Ex Parte Custody to 17 yr old's boyfriend's parents

[mistoffolees]

Well the paralegal for one of the attorney offices called me back to get some more info to pass onto the attorney before he called me back himself. Anyway, I explained the whole deal to her and she said it seems to be an epidemic with teens believing they run the world. She shared with me that she was going through the same thing with her 17 yr old son and that a friend of her's had the same problem with her 18 yr old son. Anyway, she said my husband should have been served with a copy of the ex parte order by now and that the attorney would be calling me back.

I will let ya'll know how this drama plays out. Thanks for all your help.

Yes, please do.


The paralegal may not be joking about an epidemic. Teens have become very sophisticated. When one of them finds a way to 'work the system', it becomes widespread knowledge in a hurry. Of course, most of them aren't mature enough to realize that the short term freedom may not be worth the long term pain.

 

[gotmyown3]

The attorney just called me back. He said that my husband can #1: call his daughter and tell her that she needs to be reasonable and come home or her boyfriend and his parents are facing felony interference in custody charges for lying to a judge for the purpose of obtaining temporary custody. She will then be placed in the custody of DHR due to her allegations and will remain in DHR's custody. #2: He can go to probate court and file for her emancipation now, however he will have to prove to the court she can support herself. #3: we can go ahead and move but he is looking at misdeamonor criminal abandonment. #4: He can try to reach an agreement with the other party for her custory without his paying child support.

 

[gotmyown3]

Well my husband is going to see his attorney on Friday. He got served by certified mail today. The boyfriend's parents are claiming they are friends of ours. We have met them once. They are claiming my husband threw his daughter out and threw all of her things into the driveway for her to pickup. That did not happen! They didn't bother to tell the judge this was the 2nd time around for her AND that their son is her boyfriend.

It just burns me up that she is willing to do this to him again!

 

[Banned_Princess]

Well my husband is going to see his attorney on Friday. He got served by certified mail today. The boyfriend's parents are claiming they are friends of ours. We have met them once. They are claiming my husband threw his daughter out and threw all of her things into the driveway for her to pickup. That did not happen! They didn't bother to tell the judge this was the 2nd time around for her AND that their son is her boyfriend.

It just burns me up that she is willing to do this to him again!

teenage girls can be especially heartbreaking to a perfectly great father.

she is probably having her own issues over any little thing.

I'm sorry for your husband but he is going to have to let her grow up herself if thats her deepest desire.

I would pay that lawyer for the custodial interference if I were him. Just because the family is lying for the girl. thats despicable.

 

[gotmyown3]

He is going to take the note she signed saying she didn't want to live with us anymore and follow our rules; the box from her closet with the cigarette boxes and used pregnancy test (which when he confronted her she claimed was a friend's. Yeah. Right. I keep all my friend's used pregnancy tests!), and the letters where her friends are asking her how long does she think she'll be able to lie to us about where she's been going. With that junk and her past history, I can't believe the judge won't see he was boondoggled.

 

[mistoffolees]

He is going to take the note she signed saying she didn't want to live with us anymore and follow our rules; the box from her closet with the cigarette boxes and used pregnancy test (which when he confronted her she claimed was a friend's. Yeah. Right. I keep all my friend's used pregnancy tests!), and the letters where her friends are asking her how long does she think she'll be able to lie to us about where she's been going. With that junk and her past history, I can't believe the judge won't see he was boondoggled.

You can be sure that the judge has seen it before.

If it were me, I'd file a criminal complain against the other adults. Custodial interference. Perjury. Filing a false report. And probably a few more things. Then I'd sue them to recover all my legal expenses.

And the girl? Well, she'd better learn to like sitting in her bedroom with no electronic devices and no toys - at least until she apologizes, admits that she was wrong, and agrees to abide by house rules.

 

[Banned_Princess]

that last bit might result in holes in the drywall, where girl is eating off her own foot to get away.

 

[CSO286]

You can be sure that the judge has seen it before.

If it were me, I'd file a criminal complain against the other adults. Custodial interference. Perjury. Filing a false report. And probably a few more things. Then I'd sue them to recover all my legal expenses.

And the girl? Well, she'd better learn to like sitting in her bedroom with no electronic devices and no toys - at least until she apologizes, admits that she was wrong, and agrees to abide by house rules.

Kick her happy little self right out of the Garden of Eden.
I'd take the door off the hinges, too. Privacy is a privilege.

 

[DownTime]

And, manual labor will take her mind off the nicotine withdrawals.

 

[mistoffolees]

that last bit might result in holes in the drywall, where girl is eating off her own foot to get away.

I doubt it. This doesn't sound like a kid who is willing to put up with pain or personal inconvenience to achieve a long term goal.

 

[gotmyown3]

I appreciate all the responses! I forgot, and my husband just reminded me, that this is actually her 3rd runaway. The 2nd time she changed her mind on her own and came back right away. Oh he's already said she won't be allowed to go anywhere without one of us with her. No cell phone. She can talk on ours in front of us, but only to her mother and grandmother. No friends.

Should he ask for a restraining order too, so those people will not try to come over or contact her?

 

[Banned_Princess]

I appreciate all the responses! I forgot, and my husband just reminded me, that this is actually her 3rd runaway. The 2nd time she changed her mind on her own and came back right away. Oh he's already said she won't be allowed to go anywhere without one of us with her. No cell phone. She can talk on ours in front of us, but only to her mother and grandmother. No friends.

Should he ask for a restraining order too, so those people will not try to come over or contact her?

That would be advisable.

good luck.

 

[mistoffolees]

I appreciate all the responses! I forgot, and my husband just reminded me, that this is actually her 3rd runaway. The 2nd time she changed her mind on her own and came back right away. Oh he's already said she won't be allowed to go anywhere without one of us with her. No cell phone. She can talk on ours in front of us, but only to her mother and grandmother. No friends.

Should he ask for a restraining order too, so those people will not try to come over or contact her?

Yes, absolutely. And based on their illegal activities, his chances of getting one are pretty good.

The reason it's important is that her mother apparently doesn't care. Without a restraining order, Mom could use her own parenting time to let the girl visit those people. A restraining order will prevent that.

 

[gotmyown3]

My husband's appointment with the attorney is today at 11. He wants me to meet him there since he is coming in from out of town. I don't really want to go but he wants me to write down stuff for him because he tends to forget.

So my question is, do I need to bring all the stuff we have such as the cigarette packs, the pregnancy test, the letters. Oh and my husband found a journal under her mattress with the heading "money for the baby" and dates with money totals. Or does my husband just tell him about the stuff?
And listen to this, I pulled up the boyfriend's mother's facebook page and my stepdaughter and her son are listed as a married couple under her family. Do I take that? Or do we just hang onto it for the judge?

 

[mistoffolees]

My husband's appointment with the attorney is today at 11. He wants me to meet him there since he is coming in from out of town. I don't really want to go but he wants me to write down stuff for him because he tends to forget.

So my question is, do I need to bring all the stuff we have such as the cigarette packs, the pregnancy test, the letters. Oh and my husband found a journal under her mattress with the heading "money for the baby" and dates with money totals. Or does my husband just tell him about the stuff?
And listen to this, I pulled up the boyfriend's mother's facebook page and my stepdaughter and her son are listed as a married couple under her family. Do I take that? Or do we just hang onto it for the judge?

I would definitely take the documents for the attorney - and let him decide which things are worth bringing in to court. Probably no need to bring the cigarette packs or pregnancy kit - although it wouldn't hurt to have a picture on your cell phone.