Verbal Abuse

[Proserpina]

well visitation needs to stop bc this has created too many problems and im not putting my son thru that an ya all i have to do is call the cops to make sure a restraining order is put on his "wife" and she cant go near our son

You aren't getting a restraining order.

The police cannot restrain stepmommy without a restraining order.

The police will not (and do not) hand out restraining orders.

 

[lilmansmom]

Repeat after me: "I am a terrible mother. I am a terrible mother."

Please stop spawning. I only hope your children have more brainpower than you do. You cannot love your son and act this way. You are damaging him terribly.

no actually i am protecting him

 

[Just Blue]

well visitation needs to stop bc this has created too many problems and im not putting my son thru that an ya all i have to do is call the cops to make sure a restraining order is put on his "wife" and she cant go near our son

Really? You have that kind of omnipotent power? Can I have some???

 

[CSO286]

i tried asking him if he wants to go he SAYS no im not gonna force him to do something he doesnt want to do. and my ex called for thanksgiving and guess what, I LET our son talk to him he told him himself he doesnt want to spend any time with him bc of his "wife"

Well that is mistake number one. You don't give a small child options like that. The choice he gets is: "Do you wnt to waer the blue sweatshirt or the red one when you go visit your Daddy?"

Do you make sure he eats his veggies? Pick up toys? Brushes his teeth? Get shots/blood draws at the clinic when needed? And, if he refused, you'd make him, right? Because you know he doens't understand the long term repurcusions of malnutrition or poor oral hygeine. He is too young to see and comprehend the "big picture."

Same principle applies to his time with his Dad.

 

[lilmansmom]

You aren't getting a restraining order.

The police cannot restrain stepmommy without a restraining order.

The police will not (and do not) hand out restraining orders.

and i will let the cops know my son doesnt like her and doesnt want her around when and if he must visit he can tell the cops that also and with all the problems she causes for me i have it documented and police reports, they will see

 

[Nevergrowup]

no actually i am protecting him

Yeah. By making him a whiney terrified baby that is afraid of his own father. TERRIBLE MOTHER.

 

[Nevergrowup]

and i will let the cops know my son doesnt like her and doesnt want her around when and if he must visit he can tell the cops that also and with all the problems she causes for me i have it documented and police reports, they will see

Because it is awesome for a kid to be in the middle of police involvement against his own father because his mother is a terrible mother. Yep, Mother of the Year.

 

[Proserpina]

and i will let the cops know my son doesnt like her and doesnt want her around when and if he must visit he can tell the cops that also and with all the problems she causes for me i have it documented and police reports, they will see

Won't matter.

The cops don't care.



Oh, wait a second!

When your son tells the cops that you're a mean Mommy and he doesn't want to be around YOU, you're going to be fine with that, aren't you?

 

[lilmansmom]

Well that is mistake number one. You don't give a small child options like that. The choice he gets is: "Do you wnt to waer the blue sweatshirt or the red one when you go visit your Daddy?"

Do you make sure he eats his veggies? Pick up toys? Brushes his teeth? Get shots/blood draws at the clinic when needed? And, if he refused, you'd make him, right? Because you know he doens't understand the long term repurcusions of malnutrition or poor oral hygeine. He is too young to see and comprehend the "big picture."

Same principle applies to his time with his Dad.

ok so if that was my mistake then my ex will get in as much trouble for asking him to go and asking him why he doesnt want to then so thank u for that help there. and actullay i dont need to tell him these things hes smart enough to know and does them anyway he can make his own decisions he doesnt want to go with dad and doesnt like his "wife" im not forcing him

 

[Just Blue]

and i will let the cops know my son doesnt like her and doesnt want her around when and if he must visit he can tell the cops that also and with all the problems she causes for me i have it documented and police reports, they will see

I take the "Kelly" back. You are not bright enough to be her.

 

[frylover]

Right now the whole "he doesn't want to" thing works out great for you because YOU don't WANT him to want to have a relationship with dad. You're tickled to pieces about the fact that the hatred you've fostered has taken root. BUT, one day he is going to "not want to" do something you DO want him to. And you won't be able to control him because you've spoiled and coddled and indulged him and let him be the boss and make decisions that should not be his to make. You reap what you sow.

 

[Nevergrowup]

ok so if that was my mistake then my ex will get in as much trouble for asking him to go and asking him why he doesnt want to then so thank u for that help there. and actullay i dont need to tell him these things hes smart enough to know and does them anyway he can make his own decisions he doesnt want to go with dad and doesnt like his "wife" im not forcing him

You are a truly awful, terrible mother. One day your son will see that.

 

[lilmansmom]

Won't matter.

The cops don't care.



Oh, wait a second!

When your son tells the cops that you're a mean Mommy and he doesn't want to be around YOU, you're going to be fine with that, aren't you?

actually my son wont say that bc he actually loves me unlike his father

 

[Proserpina]

actually my son wont say that bc he actually loves me unlike his father

He's going to say that.

Soon.

Trust me.

 

[lilmansmom]

Right now the whole "he doesn't want to" thing works out great for you because YOU don't WANT him to want to have a relationship with dad. You're tickled to pieces about the fact that the hatred you've fostered has taken root. BUT, one day he is going to "not want to" do something you DO want him to. And you won't be able to control him because you've spoiled and coddled and indulged him and let him be the boss and make decisions that should not be his to make. You reap what you sow.

and its sad my son hates his father bc of his wife but i guess that dont matter right? my son sees that his dad has always chosen "wife" over him and has only caused problems but that dont matter right how my son gets hurt about that and knows that