14 and pregnant

[Antigone*]

Sure you can. File for a change of custody and request physical custody. Of course you will need to prove a significant change in the child's circumstances (and her pregnancy may not be that).

Just becaus a teenager wants something doesn't mean they get to make the decisions. What if she didn't want to go to school? Wanted to do drugs? Would you support those choices as well?

Again: You are being asked for the exact wording of your court order minus names so we can help you determine your situation.

You say joint custody: Does that mean Joint Physical? If so, what is the split in the order? 50/50%? 70/30% what?

Does it mean Joint Legal: Who has decision making authority? Who has the final say?
This is why we need to know the exact words used. You do not appear to undertand these distinctions and we can't help you without this information.



@ Isis and Tigi--My drill's all plugged in and ready. Get the restraints for the patient, ok?

Whis is I channeling tryonebone ~ y'all

 

[cyjeff]

Ya know what is fun?

When mom thinks darling daughter is too young to decide to have sex but is perfectly mature enough to figure out where she should live?

She is too young. For both.

Oh well, look at the bright side. There must be one here somewhere.

 

[Proserpina]

I thought I told ya'll we have joint custody...didn't I? But I was already told by justanswer that she can come here now and the fathers don't have any rights until they establish paternity.

Paternity evidently HAS been established if you have a court order for custody.


She can't just up and leave. You need to file in court to change the current order.

 

[Isis1]

I prefer mine in liquid form. Maker's Mark, please.

I have never heard of Marker's Mark before until my husband and I found this really awesome drink on FineCooking.com (or maybe it was FineDining.com) that had it in this delectable mango drink that has like a million calories!

 

[mistoffolees]

I have never heard of Marker's Mark before until my husband and I found this really awesome drink on FineCooking.com (or maybe it was FineDining.com) that had it in this delectable mango drink that has like a million calories!

That would be Maker's Mark. Please. (And Maker's Mark 46 is absolutely incredible).
Maker's Mark | Maker's Mark Kentucky Straight Bourbon Handmade Whisky

 

[stealth2]

Folks - when OP is talking about paternity, she's talking about the putative father.

OP... please try to be a bit clearer in who you are referring to, k?

As for your question at hand... why do you believe that your daughter (the who, at 14, decided she was mature enough to have unprotected sex with at least 2 young men) is mature enough to make a major life decision such as where she's going to live? Barring circumstances which you don't mention (and therefore are likely not in play) - a court won't find her mature enough to make that decision, either.

 

[st-kitts]

GA has that unique child selection issue:

In all cases in which the child has reached the age of 14 years, the child shall have the right to select the parent with whom he or she desires to live. The child´s selection shall be controlling, unless the parent so selected is determined not to be a fit and proper person to have the custody of the child.


OP might be able to get physical custody if GA has jurisdiction. Concur however that no 14 year old is mature enough to actually make that decision.

 

[mistoffolees]

GA has that unique child selection issue:

In all cases in which the child has reached the age of 14 years, the child shall have the right to select the parent with whom he or she desires to live. The child´s selection shall be controlling, unless the parent so selected is determined not to be a fit and proper person to have the custody of the child.


OP might be able to get physical custody if GA has jurisdiction. Concur however that no 14 year old is mature enough to actually make that decision.

I think that has changed. A 14 year old's choice is no longer controlling, even in GA. It certainly has influence, but it isn't a slam-dunk that the child's wishes will be honored.

 

[stealth2]

GA has that unique child selection issue:

In all cases in which the child has reached the age of 14 years, the child shall have the right to select the parent with whom he or she desires to live. The child´s selection shall be controlling, unless the parent so selected is determined not to be a fit and proper person to have the custody of the child.


OP might be able to get physical custody if GA has jurisdiction. Concur however that no 14 year old is mature enough to actually make that decision.

Actually, kitty-kat, that has changed. The child's choice is no longer controlling - s/he can state their preference, but the court makes the decision based on the child's best interests. To whit:

hb369_HB_369_AP_11.html

(5) In all custody cases in which the child has reached the age of 14 years, the child shall have the right to select the parent with whom he or she desires to live. The child´s selection for purposes of custody shall be presumptive unless the parent so selected is determined not to be in the best interests of the child. The parental selection by a child who has reached the age of 14 may, in and of itself, constitute a material change of condition or circumstance in any action seeking a modification or change in the custody of that child; provided, however, that such selection may only be made once within a period of two years from the date of the previous selection and the best interests of the child standard shall apply.

Your quote is obsolete. And therefore, potentially damaging to OP and her case.

 

[cyjeff]

That was changed in 2005, I believe, when they also closed the pregnancy/emancipation loophole.

 

[TheGeekess]

That was changed in 2005, I believe, when they also closed the pregnancy/emancipation loophole.

I think it was 2009 or 2010 when they changed the 'choice' statute. But yes, it's no longer state law.

 

[stealth2]

2008, actually.

 

[MichaCA]

In a case like this, shouldn't ALL the parents be talking? At the bare minimum, mom AND dad need to get their heads together and talk with daughter about all her options, and what her decision will be (keep the child, abort, put child up for adoption). To me, that seems first priority while she is still in her first trimester. Get out there a few days and go to planned parenthood and get counseling. THEN decide where she lives.

 

[mistoffolees]

In a case like this, shouldn't ALL the parents be talking? At the bare minimum, mom AND dad need to get their heads together and talk with daughter about all her options, and what her decision will be (keep the child, abort, put child up for adoption). To me, that seems first priority while she is still in her first trimester. Get out there a few days and go to planned parenthood and get counseling. THEN decide where she lives.

Unfortunately, I've nearly given up hope of people being rational and placing the kids' needs first. Sadly, it's all about 'me, me, me' these days.

 

[Silverplum]

Unfortunately, I've nearly given up hope of people being rational and placing the kids' needs first. Sadly, it's all about 'me, me, me' these days.

Poor Misto. You need a day out, flying kites or planting flowers, or something hopeful.