What are my rights?

[CSO286]

OP's other thread (for hx and context):

https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/whats-best-defense-560159.html

 

[p.o.divorce]

Dad is telling children they can spend the night at friends house, or go wheelin, rather than go to my house. And I have explained that moving if a tuff decision and that he would have to go to school with me also. I encourage good behavior at school and he reads to me over the phone, and with me. I have also explained he would miss his father just as much. I am not keeping anything from him. It just seems that no matter how much I remind him he is ok with dad, he still says he wants to live with me.

 

[Silverplum]

Dad is telling children they can spend the night at friends house, or go wheelin, rather than go to my house. And I have explained that moving if a tuff decision and that he would have to go to school with me also. I encourage good behavior at school and he reads to me over the phone, and with me. I have also explained he would miss his father just as much. I am not keeping anything from him. It just seems that no matter how much I remind him he is ok with dad, he still says he wants to live with me.

That's not a change of circumstances for a custody switch.

 

[CSO286]

Dad is telling children they can spend the night at friends house, or go wheelin, rather than go to my house. And I have explained that moving if a tuff decision and that he would have to go to school with me also. I encourage good behavior at school and he reads to me over the phone, and with me. I have also explained he would miss his father just as much. I am not keeping anything from him. It just seems that no matter how much I remind him he is ok with dad, he still says he wants to live with me.

You should not be discussing this topic with him at all. Your response should be along the lines of "Honey, I love you bunches, this is something for your Dad and I to deal with ahd I will not discuss it with you."

 

[p.o.divorce]

See thats the problem, Dad has children call me on situations, dad does not discuss anything untill i tell children "give Dad the phone, I want to talk to him"

 

[Silverplum]

See thats the problem, Dad has children call me on situations, dad does not discuss anything untill i tell children "give Dad the phone, I want to talk to him"

That's a co-parenting problem.

 

[p.o.divorce]

Should I request for Dad to attend a parenting class? I have asked for him to discuss things with me rather than have children involved, for the last four years, and he wont. So how do i show my cause to the judge that my youngest is better off with me?

 

[Silverplum]

Should I request for Dad to attend a parenting class?

You can always ask. Whatever you want for him, you will do also.

I have asked for him to discuss things with me rather than have children involved, for the last four years, and he wont. So how do i show my cause to the judge that my youngest is better off with me?

What is the change of circumstances in the child's life that makes it better that he live with you and separate from his siblings, in contradiction to the mediator's recommendations?

 

[p.o.divorce]

I can give him more one on one, I live in a neighbohood with other children, dad does not, i have more child activities near , such as ffa, boy scouts, indoor swim teams, etc. dad does not, he lives in the woods. somethings to do, but not alot, and not near.

 

[Silverplum]

I can give him more one on one, I live in a neighbohood with other children, dad does not, i have more child activities near , such as ffa, boy scouts, indoor swim teams, etc. dad does not, he lives in the woods. somethings to do, but not alot, and not near.

None are a change of circumstances in the child's life.

 

[p.o.divorce]

change of circumstances, like has dad not notified me if he has moved? yes. but then I called him to get the address. so now wat? Does dad use school bus transportation without the district or transportation buisness knowing, yes, cause he has friends that work thier, so is it bad for me not to turn him in? or just leave it alone . he does alot of sly buisness but it hasnt seemed to help when i brought it up in court .
OH, and how do you find out if the judge is my ex's family member?

 

[Proserpina]

change of circumstances, like has dad not notified me if he has moved? yes. but then I called him to get the address. so now wat? Does dad use school bus transportation without the district or transportation buisness knowing, yes, cause he has friends that work thier, so is it bad for me not to turn him in? or just leave it alone . he does alot of sly buisness but it hasnt seemed to help when i brought it up in court .
OH, and how do you find out if the judge is my ex's family member?

For pete's sake, you're not changing custody at this point.

You need to GET that.

And really - stop trying to fling mud at Dad. Your own hands will be left dirty.

 

[p.o.divorce]

I know it seems as tho Im reaching, but thats not it at all.

 

[Silverplum]

change of circumstances, like has dad not notified me if he has moved? yes. but then I called him to get the address. so now wat? Does dad use school bus transportation without the district or transportation buisness knowing, yes, cause he has friends that work thier, so is it bad for me not to turn him in? or just leave it alone . he does alot of sly buisness but it hasnt seemed to help when i brought it up in court .

None of those things are a change of circumstances in the child's life that are compelling reasons to give you custody and split the children.

OH, and how do you find out if the judge is my ex's family member?

Call up the judge and ask him/her.

 

[Silverplum]

I know it seems as tho Im reaching, but thats not it at all.

Yes, you're reaching.