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[breezymom]

That's ok, Silver.

mariausa, he never directly threatens because he knows I document and will call the police if I have to. The last time I had to the officer and I both knew how he would get around it. The officer called it "towing the line." He puts things in ways that only people who are on the inside would understand, when it comes to me, so in a court of law, it could mean several things. At the court hearing before the last, he looked over at my parents and said, "Phase one complete. Phase two of the game has already started." That is one example.

 

[breezymom]

I may be the only one here this way...but if I received threats to my safety, I would be calling the police, and filing a report. See what they have to say. It may not stop anything, but I don't take kindly to being threatened, its not OK. If he continued after that, I would file for a restraining order and that all parenting contact (outside of emergency with child) happen via email.

Forgot the last part about the email thing: Our contact is almost entirely via one of the networking sites, now, and any message I receive there is emailed to me with time, date, etc. It was more through text messages. Unfortunately, my phone crapped and I lost 6 months' worth. My company does not keep the messages for more than two days. His, however, may.

Just with the veiled threats on his page (no name included but posted within 5 minutes of knowing I have logged in), and those text messages lost, along with the way he does things, I am sure I don't have enough for a protective order. I just keep talking with my counselor and the DV counselor.

 

[mistoffolees]

That's ok, Silver.

mariausa, he never directly threatens because he knows I document and will call the police if I have to. The last time I had to the officer and I both knew how he would get around it. The officer called it "towing the line." He puts things in ways that only people who are on the inside would understand, when it comes to me, so in a court of law, it could mean several things. At the court hearing before the last, he looked over at my parents and said, "Phase one complete. Phase two of the game has already started." That is one example.

Then you've got nothing. Learn to live with it.

As long as he realizes that he can send you into a tailspin with a single word, he will. If you stop letting it bother you, it will eventually stop.

 

[DownTime]

Then you've got nothing. Learn to live with it.

As long as he realizes that he can send you into a tailspin with a single word, he will. If you stop letting it bother you, it will eventually stop.

That is the absolute truth.

Take away his power over you and watch how fast it stops.

 

[breezymom]

Unfortunately this is the way everyone he has harassed thinks, including the folks of whom he actually has done things more outright to. It goes in phases, the phases getting closer together to weekly and now more than weekly. Some folks he has harassed thinks if they ignore it, it will go away. Years later, it still continues, yet he still gets no reaction from them. He still randomly shows up places and harasses them about the same things. He still harasses me about the same things these couple years later.

I have my daughter sleeping with me at the moment because she woke up, interestingly enough, again, on an overnight week, als she does every single time she spends the night, complaining that the window, of all things, is going to hurt her. Except now she is being more specific than the window by also saying: The man is gonna get me momma. This has been going on for three nights straight. I've been told by her counselor that while things like under the bed and in the closet may be normal developmentally for her age, the specificity of the window is not.

 

[DownTime]

How about a little security camera, then. These things are a lot cheaper and more savvy then in years past.

And you can go to a local security business and get as many ideas to protect your child as possible.

Your kid may be playing off of you, of course, but sans adopting a sweet but scary looking pit bull, you could get more proactive when it comes to a kid?

If what you're doing isn't working, try something else.