Drugs involved

[lilmansmom]

You are a vile thing, aren't you? Do the world a favor....keep your legs closed.

Excuse me? My children are well taken care of so until someone proves otherwise then i dont need to. apparantly u only read the bad so let me give u a list shall i

1.he has never been there in our childs life age 7 now our child doesnt know him and doesnt care to know him.

2. His wife has only created problems for us. she has started problems in public, she doesnt allow him to have contact with our child and my son DOESNT LIKE HER. he has seen how much problems she has created and doesnt want to be around her.

3. my son IS NOT SAFE WITH HIM. his other "child" was attacked by a dog under his "supervision" and now the drug investigation with him.

4. my sons grades have dropped, he's in counseling for anger depression anxiety issues he gets headakes and stomach pains just the thougt of having to go with his dad.

now would you like to continue calling me names or do u finally see it is REALLY in our childs best interest not to have any contact with this man

 

[Silverplum]

"Jealousy is the great exaggerator."
-- Johann Christoph Friedrich von Schiller

 

[lilmansmom]

"Jealousy is the great exaggerator."
-- Johann Christoph Friedrich von Schiller

im not jealous but thank you

 

[Silverplum]

You're burning up with white-hot jealousy. It's as obvious as the nose on your face.

"Jealousy is an awkward homage which inferiority renders to merit."
-- Mme. de Puixieux

im not jealous but thank you

 

[lilmansmom]

You're burning up with white-hot jealousy. It's as obvious as the nose on your face.

"Jealousy is an awkward homage which inferiority renders to merit."
-- Mme. de Puixieux

what do i need to be jealous of exactly? i have my kids and boyfriend

 

[Nevergrowup]

Excuse me? My children are well taken care of so until someone proves otherwise then i dont need to. apparantly u only read the bad so let me give u a list shall i

1.he has never been there in our childs life age 7 now our child doesnt know him and doesnt care to know him.

2. His wife has only created problems for us. she has started problems in public, she doesnt allow him to have contact with our child and my son DOESNT LIKE HER. he has seen how much problems she has created and doesnt want to be around her.

3. my son IS NOT SAFE WITH HIM. his other "child" was attacked by a dog under his "supervision" and now the drug investigation with him.

4. my sons grades have dropped, he's in counseling for anger depression anxiety issues he gets headakes and stomach pains just the thougt of having to go with his dad.

now would you like to continue calling me names or do u finally see it is REALLY in our childs best interest not to have any contact with this man

Look. I still think you are a terrible mother. However, I'm going to share a few things with you.

1. Doesn't matter. My ex sucked for the first 5 years our daughter was alive. He decided to be daddy of the year when he met his new wife. So, I feel your pain, but it DOESN'T MATTER. There is NOTHING you can do about it. You are a holding a grudge that serves no purpose. Was I mad? YES! I couldn't stand him! But I had to let him be a father. No choice.

2. I understand. I HATE my daughter's stepmom. Doesn't matter. He is allowed to have who he wants around the child, besides a registered sex offender. You have to let it go. Just have no contact with her. NONE. That means don't call her work for ANY reason! If she answers his phone, ask nicely to speak with him. If she says no, hang up.

3. Why do you use "child" in parentheses? Is it his child or not? And that doesn't matter. You don't get to decide if he is safe. I know that frustrates you, because you are used to taking care of him alone. But you have to LET GO.

4. This is largely YOUR FAULT. If you had encouraged the relationship, your son would have had a much easier time. You do everything in your power to make it difficult or impossible. As a custodial parent, it is your job to faciliate the relationship between your son and the non custodial parent, even if you don't like him. I don't like my ex. I still encouraged the relationship, because 1) I had to, and 2) it really was the best thing for my daughter.

Now, my daughter no longer talks to her dad...she is 17..she resents him for many things. But things she found out on her own, not with my help. Your son isn't stupid. If Dad is terrible, he'll figure it out. But you must encourage the relationship, or you could LOSE YOUR SON.

 

[lilmansmom]

Look. I still think you are a terrible mother. However, I'm going to share a few things with you.

1. Doesn't matter. My ex sucked for the first 5 years our daughter was alive. He decided to be daddy of the year when he met his new wife. So, I feel your pain, but it DOESN'T MATTER. There is NOTHING you can do about it. You are a holding a grudge that serves no purpose. Was I mad? YES! I couldn't stand him! But I had to let him be a father. No choice.

2. I understand. I HATE my daughter's stepmom. Doesn't matter. He is allowed to have who he wants around the child, besides a registered sex offender. You have to let it go. Just have no contact with her. NONE. That means don't call her work for ANY reason! If she answers his phone, ask nicely to speak with him. If she says no, hang up.

3. Why do you use "child" in parentheses? Is it his child or not? And that doesn't matter. You don't get to decide if he is safe. I know that frustrates you, because you are used to taking care of him alone. But you have to LET GO.

4. This is largely YOUR FAULT. If you had encouraged the relationship, your son would have had a much easier time. You do everything in your power to make it difficult or impossible. As a custodial parent, it is your job to faciliate the relationship between your son and the non custodial parent, even if you don't like him. I don't like my ex. I still encouraged the relationship, because 1) I had to, and 2) it really was the best thing for my daughter.

Now, my daughter no longer talks to her dad...she is 17..she resents him for many things. But things she found out on her own, not with my help. Your son isn't stupid. If Dad is terrible, he'll figure it out. But you must encourage the relationship, or you could LOSE YOUR SON.

my son is 7 and he already has figured it out though from everything he's seen. and i say "son" bc the boy doesnt look anything like him but another guy we know yet he has been there all this time for a child that might not be his and forgot all about our child

 

[>Charlotte<]

Are you guys seriously not done letting this chick bounce you around like a ball yet?

 

[Silverplum]

"Envy is the most stupid of vices, for there is no single advantage to be gained from it."
-- Honore de Balzac

my son is 7 and he already has figured it out though from everything he's seen. and i say "son" bc the boy doesnt look anything like him but another guy we know yet he has been there all this time for a child that might not be his and forgot all about our child

 

[Nevergrowup]

my son is 7 and he already has figured it out though from everything he's seen. and i say "son" bc the boy doesnt look anything like him but another guy we know yet he has been there all this time for a child that might not be his and forgot all about our child

Did you read anything else I said? You have to get over your bitterness. Your son has the right to form his own opinions, without your help.

You have to get over your own agenda. It is obvious you don't want dad anywhere near your son. That isn't your choice to make, and the more you push this, the better the liklihood that eventually dad will be able to take custody away from you. Is that what you want?

Don't answer if you are going to spout some kind of drivel. If you actually read what I wrote in this post and the prior one and would like to discuss, I'm willing. Otherwise, you'll just reiterate what I already think...you are a terrible mother. You aren't listening, you don't care about anything but your bitterness and what you want.

You know how I said that your son will figure dad out on his own? If he grows up to realize you prevented a relationship with his dad (and I know he sucked for 7 years, you don't have to say it again) he'll HATE YOU FOR IT. Kids aren't stupid, they'll eventually figure out which parent was the problem (assuming it is only one of them).

 

[Silverplum]

"Envy is ignorance."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Are you guys seriously not done letting this chick bounce you around like a ball yet?

Oh, it's you.

I was just on autopilot, giving this poster the help she needs.

 

[2MsWife]

Excuse me? My children are well taken care of so until someone proves otherwise then i dont need to. apparantly u only read the bad so let me give u a list shall i

1.he has never been there in our childs life age 7 now our child doesnt know him and doesnt care to know him.

2. His wife has only created problems for us. she has started problems in public, she doesnt allow him to have contact with our child and my son DOESNT LIKE HER. he has seen how much problems she has created and doesnt want to be around her.

3. my son IS NOT SAFE WITH HIM. his other "child" was attacked by a dog under his "supervision" and now the drug investigation with him.

4. my sons grades have dropped, he's in counseling for anger depression anxiety issues he gets headakes and stomach pains just the thougt of having to go with his dad.

now would you like to continue calling me names or do u finally see it is REALLY in our childs best interest not to have any contact with this man

None of that really matters, to be honest. If you were trying to impress me, you failed miserably.

The bottom line is that you slept with him (apparently without protection) and allowed him to impregnate you. You chose to carry the pregnancy to term and give birth, thereby choosing him to be the child's father. Guess what? There are no do-overs.

Keep up with what you're doing and dad is going to get custody of this child. Watch. Oh and the whole drug thing? Can it. It's pretty much meaningless at this point. I mean really. People have sexually abused their children and still had visitation. You think you're going to get visitation suspended bc someone told you that dad is being "watched and investigated?" Yeah. Not gonna happen. Unless your judge is an idiot.

 

[Proserpina]

Are you guys seriously not done letting this chick bounce you around like a ball yet?

Good afternoon, m'lovely!

How about a round of drinks?

 

[Ohiogal]

I am not a liar and if i was so terrible i wouldnt have full custody of any of my children. i have tried being civil in the past when he wanted nothing to do with our child, im DONE! our child wants nothing to do with him, he is being watched and investigated, it is not safe for our child to have any contact with him now that this is going on, i think you all can agree it's not safe to put our child in that position agreed?

Please get all of your advice from LDIJ from now on. She believes she knows more than 99% of all attorneys in the country and, in fact, God himself, if she were Christian or religion. THerefore, LDIJ is the only crazed one sufficient from which to receive to advice.

 

[Ohiogal]

my son is 7 and he already has figured it out though from everything he's seen. and i say "son" bc the boy doesnt look anything like him but another guy we know yet he has been there all this time for a child that might not be his and forgot all about our child

Your son has already figured out that you are a lying whore? Give it ten minutes. LDIJ will be by to give you advice. listen to her. While normally I would steer people away from her expertise, YOU I will tell to listen to her every step of the way. She LOVES mothers. To the point of being biased and stupid. Errr... full of information. Yeah. That is what I meant.