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I am heartily in support of the advisor who said don't rush into unemployment. You will, of course, need to inform them about your daughter's pregnancy in time to ask for the day of the delivery off in advance if you feel you will need to be there and it will be worth it to you.
Otherwise, what's going on at your home is none of their business. You are certainly not obligated to tell them your daughter is having a baby. You do not have to beg for sympathy vote or plead for time off. If you have leave accumlated, you have asked for it in a timely manner, according to the usual process of this company, and you are ordinarily granted it, that's not an unreasonable request. If they tell you "If you take this leave, you will be terminated" then you'll have to make the decision there about whether it is worth it for you. Electing to take leave knowing it would result in your discharge may cause you not to be approved for benefits, but its a toss up. If there were serious last minute complications at the birth and you needed to rush to your daughter's bedside, that would be another issue.
Actually they are the ones who are being a little bit stupid, because if they do not have a valid misconduct reason to terminate you, (you don't quit, mind you, they terminate you) then you will quite likely be approved for unemployment benefits, and their unemployment tax rates will go up. Which is the reason many employers just try to treat the employee so badly, and insult them and be so unfriendly and unsupportive that the employee quits, which means they don't get unemployment insurance.
It's an actual management strategy. So your response is to do your work politely, professionally, and to the best of your abilities, regardless of how they treat you and what they say to you until you can actually leave because you have found a better job. These people being super moral and wanting to terminate you because your daughter has gotten pregnant is just an example of how badly you need a new job, because they're jerks. If you are doing your best, not doing anything they can reasonably call misconduct, not violating any company policies, and they fire you for a dumb reason like "I took a day of vacation leave when my daughter had a baby," it would likely turn out you were able to be approved for unemployment.
Come back here if you are fired and we'll see if we can help you with this.
But in the meantime, you need the job, you need the income, and you need to be able to help your daughter most by allowing her to be responsible, while you are responsible in the way you need to be, by continuing to work as long as possible, not letting what is going on at home interfere with your work life, showing her how a responsible parent really helps take care of a child.
Good luck to you and your family.
Otherwise, what's going on at your home is none of their business. You are certainly not obligated to tell them your daughter is having a baby. You do not have to beg for sympathy vote or plead for time off. If you have leave accumlated, you have asked for it in a timely manner, according to the usual process of this company, and you are ordinarily granted it, that's not an unreasonable request. If they tell you "If you take this leave, you will be terminated" then you'll have to make the decision there about whether it is worth it for you. Electing to take leave knowing it would result in your discharge may cause you not to be approved for benefits, but its a toss up. If there were serious last minute complications at the birth and you needed to rush to your daughter's bedside, that would be another issue.
Actually they are the ones who are being a little bit stupid, because if they do not have a valid misconduct reason to terminate you, (you don't quit, mind you, they terminate you) then you will quite likely be approved for unemployment benefits, and their unemployment tax rates will go up. Which is the reason many employers just try to treat the employee so badly, and insult them and be so unfriendly and unsupportive that the employee quits, which means they don't get unemployment insurance.
It's an actual management strategy. So your response is to do your work politely, professionally, and to the best of your abilities, regardless of how they treat you and what they say to you until you can actually leave because you have found a better job. These people being super moral and wanting to terminate you because your daughter has gotten pregnant is just an example of how badly you need a new job, because they're jerks. If you are doing your best, not doing anything they can reasonably call misconduct, not violating any company policies, and they fire you for a dumb reason like "I took a day of vacation leave when my daughter had a baby," it would likely turn out you were able to be approved for unemployment.
Come back here if you are fired and we'll see if we can help you with this.
But in the meantime, you need the job, you need the income, and you need to be able to help your daughter most by allowing her to be responsible, while you are responsible in the way you need to be, by continuing to work as long as possible, not letting what is going on at home interfere with your work life, showing her how a responsible parent really helps take care of a child.
Good luck to you and your family.
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