What do I do now?
I just got the kids back from their weekend with dad this afternoon. While talking to my youngest about if she had fun with daddy this weekend, she went on talking about playing at the park, seeing aunt *****, etc. She then says “Daddy put his hands on *****(referring to dad’s girlfriend). This concerns me because I currently have on OP on their father and I know how he can be. I asked her what she meant, “How did Daddy touch *****”. Her response was “Daddy touched her here (pointing to her shoulder/chest). He was yelling at her”. I asked “Why was daddy yelling”. She said”Daddy was yelling at ***** and he said he is gonna kill her”. I then changed the subject. This concerned me because at about 11 p.m. Saturday night my oldest had actually called my boyfriend. We didn’t hear the phone ring and by time we saw the missed call it was much later. I figured he had been up playing one of the games on his phone again since he didn’t leave a voicemail. But after hearing what his sister said I was wondering if he was trying to call because of something going on. A little bit later when my oldest got out of the shower, I pulled him aside and asked him if everything was ok over the weekend. He said no, and proceeded to tell me the following.
He told me that his dad had about 7 friends. They were drinking and playing cards. He said that one of his dad’s friends and that guy’s girlfriend got into an argument. She then left. Dad’s girlfriend then put in her two cents in about how this guy was wrong. This started and yelling match between the kid’s dad and his girlfriend. At this point my son grabs his phone and goes outside the front door. He said he could hear his dad screaming at gf, but didn’t hear what he said. This is what my youngest was referring to. He said he want outside to call me because he was scared and wanted to come home. Dad saw him outside with his phone and came out yelling at him. He took his phone away from him and said he was deleting my number from his phone because he wasn’t calling me, he wasn’t going home, he was staying there if he liked it or not. My son then went back inside to his room. He said a little bit later, another guy there (he said it was dad’s neighbor) started arguing with two other guys. My son comes out to see this guys swinging at two others and his dad standing in the middle trying to break it up. He said this guy takes off out the door chasing these guys and that everyone in the house went out after him down the road. This leaving my two and dad’s gf’s kids in the house by themselves. This is when my son found where his dad hide his phone and tried to call my boyfriend. He said he called him because his dad told his he had deleted my number. When his dad got back he took his phone away from him again and hid it. He didn’t get it back until he left to come home.
This phone was bought for him because of situation just like this that have happened at dads on many other occasions. It took me about an hour to get my son settled down in bed tonight. He was afraid he was going to have another bad dream like he did last night. He said he had a dream that the neighbor came back over and was beating everyone in the house to death with a hammer.
This is getting to be ridiculous. What can/should I do here? This has my oldest so upset that he said he didn’t want to go back to his dad’s for awhile (which I know isn’t an option). I asked him if he ever talked to his dad about how he feels and he says that he can’t because his dad just yells at him when he does.
I just got the kids back from their weekend with dad this afternoon. While talking to my youngest about if she had fun with daddy this weekend, she went on talking about playing at the park, seeing aunt *****, etc. She then says “Daddy put his hands on *****(referring to dad’s girlfriend). This concerns me because I currently have on OP on their father and I know how he can be. I asked her what she meant, “How did Daddy touch *****”. Her response was “Daddy touched her here (pointing to her shoulder/chest). He was yelling at her”. I asked “Why was daddy yelling”. She said”Daddy was yelling at ***** and he said he is gonna kill her”. I then changed the subject. This concerned me because at about 11 p.m. Saturday night my oldest had actually called my boyfriend. We didn’t hear the phone ring and by time we saw the missed call it was much later. I figured he had been up playing one of the games on his phone again since he didn’t leave a voicemail. But after hearing what his sister said I was wondering if he was trying to call because of something going on. A little bit later when my oldest got out of the shower, I pulled him aside and asked him if everything was ok over the weekend. He said no, and proceeded to tell me the following.
He told me that his dad had about 7 friends. They were drinking and playing cards. He said that one of his dad’s friends and that guy’s girlfriend got into an argument. She then left. Dad’s girlfriend then put in her two cents in about how this guy was wrong. This started and yelling match between the kid’s dad and his girlfriend. At this point my son grabs his phone and goes outside the front door. He said he could hear his dad screaming at gf, but didn’t hear what he said. This is what my youngest was referring to. He said he want outside to call me because he was scared and wanted to come home. Dad saw him outside with his phone and came out yelling at him. He took his phone away from him and said he was deleting my number from his phone because he wasn’t calling me, he wasn’t going home, he was staying there if he liked it or not. My son then went back inside to his room. He said a little bit later, another guy there (he said it was dad’s neighbor) started arguing with two other guys. My son comes out to see this guys swinging at two others and his dad standing in the middle trying to break it up. He said this guy takes off out the door chasing these guys and that everyone in the house went out after him down the road. This leaving my two and dad’s gf’s kids in the house by themselves. This is when my son found where his dad hide his phone and tried to call my boyfriend. He said he called him because his dad told his he had deleted my number. When his dad got back he took his phone away from him again and hid it. He didn’t get it back until he left to come home.
This phone was bought for him because of situation just like this that have happened at dads on many other occasions. It took me about an hour to get my son settled down in bed tonight. He was afraid he was going to have another bad dream like he did last night. He said he had a dream that the neighbor came back over and was beating everyone in the house to death with a hammer.
This is getting to be ridiculous. What can/should I do here? This has my oldest so upset that he said he didn’t want to go back to his dad’s for awhile (which I know isn’t an option). I asked him if he ever talked to his dad about how he feels and he says that he can’t because his dad just yells at him when he does.
