Getting 2 holidays added to existing holiday schedule

[mistoffolees]

You are irresponsible on this one and quite frankly run your mouth half-****ed. You have no interest in the child's well being do you? Shame on me, shame on you Misto for taking what has always been for the child, AFTER EX AND I DIVORCED, and making it a three ring circus. Get it through your thick skull, I don't want a court battle I would like for it to be discussed reasonbly between us parents to coparent but no coparenting has happened for years due to his wife not allowing conversation to happen in order for the two parents to be able to coparent and come to some terms for the child's best interest.

No comment again about how I called DV on him?

Please view this - and think about the phrase:
Does it Take two to Tango? - GEICO Commercial - YouTube

Instead of this nonsense above how about Oprah's Life Class on OWN. I recommend it highly for you.

OK. You know everything. So why are you here again?

 

[mariasusa]

Actually, for an issue as small as this, I don't see the point in hiring an attorney. I would file prose. CA has self help centers to help you with filing. The only cost would be filing fee's and the time taken off work.

I'm not biased one way or the other. I know for me however, Easter holiday is more than one day. Actually our court order its Easter and XMas that myself and ex split and alternate the holiday because they are so long.

 

[cherylsarah01]

OK. You know everything. So why are you here again?

Oh Misto please give me and everyone else a break. Because someone does not agree with you and and your making half****ed statements and assumtions and don't really know what you are talking about half the time in this particular thread, please. Using the old "so why are you here" card, please.

Ultimatley I will have to determine if this is something worth taking to court. I have your opinion and that's all it really is, nothing more and the fact of what has always been for the child and decide.

Once again, Oprah's life class on OWN is very good and I recommend it for you.

Thank you for your opinions and debate. Honestly I appreciate it. Have a great rest of your day.

 

[stealth2]

She just turned 10 in July but this isn't for me it's for the child. I hear what you are saying but don't for one minute make it about me. Halloween happens to be a big deal in my neighborhood for kids and adults and the things that go on only happen on Halloween night. Those two holidays are some of the favorites of my kids. I can understand that I can do an early Easter, except for church services.

Okay - I misread the age in your very first original post from 2009 - I saw a 9 instead of an 8. Mea Culpa.

So what is so special about what your neighborhood does for Halloween?

Easter? I can see more, if it is celebrated as a religious holiday. Our order has us switching eoy, except when his Easter and mine coincide - and then I have priority as the kids are baptised Orthodox and we do celebrate the religious Easter. And yes, I have had Easter more as a result.

I still don'tuinderstand why you didn't address these two days when you addressed the other holidays. Makes no sense to me.

What has changed is it used to be switched back and forth and now it is not. As far as a cooparenting situation, we haven't had one in years not even with classes/counseling. He is very high and mighty on himself and even though he was in court for domestic violence had the nerve to tell the mediator and judge he is a better parent when most people would feel some shame in what they did.

He said no way in hell they are mine it's not negotiable. What am I sapposed to do with that?

Nothing unique in any of this. Comes down to how much time do you want to spend fighting. I chose to just give in on the small stuff like this so that we could all live in some relative peace. <shrug> You're free to choose differently.

 

[stealth2]

Oh Misto please give me and everyone else a break. Because someone does not agree with you and and your making half****ed statements and assumtions and don't really know what you are talking about half the time in this particular thread, please. Using the old "so why are you here" card, please.

Ultimatley I will have to determine if this is something worth taking to court. I have your opinion and that's all it really is, nothing more and the fact of what has always been for the child and decide.

Once again, Oprah's life class on OWN is very good and I recommend it for you.

Thank you for your opinions and debate. Honestly I appreciate it. Have a great rest of your day.

Lose the potty-mouth, okay? Try expressing yourself like an adult.

 

[cherylsarah01]

Lose the potty-mouth, okay? Try expressing yourself like an adult.

Stealth, I used the word half-****ed because it was used by Misto and I was making a point.

I believe I express myself like an adult.

 

[cherylsarah01]

Okay - I misread the age in your very first original post from 2009 - I saw a 9 instead of an 8. Mea Culpa.

So what is so special about what your neighborhood does for Halloween?

My neighborhood actually gets together and does theme houses inside and out. It goes a few blocks. The night of Halloween the neighbors and I open our home up, like an open house, and have specific things besides trick-or-treating. Some have an ice cream bar, some are haunted houses, some are drink bars, it's like a big block party with live music featuring Thriller and The Monster Mash and the decorating is outstanding. It's just a big deal is all I can say.

Easter? I can see more, if it is celebrated as a religious holiday. Our order has us switching eoy, except when his Easter and mine coincide - and then I have priority as the kids are baptised Orthodox and we do celebrate the religious Easter. And yes, I have had Easter more as a result.

I still don'tuinderstand why you didn't address these two days when you addressed the other holidays. Makes no sense to me.

My ex actually did up the schedule at the time of divorce. When I went in to sign, although amicable, I was still upset and did not catch that those holidays were not on nor did my ex realize it at the time. After the divorce we continued to switch them like the other holidays because we both realized they were accidentally left out.

Nothing unique in any of this. Comes down to how much time do you want to spend fighting. I chose to just give in on the small stuff like this so that we could all live in some relative peace. <shrug> You're free to choose differently

It's small to me, not so small to my daughter, I wish it were. Ultimatley, I will have to choose. I feel like fighting this and going to court like I need a whole in the head.

 

[Isis1]

regardless. i don't care what his neighborhood does or what your neighborhood does.

you absolutey CAN request a hearing to adjust the visitation schedule for the price of a filing fee.

you do NOT need a change of circumstance.

misto, you are wrong about that.

there is nothing wrong or controlling about getting the visitation schedule clarified.

is it the biggest deal on the planet? no. but it's not wrong. you don't need to start any nonsense about why your holloween is better. just you want to share. that's all.

no garuantee you'll get it....but it's up to you to decide to ask.

for me, because i have mutiple children, those holidays are important in my house. and i try to really cater to the fact they are seperate on some holidays. but then again...i covered all this in my orders already.

 

[mistoffolees]

you do NOT need a change of circumstance.

misto, you are wrong about that.

I already provided a reference:
Modification of Custody or Visitation in a California Divorce

You don't like that one? Let's try the official California court web site:
California Courts - Changing a Custody Order
"You have to show that there has been a “change in circumstances” since the final custody order was made. This means that there has been a significant change that requires a new custody and visitation arrangement for the best interest of the children."

Or maybe a CA lawyer:
Change (Modify) Child Custody Or Child Visitation Orders - California Law From Kinsey Law Offices'
"Basis For Modification Of Child Custody And Child Visitation Orders - Changed Circumstances. A party seeking to modify a "permanent" custody order can do so only upon a showing of a significant change of circumstances so affecting the child that modification is essential to the child's welfare. "

Or maybe another CA county court:
Superior Court of California - County of Orange
"Either parent can ask the court to change the custody and/or visitation orders if circumstances change."

Women's law group:
WomensLaw.org | California: Custody
" If you have a final custody order already in place, you can petition the judge to make changes to it (modify it) only if there has been a “substantial (significant) change in circumstances” since the custody order was issued."

Another attorney:
Child Custody & Visitation Rights in Sacramento California
"In order to support a request for a change to a custody or visitation arrangement, the parent seeking the modification must show a substantial change in circumstances."

That's an awful lot of information saying that a change of circumstances is required. So far, I haven't seen ANYONE show that it's not required.

 

[Isis1]

mom and dad agreeing once and now not agreeing. change of circumstance. but it does NOT mean the case will NOT be heard. it it doesn't mean the motion will be denied since it's NOT a HUGE change of circumstance.

she doesn't need one to file. or to be heard in front of a judge.