I need some help

[needhelpasap2]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Wisconsin

Hello, i have a questions for you.(please understand I'm dyslexia so my spelling might not be that good.) Well you see..I'm from England and i have been married for almost 4 years now. At first things were good and he was a good to me but then he start to chance and became a difference person, meaner..colder, i thought it was my fault so i try harder to be better wife to him but the more i try..the more it seem to make him angry and hate me more. I have to admit, i got lost in the depression and self pity..I gave up everything to be with him and left everyone i love and care about behind me. To be honest with you, that time was just so painful and bad..i try not to think or remember it. I did do something stupid..i was soo lost and didnt care anymore..there were times i would pray i wouldn't wake up. I met someone who made me feel good about myself and my husband did found out, i didn't have sex with him. we just sent each other pictures,it was HUGE mistake and something i totally regret. Things got a lot worse for us..he continue putting me down, telling me i was horrible person, i should go and kill myself..I'm bitch..and his has punch,kick me and grab my around my neck..i did call the cops on him once but i didn't for the other times because im scared he treat to kill me if i did and to be honest i really think he would as well. when he gets angry..i get really scared. I don't have any friends here in the usa, no one i can talk to. My mum has made it very clear that im not welcome back home. I'm only working a hour..its not much but its better than nothing. We did also stop having sex and he keeps saying he could divorce me over just that. I did make a female friend from forum, we were really good friends..we would even text each other and he got jealous i was talking to someone. one day..she was texting me, she was upset because she thought her boyfriend was cheating on her so i was trying to cheer her up and he ask to see my phone and i said no and he got really angry at me and then he next day he turn off my texts.

Well..i have some audio of him when we were having our fights he doesnt know i was record him and picture when he hit me.and i just found out his join a dating site..he also admit it and told me as soon as he find someone else..im history
I don't really have any money, i got my 10 year green card..but i don't know what to do..I did call up uscis and they gave me some numbers to call but my husband is home until 4pm and most of them close around that time.
I'm scared..because if he does divorce, i wont be allow to stay and i will have no where to go.


I'm not sure if you can help me, but im scared and i dont know what to do. so please..

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Wisconsin

Hello, i have a questions for you.(please understand I'm dyslexia so my spelling might not be that good.) Well you see..I'm from England and i have been married for almost 4 years now. At first things were good and he was a good to me but then he start to chance and became a difference person, meaner..colder, i thought it was my fault so i try harder to be better wife to him but the more i try..the more it seem to make him angry and hate me more. I have to admit, i got lost in the depression and self pity..I gave up everything to be with him and left everyone i love and care about behind me. To be honest with you, that time was just so painful and bad..i try not to think or remember it. I did do something stupid..i was soo lost and didnt care anymore..there were times i would pray i wouldn't wake up. I met someone who made me feel good about myself and my husband did found out, i didn't have sex with him. we just sent each other pictures,it was HUGE mistake and something i totally regret. Things got a lot worse for us..he continue putting me down, telling me i was horrible person, i should go and kill myself..I'm bitch..and his has punch,kick me and grab my around my neck..i did call the cops on him once but i didn't for the other times because im scared he treat to kill me if i did and to be honest i really think he would as well. when he gets angry..i get really scared. I don't have any friends here in the usa, no one i can talk to. My mum has made it very clear that im not welcome back home. I'm only working a hour..its not much but its better than nothing. We did also stop having sex and he keeps saying he could divorce me over just that. I did make a female friend from forum, we were really good friends..we would even text each other and he got jealous i was talking to someone. one day..she was texting me, she was upset because she thought her boyfriend was cheating on her so i was trying to cheer her up and he ask to see my phone and i said no and he got really angry at me and then he next day he turn off my texts.

Well..i have some audio of him when we were having our fights he doesnt know i was record him and picture when he hit me.and i just found out his join a dating site..he also admit it and told me as soon as he find someone else..im history
I don't really have any money, i got my 10 year green card..but i don't know what to do..I did call up uscis and they gave me some numbers to call but my husband is home until 4pm and most of them close around that time.
I'm scared..because if he does divorce, i wont be allow to stay and i will have no where to go.


I'm not sure if you can help me, but im scared and i dont know what to do. so please..

You already have your green card?

Then you can stay even IF you get divorced!

Also - is this based on marriage? In other words, did your husband sponsor you using the I-864?

 

[needhelpasap2]

You already have your green card?

Then you can stay even IF you get divorced!

Also - is this based on marriage? In other words, did your husband sponsor you using the I-864?

I got my greencard via marriage and yes he does

 

[Proserpina]

I got my greencard via marriage and i think so..not sure

Then you absolutely do not have to leave the US.

If your husband sponsored you using the I-864, he may actually be legally required to provide support even though you have a short marriage.

You can file for divorce and request support according to the terms of the I-864, but I strongly recommend you do whatever it takes to get an attorney.

You also should spend some time reading about how sponsored immigrants have successfully sued their sponsors for support in this manner. Here's some reading to get you started:

http://www.ilw.com/articles/2006,0110-wheeler.shtm

 

[needhelpasap2]

One more question is there any way my husband can sue me over the money he spent on bring me over and looking after me?

 

[Proserpina]

One more question is there any way my husband can sue me over the money he spent on bring me over and looking after me?

Very short answer:

NOPE.

He did BOTH of those things voluntarily.

There is no case law or precedent, as far as I'm aware, of any sponsor successfully suing the immigrant for those things.

 

[needhelpasap2]

Very short answer:

NOPE.

He did BOTH of those things voluntarily.

There is no case law or precedent, as far as I'm aware, of any sponsor successfully suing the immigrant for those things.

few more question, I want to leave and file for divorce in another state but im worried that he might try or say something to make me look bad or get me into trouble is there anything he can do? and i also worried he might threw the whole me doing the pictures thing in my face?does that count as cheating? I didn't have sex with the guy..

And one more..his been going on dating site..does that count as cheating?

 

[Proserpina]

few more question, I want to leave and file for divorce in another state but im worried that he might try or say something to make me look bad or get me into trouble is there anything he can do? and i also worried he might threw the whole me doing the pictures thing in my face?does that count as cheating? I didn't have sex with the guy..

And one more..his been going on dating site..does that count as cheating?

It really doesn't matter.

Adultery/cyber cheating/whatever is not going to get you kicked out of the country; the only thing that it could possibly affect would be property/asset division and even then I haven't checked your State offhand - it's possible it wouldn't matter at all.

What else can he get you into trouble for?

 

[needhelpasap2]

It really doesn't matter.

Adultery/cyber cheating/whatever is not going to get you kicked out of the country; the only thing that it could possibly affect would be property/asset division and even then I haven't checked your State offhand - it's possible it wouldn't matter at all.

What else can he get you into trouble for?

That's it. My husband loves to fill my head with stuff and try to scary me and im not really sure what is true and what isn't true. He told me if i leave the state, he will call up uscis and report me and get me kick out of the country. And if i don't have sex with him, he can divorce me over it. is there anything he can do if i do leave Wisconsin?

 

[justalayman]

I caught something about moving to a different state. You have to file for a divorce in the state of your residence. If you move states, you would either have to wait the time that state requires you to be in the state to be a resident for the purposes of getting a divorce or file in your prior state.

 

[needhelpasap2]

I caught something about moving to a different state. You have to file for a divorce in the state of your residence. If you move states, you would either have to wait the time that state requires you to be in the state to be a resident for the purposes of getting a divorce or file in your prior state.

If i do move and i do wait that amount of time i need to, is there anything he can do against me? not really sure about usa laws..

 

[Proserpina]

That's it. My husband loves to fill my head with stuff and try to scary me and im not really sure what is true and what isn't true. He told me if i leave the state, he will call up uscis and report me and get me kick out of the country. And if i don't have sex with him, he can divorce me over it.

He can report you to whomever he pleases - you're already a legal permanent resident and he can do nothing whatsoever to change that. He also CANNOT withdraw his sponsorship (before he thinks about going down that particular route). His obligation to you, by the way (you're a third party to a contract between him and the US Government), does not end until one of these things happens:

1. You naturalize (become a citizen)
2. You leave the country permanently (abandon your residency)
3. Die
4. Earn 40 qualifying social security "quarters" (work approx. 10 years).

Divorce does not negate this obligation, either.

Please don't let him manipulate you like that.

If he wants to divorce you for cause versus no fault, let him file. Your priority needs to be getting yourself back on your feet and becoming independent (even if that means never suing for support - in fact, that might be a far more desirable option).

You live here legally - and unless you commit certain types of crimes and are convicted, or you decide to leave the US yourself, nobody can change that.

You're from the UK, right?

So am I. I've gone through a US/UK marriage, sponsorship and subsequent divorce. I rarely do this, but do feel free to send me a PM if you need to vent or anything.

 

[needhelpasap2]

He can report you to whomever he pleases - you're already a legal permanent resident and he can do nothing whatsoever to change that. He also CANNOT withdraw his sponsorship (before he thinks about going down that particular route). His obligation to you, by the way (you're a third party to a contract between him and the US Government), does not end until one of these things happens:

1. You naturalize (become a citizen)
2. You leave the country permanently (abandon your residency)
3. Die
4. Earn 40 qualifying social security "quarters" (work approx. 10 years).

Divorce does not negate this obligation, either.

Please don't let him manipulate you like that.

If he wants to divorce you for cause versus no fault, let him file. Your priority needs to be getting yourself back on your feet and becoming independent (even if that means never suing for support - in fact, that might be a far more desirable option).

You live here legally - and unless you commit certain types of crimes and are convicted, or you decide to leave the US yourself, nobody can change that.

You're from the UK, right?

So am I. I've gone through a US/UK marriage, sponsorship and subsequent divorce. I rarely do this, but do feel free to send me a PM if you need to vent or anything.

Yes, im from the uk and Im 24 and his older than me, its sad really because i gave up everything to be with him. my family and my friends and my life in the uk..i really did love him at one point but after all the pain and sadness i dont anymore. Now i just have to find a lawyer..which is going to be hard since i dont work and got like no money. I have been trying to get help but its seem like no one care or wants to.

Thank you.

Im not sure if you would know or not but i have voice recording of my husband and all the horrible stuff he say to me..do you think the court would accept it?

 

[LdiJ]

Yes, im from the uk and Im 24 and his older than me, its sad really because i gave up everything to be with him. my family and my friends and my life in the uk..i really did love him at one point but after all the pain and sadness i dont anymore. Now i just have to find a lawyer..which is going to be hard since i dont work and got like no money. I have been trying to get help but its seem like no one care or wants to.

Thank you.

Im not sure if you would know or not but i have voice recording of my husband and all the horrible stuff he say to me..do you think the court would accept it?

The thing is, you really don't need for the court to accept anything at all. You dont need a reason or his permission to get a divorce.

You are a permanent resident with the right to stay in the US. You can live anywhere in the US that you want to live. You are entitled to a share of the marital assets that have accrued during the marriage (and are equally responsible for marital debts). You have the right to request support based on his sponsorship of you.

You might seriously consider contacting a local domestic violence shelter for assistance with an exit plan, and they can also help you with resources as well.

 

[Proserpina]

The thing is, you really don't need for the court to accept anything at all. You dont need a reason or his permission to get a divorce.

You are a permanent resident with the right to stay in the US. You can live anywhere in the US that you want to live. You are entitled to a share of the marital assets that have accrued during the marriage (and are equally responsible for marital debts). You have the right to request support based on his sponsorship of you.

You might seriously consider contacting a local domestic violence shelter for assistance with an exit plan, and they can also help you with resources as well.

I think this is most excellent advice!

(And of course you're right about the rest of it too)