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Shears

Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia

I'm in a spot. My attorney has filed the petition for custody modification. Based on more than one change in circumstances, one of them being ex's notification of residential move; and one of the issues of the move being a consequence of impeding visitation as set forth in our original and only orders. Ex has known of the petition since mid-end of May, but evaded service and went ahead and moved (75 miles away) (and before the required 30 days after notification to me). She was actually finally served with the cust mod petition via private process on June 25. There is a 'Bench Trial' set for August 22. As of the last conversation I had with my attorney (on July 25), there is/was supposed to be an emergency hearing before that.

I have attempted to have a discussion with my attorney for 5 days now, and have been unsuccessful. I'm very stressed right now, not only because I have no clue what's going on with the case, but also because I have needed legal advice and have had to make certain decisions on my own this past week that really needed legal guidance. I've done my best based on information I research on this site.

(Side question: any advice on what it means when an attorney won't let you know what's happening? and how else to communicate when you leave a message once a day with him on his cell VM, or with his secretary at the office, and don't receive a call back?)

Legal issue coming up where I need advice from him but am worried I won't get it in time:

At this point, ex has registered our son for school in her location, and he starts there Monday, August 8. Our summer schedule is over as of this coming Sunday (tomorrow), and now the distance rears its ugly head even worse than it has over the summer.

Our orders state nothing about relocation of either parent. We have joint legal, she has primary physical. The orders are very vague regarding transportation by either parent. There is a statement "In the event they cannot agree, Husband shall have the right to physical custody of the child at the times specified later in this section."

"Husband shall physical custody of the child EOW from Fri at 3:30 p/m until Monday morning, with Husband returning the minor child to school on Monday morning. ... ... Every Wed from 3:30 p/m until the following morning when Husband shall return the minor child to school."

Clearly the above is impracticable. The distance is not 75 miles in a rural area. It would take about 4 hours to go between my home, his school, my work.

Does anyone have any advice on what I can, should, and must do here?

It appears based on our order, which just assumed we'd always live within 20 miles of each other or something, that I have the onus of all the transportation here. Specifically I think I have the responsibility of transportation 'back' for sure. And the fact is, if I want to see him at all, since the orders are unclear on transportation 'to', looks like it's on me as well, because she will *very* likely not bring him to me.

Legal advice on what to do with this? I won't 'die' over one or two weeks of lessened visitation, but in my experience with her and her attorney, our trial will get keep getting moved (last time it dragged out a year and a half). I fear the answer will be 'file xyz with the court'. Is there anything legally that I can, should, or must do in communication with ex in attempts to be with our son?

With this 'Bench Trial' set for Aug 22, even if her attorney drags this out, can at least this issue be addressed on that date? I just don't know how this works :(
 


LdiJ

Senior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia

I'm in a spot. My attorney has filed the petition for custody modification. Based on more than one change in circumstances, one of them being ex's notification of residential move; and one of the issues of the move being a consequence of impeding visitation as set forth in our original and only orders. Ex has known of the petition since mid-end of May, but evaded service and went ahead and moved (75 miles away) (and before the required 30 days after notification to me). She was actually finally served with the cust mod petition via private process on June 25. There is a 'Bench Trial' set for August 22. As of the last conversation I had with my attorney (on July 25), there is/was supposed to be an emergency hearing before that.

I have attempted to have a discussion with my attorney for 5 days now, and have been unsuccessful. I'm very stressed right now, not only because I have no clue what's going on with the case, but also because I have needed legal advice and have had to make certain decisions on my own this past week that really needed legal guidance. I've done my best based on information I research on this site.

(Side question: any advice on what it means when an attorney won't let you know what's happening? and how else to communicate when you leave a message once a day with him on his cell VM, or with his secretary at the office, and don't receive a call back?)

Legal issue coming up where I need advice from him but am worried I won't get it in time:

At this point, ex has registered our son for school in her location, and he starts there Monday, August 8. Our summer schedule is over as of this coming Sunday (tomorrow), and now the distance rears its ugly head even worse than it has over the summer.

Our orders state nothing about relocation of either parent. We have joint legal, she has primary physical. The orders are very vague regarding transportation by either parent. There is a statement "In the event they cannot agree, Husband shall have the right to physical custody of the child at the times specified later in this section."

"Husband shall physical custody of the child EOW from Fri at 3:30 p/m until Monday morning, with Husband returning the minor child to school on Monday morning. ... ... Every Wed from 3:30 p/m until the following morning when Husband shall return the minor child to school."

Clearly the above is impracticable. The distance is not 75 miles in a rural area. It would take about 4 hours to go between my home, his school, my work.

Does anyone have any advice on what I can, should, and must do here?

It appears based on our order, which just assumed we'd always live within 20 miles of each other or something, that I have the onus of all the transportation here. Specifically I think I have the responsibility of transportation 'back' for sure. And the fact is, if I want to see him at all, since the orders are unclear on transportation 'to', looks like it's on me as well, because she will *very* likely not bring him to me.

Legal advice on what to do with this? I won't 'die' over one or two weeks of lessened visitation, but in my experience with her and her attorney, our trial will get keep getting moved (last time it dragged out a year and a half). I fear the answer will be 'file xyz with the court'. Is there anything legally that I can, should, or must do in communication with ex in attempts to be with our son?

With this 'Bench Trial' set for Aug 22, even if her attorney drags this out, can at least this issue be addressed on that date? I just don't know how this works :(
Until a judge says differently, you have to follow the order.

That means that you pick the child up at 3:30, and you either drop him off at school Monday morning or you drop him off early, Sunday night.

You could also visit in his community on Wednesdays. Take him out to dinner and to some fun activity, for example.

You can certainly bring up the transportation issue at the earliest possible opportunity.
 

ProSeDadinMD

Senior Member
OP, when did this increase in distance(which really is only implied in your post) occur, and was proper notice for GA given? That will have an impact on how the court deals with it.
 

Shears

Member
OP, when did this increase in distance(which really is only implied in your post) occur, and was proper notice for GA given? That will have an impact on how the court deals with it.
Hi ProSeDadinMD -

From my research (and I'm legally ignorant - just doing my best here), proper notice was not given. Per Ga. Code Ann. § 19-9-1 [(c)(3)], she is to give me (and the court?) 30 days notice.

05/09: Ex notified me she was moving

05/20: My attorney filed petition for custody mod

05/25: Sheriff attempted service (ex was living at her parents' house and served there); her parents turned away service, saying she wasn't there

05/26: Ex posted online in public forum 'ex is suing me for custody again, probably because I'm moving'. Have copies/screenshots of this. Faxed to attorney.

05/27: Son told me "mom says we're moving next weekend".

06/04: Ex moved. In addition to having been told this by our son the prior weekend, I also found documentation online of the 'moving party', and have copies/screenshots of this. Faxed this information to my attorney.

06/09: My attorney filed an amended petition to add the actual move as another 'item', and also an item that the move 'is interfering with child custody and visitation'.

06/17: Sheriff attempted service again at parents' residence; they said 'she moved to xx city, we don't know her address'. This 'comment' (i.e., lie) is on file with the court.

06/24: My attorney received permission from court to serve her via private process

06/25: Ex was served; had 30 days to respond

07/23: (this was a Saturday) Ex retained attorney who phoned my attorney to notify he would be representing her.

07/25: (Monday) My attorney ran into hers at the courthouse and told me that he told other atty he wanted to transfer the case to juvenule court (this is what my atty wanted from day one, as he wants a GAL involved). He told me they 'mutually agreed to transfer the case'. He also told me during this conversation that he had enough for an emergency hearing, and would be filing for such that week. This was good news, as I was adamantly opposed to our son starting at yet another school he likely won't be at in a year, whether she retains custody or not. This is his 3rd school in 3 years.

It is now 08/06. I haven't heard from my attorney since 07/25. He's not returning calls, and honestly my stomach is in knots.

The last document filed with the court is the entry of service from 06/25. No entry of attorney information for her has been filed to date. No response to the petition from her has been filed to date.
 

Shears

Member
Crickets...

05/09: Ex notified me she was moving

05/20: My attorney filed petition for custody mod

05/25: Sheriff attempted service (ex was living at her parents' house and served there); her parents turned away service, saying she wasn't there

05/26: Ex posted online in public forum 'ex is suing me for custody again, probably because I'm moving'. Have copies/screenshots of this. Faxed to attorney.

05/27: Son told me "mom says we're moving next weekend".

06/04: Ex moved. In addition to having been told this by our son the prior weekend, I also found documentation online of the 'moving party', and have copies/screenshots of this. Faxed this information to my attorney.

06/09: My attorney filed an amended petition to add the actual move as another 'item', and also an item that the move 'is interfering with child custody and visitation'.

06/17: Sheriff attempted service again at parents' residence; they said 'she moved to xx city, we don't know her address'. This 'comment' (i.e., lie) is on file with the court.

06/24: My attorney received permission from court to serve her via private process

06/25: Ex was served; had 30 days to respond

07/23: (this was a Saturday) Ex retained attorney who phoned my attorney to notify he would be representing her.

07/25: (Monday) My attorney ran into hers at the courthouse and told me that he told other atty he wanted to transfer the case to juvenule court (this is what my atty wanted from day one, as he wants a GAL involved). He told me they 'mutually agreed to transfer the case'. He also told me during this conversation that he had enough for an emergency hearing, and would be filing for such that week. This was good news, as I was adamantly opposed to our son starting at yet another school he likely won't be at in a year, whether she retains custody or not. This is his 3rd school in 3 years.

It is now 08/06. I haven't heard from my attorney since 07/25. He's not returning calls, and honestly my stomach is in knots.

The last document filed with the court is the entry of service from 06/25. No entry of attorney information for her has been filed to date. No response to the petition from her has been filed to date.
I called the court this a/m to inquire if anything has been filed (since the 06/25 entry of service) that hasn't been updated on their website yet. The clerk said there's been nothing.

Anyone have a crystal ball handy...? It is appropriate that once a respondent retains an attorney they just all of a sudden don't have to respond to a petition anymore within the 30-day timeframe? If my attorney filed for an emergency hearing (which I can't even confirm he ever did right now :(), how long does that actually take to get scheduled?

Since my attorney isn't returning my calls, and he doesn't do email, but does do fax, I'm thinking I will write him a letter today and fax it to him asking what the status and plans are.

Crickets crickets everywhere right now!
 

TinkerBelleLuvr

Senior Member
I do feel your pain, but sometimes in the summer, it is difficult to get scheduling (think vacations).

Make an appointment with your attorney if you are that anxious.
 

Shears

Member
I do feel your pain, but sometimes in the summer, it is difficult to get scheduling (think vacations).

Make an appointment with your attorney if you are that anxious.
Light bulb! Duh! Thank you - I can't see the forest for the trees right now. I've been so focused on 'why isn't he calling me back' that 'make an appointment' didn't cross my mind. We've been doing everything by phone up until now (with the exception of the initial consult), and I had one-track-mind syndrome.

Thank you...

(and I hear you on the scheduling/vacations - makes sense - thanks)
 

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