Personal service

[Zigner]

And serving me in front of our daughter is making her privy to court goings on, which the judge has "smacked" the NCP's hand in the past for doing.

The woman handed you a sealed envelope and didn't say a word! That is exactly the OPPOSITE!

 

[Silverplum]

I never said I was going to mention it in court, I asked if I should mention it to my lawyer, who I would hope would tell me I am just being petty or otherwise.
And serving me in front of our daughter is making her privy to court goings on, which the judge has "smacked" the NCP's hand in the past for doing.
Hence my question of should I bother to ask my lawyer.

Wife did not involve the child.

 

[Just Blue]

Wife did not involve the child.

I'm kinda wondering how the child knew that Mom was being served? My children, who are REALLY REALLY bright, would not auto-assume that Mom getting an envelope = court doc's.

 

[smommy1992]

I'm kinda wondering how the child knew that Mom was being served? My children, who are REALLY REALLY bright, would not auto-assume that Mom getting an envelope = court doc's.

How does she know? Because NCP constantly talks to her about he and I going to court. Whether its over child support or otherwise. What does she need to know about that for?

And she texted me after I was served and she left with NCP for this week since its his Thanksgiving holiday with her, stating, "I know what XXX handed you mom, its for court again. Im sorry he is doing this to you, again. I hope I dont get called into see the mediator AGAIN because of my father. I dont want to talk to a mediator anymore!"......Did I respond? Nope. NCP checks her cell phone 24/7 when she is there. If he sees that msg from her to me, then so be it. Im not going to add fuel to the fire.

 

[TheGeekess]

I'm kinda wondering how the child knew that Mom was being served? My children, who are REALLY REALLY bright, would not auto-assume that Mom getting an envelope = court doc's.

OP says Dad is discussing court matters with Princess. It's possible....

 

[Zigner]

OP says Dad is discussing court matters with Princess. It's possible....

Yes, but that doesn't mean that the service was in violation of any rules/orders/etc.

 

[Zigner]

How does she know? Because NCP constantly talks to her about he and I going to court. Whether its over child support or otherwise. What does she need to know about that for?

But, your question was SPECIFICALLY about the method of service.

 

[TheGeekess]

Yes, but that doesn't mean that the service was in violation of any rules/orders/etc.

I wasn't addressing that, but it was legal service.

 

[smommy1992]

But, your question was SPECIFICALLY about the method of service.

Also asked because the wife did it in front of our daughter.

Referring to our daughter as Princess, LOL she hates being called that.

 

[Silverplum]

Also asked because the wife did it in front of our daughter.

And THAT is the part I keep saying is petty. Pointless. Not against the law.

 

[Zigner]

Also asked because the wife did it in front of our daughter.

Referring to our daughter as Princess, LOL she hates being called that.

Oh BROTHER

 

[smommy1992]

Oh BROTHER

Another clueless poster huh? Must make your day to constantly deal with folks like us? LOL

 

[Ohiogal]

And I apologize for the deletion.

No, it was lacking class big time. I have a meeting with my attorney next week regarding the new court cases, that is why I just asked if that was something to even worry about mentioning.

Thank you all for the advice.

Yeah well you were lacking class in deleting your thread. So apparently you and dad are both classless. Congrats. You are well matched with your co parent. Use that as common ground to come to a solution. That and you both had sex to create a child and now need to meet that child's needs without being selfish.

I won't hold my breath you actually will do that however. Back to whiskey and coke.

 

[Nevergrowup]

If you are meeting with your lawyer anyway, I'd mention it and then show him the text. While not against the rules, doing it in front of your daughter and she was aware of what it was is extremely tacky, and I doubt that a judge (not that it will probably get that far) would think it is an exceptionally good parenting choice to have your ex served in front of your child. Might be worth saying something to your attorney who might mention it to the other attorney.

I agree with the others that it is not a case altering situation, but IMO it was in extremely poor taste, since your daughter knew what it was. Different if she didn't.

 

[smommy1992]

Yeah well you were lacking class in deleting your thread. So apparently you and dad are both classless. Congrats. You are well matched with your co parent. Use that as common ground to come to a solution. That and you both had sex to create a child and now need to meet that child's needs without being selfish.

I won't hold my breath you actually will do that however. Back to whiskey and coke.

Yes, I was lacking in class by deleting my prev thread, and I apologized for that.

Yes, we both created a child. I expected her needs to be met by him and vice versa when we divorced. We DON"T get along, one of the many reasons we got divorced. We DON"T see eye to eye on parenting, due to since I dont attend church, he holds that against me that I cant possibly know how to parent. I hear it constantly. Yet, I have had primary physical custody of our daughter since day one. I have never withheld visitation from him. I don't tell her she cant attend church with him. But I am constantly ridiculed for being a "bad parent"....

We have been to parenting classes. And did they help? On my end, yes and no. On his end, doesn't seem like it. I am the first to admit I am not the "perfect" parent. And when you have to deal with the other parent who does no wrong in his mind and constantly points the finger at you, it gets harder and harder not to stoop to their level. Im only human, I can only take so much bs until it gets to be too much.