how to get him to stick with it

[greatmom3252]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ
My husband and I are going to file for divorce. He pays almost all the bills. He states he will continue to pay if I don't get lawyers involved and "take him to the cleaners". How do I get him to stick with paying the bills he currently pays?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ
My husband and I are going to file for divorce. He pays almost all the bills. He states he will continue to pay if I don't get lawyers involved and "take him to the cleaners". How do I get him to stick with paying the bills he currently pays?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Is there a reason why you're not contributing?

 

[stealth2]

What are you doing to support yourself and contribute to the support of your children?

 

[mistoffolees]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ
My husband and I are going to file for divorce. He pays almost all the bills. He states he will continue to pay if I don't get lawyers involved and "take him to the cleaners". How do I get him to stick with paying the bills he currently pays?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Nothing that he agrees to is enforceable until you get it signed off by a judge. The two of you can draft an agreement which spells out exactly what each of you will do and then submit it to the court as a stipulated agreement. Until you have a court order saying that he will pay the bills, he doesn't have to.

You might want to quietly meet with an attorney, though. You will want to be sure that whatever he is offering is fair.

 

[LdiJ]

She did say that he pays "almost all the bills" that means that she must be paying something, therefore she must have some income of her own.

 

[Bali Hai]

She did say that he pays "almost all the bills" that means that she must be paying something, therefore she must have some income of her own.

Yes, I'm thinking she pays to get her hair done, manicures, pedicures, tanning booths etc.

 

[greatmom3252]

yes i have a job and i make alot less than he does... my money goes to bills. i do not get my hair done, nails done or anything of the like.

 

[greatmom3252]

thank you for all the other of the advice... meeting with an attorney seems to be what i should do.

 

[nextwife]

What sorts of incomes do you both have, and what sort of monthly and total shared debt obligation? I work with a lot of divorced/divorcing borrowers in my work, and too many seem to think that there won't be a lifestyle change when the cost of supporting TWO households gets added, and they were barely managing one while together. You need to examine financially what is viable based on existing input and financial output requirements. Seperating won't make your prior debt obligations go away. Make a plan that is financially realistic and viable.

 

[Captain Picard]

Yes, I'm thinking she pays to get her hair done, manicures, pedicures, tanning booths etc.

Thats a lot of upkeep ~ 3000 dollars monthly u figure?