. The father had contact with the coach and agreed to have my child present at the sport since it was the father weekend, on to seperate occassion, and the father also agreed through our lawyer, but failed to bring my child to these events. I reieved 'threats' from the wife, stating that she will make sure that my child knows how much of a bad mother I am, and the father does not step in and control the situation. It has even gone as far as the wife and father verbally telling my child that he is a twin. There are coutless pictures of these two children dressed in identaical clothing. The wifes child was born in Jan, and my child was born in Feb, and yet I have physical proof that her child (every year) recieves a big birthday bash, that is only for him, while when my childs birthday rolls around, the two children share a cake, with both of their names on it, captions under the picture stating "my birthday boys blowing out their candles".
Now there is a new baby in their home. My child comes home almost every time, stating that its not fair that the baby and other child are loved more. When I question my child why that is said, the child responds that, the wife plays with the baby, and the father plays with the other child, and no one plays with him.
With all of these issues, I am highly concerned, but feel that no one is on my side. I believe that these issues need to be taken seriously and brought to light. As a mother, I feel like I am failing my child when it comes to his emotional state.
In all honest, I want the fathers right taken away. I know that is not a nice thing to wish for, but with all the evidence I have (i havent shared everything) I feel and know that neither the wife nor the father actually care what or how this whole situation effects my child. In my eyes, this is a game to both of them on how to hurt me. I dont know what to do anymore, I have spent thousands of dollars (not saying it isnt worth it, because it is worth every penny), but I feel as if I am getting no where.
Are any of the issues I have stated above truely issues, or are they things that just get me upset? Should I press my lawyer to take action (I havent heard from him in quite some time due to schedual mis-haps)? Should I press my lawyer to take these concerns infront of a judge and plead to let my child have a chance to speak to the judge himself(i found some research that in pa, a child as young as 5 years old, sometimes gets the chance to speak to the judge)??What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
My child's father and I had an off and on relationship for about 3 years before my child was born. During the first year of my child's life, the father was only around for 3-4 months. By the time my child turned 2 years old, the father was gone. I begged his to visit my child, but he was always to busy or had other plans. The father went an entire year without any contact with my child. During that year, I left the child support going. I figured it was the least I could do for my child, since the father didnt want to be bothered. I then met someone who treated/treats my child as his own. He is more like a father to my child than his boilogical father. After my child turned 3 years old, I recieved legal papers in the mail from an attorney, stating that the father was sueing me in court for custody of my child and that mediation was schedualed for the following Monday. I pulled myself together, got a lawyer, and had a temporary custody order set in place. In the months that followed, I prepared to go infront of a judge because neither one of us could agree. The day before court, the father agreed to visitation and the child living with me. For an entire year, the father, his girlfriend (now wife) and myself were very disrespectufl to one another. All the parties included were rude, mean, and said horrible things to eachother. That lasted for a whole year. Finally I had enough, and contact both of them, and expressed my concern for how the child involved was a witness to every situation. Everyone involved agreed to act as adults and treat eachother with respect. Sadly, that only lasted nine months. The father did not agree with an activity that I enrolled the child in, and became upset. Instead of acting as adults, the father went right to an attorney and tryed to force me to see things his way.
The first lawyer contact started in 2008 (that was when the child's father tryed to sue me in court for custody). During all these years, I have had deep concerns about the well being of my child. The fathers now wife, once had posted in the internet that she was the mother to two twin boys. When in fact, she does have a child from another man, but other than that my child was the only other child in the home at that time (i believe my child was 2 years old at the time she posted that). Also, the wife has posted pictures of herself, her child, and my child with captions stating "mommy and HER boys". The wife has repeatedly disruppted phone conversations with the father, refusing to let me speak to him. The wife and the father, let both of the children outside in the back yard naked to swim in a baby pool, took pictures and posted them on the internet for people to see. I find that the most disturbing due to the fact that there are 4 sex offenders within a block of the current home. The wife has written nasty and demeaning information about myself and my fiance. The wife openly and publicly offends myself and my fiance. I have had two lawyer and am now on my third because they werent taking my situation as seriously as I do, and I felt it best to find another. However, do to my work schedual and his office hours, we do not get to communicate as much as I would like.
I enrolled my child in a sport this past year, and had given the father plenty of advanced notice. The father participated in one practice. The father had contact with the coach and agreed to have my child present at the sport since it was the father weekend, on to seperate occassion, and the father also agreed through our lawyer, but failed to bring my child to these events. I reieved 'threats' from the wife, stating that she will make sure that my child knows how much of a bad mother I am, and the father does not step in and control the situation. It has even gone as far as the wife and father verbally telling my child that he is a twin. There are coutless pictures of these two children dressed in identaical clothing. The wifes child was born in Jan, and my child was born in Feb, and yet I have physical proof that her child (every year) recieves a big birthday bash, that is only for him, while when my childs birthday rolls around, the two children share a cake, with both of their names on it, captions under the picture stating "my birthday boys blowing out their candles".
Now there is a new baby in their home. My child comes home almost every time, stating that its not fair that the baby and other child are loved more. When I question my child why that is said, the child responds that, the wife plays with the baby, and the father plays with the other child, and no one plays with him.
With all of these issues, I am highly concerned, but feel that no one is on my side. I believe that these issues need to be taken seriously and brought to light. As a mother, I feel like I am failing my child when it comes to his emotional state.
In all honest, I want the fathers right taken away. I know that is not a nice thing to wish for, but with all the evidence I have (i havent shared everything) I feel and know that neither the wife nor the father actually care what or how this whole situation effects my child. In my eyes, this is a game to both of them on how to hurt me. I dont know what to do anymore, I have spent thousands of dollars (not saying it isnt worth it, because it is worth every penny), but I feel as if I am getting no where.
Are any of the issues I have stated above truely issues, or are they things that just get me upset? Should I press my lawyer to take action (I havent heard from him in quite some time due to schedual mis-haps)? Should I press my lawyer to take these concerns infront of a judge and plead to let my child have a chance to speak to the judge himself(i found some research that in pa, a child as young as 5 years old, sometimes gets the chance to speak to the judge)??What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
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