What are my rights?

[p.o.divorce]

What is the name of your state :Nevada, My son is in CA and im in NV. My son cries on the phone and says he wants to live with me. His other parent tells him no, even while he's cryin to me on the phone. Mediator says that i just cant take him away from his brothers. Whats going to hurt him worse, the fact that the other parent tells him no and manipulates, or seeing his brothers everyother weekend? Can I go get him because of this. I have 50% legal, cause i moved to nevada, 2 hrs away. He"s suffering in school, and it's emotionally draining both of us. I cant afford a lawyer. My court date is in two weeks, and need advice .

 

[Antigone*]

What is the name of your state :Nevada, My son is in CA and im in NV. My son cries on the phone and says he wants to live with me. His other parent tells him no, even while he's cryin to me on the phone. Mediator says that i just cant take him away from his brothers. Whats going to hurt him worse, the fact that the other parent tells him no and manipulates, or seeing his brothers everyother weekend? Can I go get him because of this. I have 50% legal, cause i moved to nevada, 2 hrs away. He"s suffering in school, and it's emotionally draining both of us. I cant afford a lawyer. My court date is in two weeks, and need advice .

The mediator is correct.

 

[Isis1]

you will not get custody based on the child crying and wanting to live with you. sounds like YOU are the one manipulating the child. keep the conversation light. redirect.

how is the child suffering in school? how old is the child? most judges don't like seperating siblings. and you are out of state. how are you helping the other parent maintain schoolwork responsibilities.

 

[Antigone*]

you will not get custody based on the child crying and wanting to live with you. sounds like YOU are the one manipulating the child. keep the conversation light. redirect.

how is the child suffering in school? how old is the child? most judges don't like seperating siblings. and you are out of state. how are you helping mom maintain schoolwork responsibilities.

pssst... I think mom is the manipulator. See her other thread.

Mom ~ why did you move away?

 

[mistoffolees]

What is the name of your state :Nevada, My son is in CA and im in NV. My son cries on the phone and says he wants to live with me. His other parent tells him no, even while he's cryin to me on the phone. Mediator says that i just cant take him away from his brothers. Whats going to hurt him worse, the fact that the other parent tells him no and manipulates, or seeing his brothers everyother weekend? Can I go get him because of this. I have 50% legal, cause i moved to nevada, 2 hrs away. He"s suffering in school, and it's emotionally draining both of us. I cant afford a lawyer. My court date is in two weeks, and need advice .

I agree with the other posters. Instead of spending your energy trying to take the child away from the only home he's ever known, why not spend that energy trying to help him adjust and to thrive with his life.

Co-parenting is about helping the kids, not about fighting for custody every time you see something you don't like.

 

[Isis1]

pssst... I think mom is the manipulator. See her other thread.

Mom ~ why did you move away?

you're right! and i have been working SO hard at being gender nuetral today! darn! that totally slipped!

 

[p.o.divorce]

thanks for the back-up. I havnt asked him to come live with me, it was never my intention to uproot my children. I moved to get out under my exhusband, and start a life with better qualities. Dad was making better money, so i had my children live with him. I didnt have an education, so this economy makes it hard to start out making enough to support 3 and me. So basically, morals say move back to CA, ?

 

[p.o.divorce]

As far as the school work, this is the first year that dad has done school with the three. I think it's good for him to see what it takes.

 

[Antigone*]

thanks for the back-up. I havnt asked him to come live with me, it was never my intention to uproot my children. I moved to get out under my exhusband, and start a life with better qualities. Dad was making better money, so i had my children live with him. I didnt have an education, so this economy makes it hard to start out making enough to support 3 and me. So basically, morals say move back to CA, ?

Where you live is up to you.

 

[Silverplum]

As far as the school work, this is the first year that dad has done school with the three. I think it's good for him to see what it takes.

Okay, then.

 

[p.o.divorce]

There has to be something I can do. The mediator warned dad about not giving me my visitation. and about manipulation. Dad went as far as lying in mediation about me and got caught. how will that be brought to the judge? I want to do what is best for my children, and if one child wants to be with me, what action do I take? Just because I live in Nevada doesnt make a lesser parent. Please, I need advice,

 

[Silverplum]

There has to be something I can do. The mediator warned dad about not giving me my visitation. and about manipulation. Dad went as far as lying in mediation about me and got caught. how will that be brought to the judge?

Mediation is over and done with. Anything that happened before then is over and done with.

What do you have that is NOW?

Denying parenting time? IF you showed up to pick up the kids and were denied, you file for contempt.

I want to do what is best for my children, and if one child wants to be with me, what action do I take? Just because I live in Nevada doesnt make a lesser parent. Please, I need advice,

Custody has already been determined.

Court date in 2 weeks for WHAT, exactly?

 

[CSO286]

There has to be something I can do. The mediator warned dad about not giving me my visitation. and about manipulation. Dad went as far as lying in mediation about me and got caught. how will that be brought to the judge? I want to do what is best for my children, and if one child wants to be with me, what action do I take? Just because I live in Nevada doesnt make a lesser parent. Please, I need advice,

How is Dad manipulating the child?

Are you going to allow the child to choose whether or not to go to school, too? What if after a month or so, child wants to go back and live with his father?

And allowing a child to think that he or she gets to choose with whom to live is really bad parenting. Children should not be under the impression they get a choice in the matter. Children do not possess the emotional maturity to make these kinds of choices.

What are you doing to encourage the child to succeed where he is?

 

[p.o.divorce]

Thankyou for that, and can u change custody? my girl friend said i should request a psycologist to interview the children, too see who they want to live with. will that do more harm than good?

 

[Antigone*]

Thankyou for that, and can u change custody? my girl friend said i should request a psycologist to interview the children, too see who they want to live with. will that do more harm than good?

Do not take legal advice from your girlfriend. She is absodanglutely wrong.