Moral clause

[Just Blue]

This is not same sex marriage.

Your posting History says otherwise.

 

[Proserpina]

This is not same sex marriage.

Then you need to make up your mind who you are.

 

[tbraquet]

Oh. I didn't realize it showed the sex. I am using my friends account. Sorry for the confusion.

 

[Antigone*]

Oh. I didn't realize it showed the sex. I am using my friends account. Sorry for the confusion.

No matter. Responses stay the same. Violate the order and be ready to be held accountable. Same goes for your husband. Do the nasty on days your ex has the kids.

 

[tbraquet]

It's really not a matter of having sex. It's a matter of me being able to have whomever I want to have stay at my house whenever I want. He left me and the kids and now he wants to still try and control me. That is what is really ticking me off. If I would not have pushed him to file he would have left us just separated forever. Also can the times of day be changed? 10pm seems rather early since we are often up way past 10pm.

 

[Just Blue]

Oh. I didn't realize it showed the sex. I am using my friends account. Sorry for the confusion.

I get that you are not bright enough to figure out that the posting history of the account will be perused....Hence the "I think it's fine to expose the children to my adultery" thread.

The next question will be "Why does my son/daughter think underage sex with random strangers is fine?".

 

[Proserpina]

It's really not a matter of having sex. It's a matter of me being able to have whomever I want to have stay at my house whenever I want. He left me and the kids and now he wants to still try and control me. That is what is really ticking me off. If I would not have pushed him to file he would have left us just separated forever. Also can the times of day be changed? 10pm seems rather early since we are often up way past 10pm.

Seriously? This is coming across as you're more keen on thwarting Dad than being concerned about what's actually in the best interest of the children.

 

[tbraquet]

Look "Blue" I didn't ask for anyone to chime in on how I live my life. I asked about what can be done about having and trying to omit a moral clause. So leave my personal life out of it and just stick to the question of how can I protest the clause and or change it.

Thank you.

 

[Antigone*]

Look "Blue" I didn't ask for anyone to chime in on how I live my life. I asked about what can be done about having and trying to omit a moral clause. So leave my personal life out of it and just stick to the question of how can I protest the clause and or change it.

Thank you.

If the judge signed the temporary order it is too late. If not, and having the new fling in your bed while your kids are there is all that important have him pay for an attorney for you if you can't afford it.

 

[Just Blue]

Look "Blue" I didn't ask for anyone to chime in on how I live my life. I asked about what can be done about having and trying to omit a moral clause. So leave my personal life out of it and just stick to the question of how can I protest the clause and or change it.

Thank you.

You can't "omit" the clause.

If you don't like the legal reality please feel free to visit www.skanky/gov.wantwhatiwantwheniwantit.org/tx

 

[tuffbrk]

It's really not a matter of having sex. It's a matter of me being able to have whomever I want to have stay at my house whenever I want. He left me and the kids and now he wants to still try and control me. That is what is really ticking me off. If I would not have pushed him to file he would have left us just separated forever. Also can the times of day be changed? 10pm seems rather early since we are often up way past 10pm.

Well here's the thing - no paramour clauses are quite common while going through a divorce. It's thought to be in the best interests of the children. Especially if you continue to reside in the marital home.

There was no reason on earth why you couldn't have filed for divorce. He didn't have to initiate it. So you need to put that aside.

I'm also concerned that you may have brought the children into your marital woes. Complained about their Dad, put him down for walking out. If you did - and I'm not saying that you did - but if you did, that will be held against you in court. Bringing another person into their lives, basically "replacing" Dad/alienating Dad will also not be looked upon favorably so it's truly in your best interests to:

1) Agree to the clause
2) Encourage your children to renew their relationship with Dad
3) Help your children to understand that everyone, even Dads, make mistakes and that it was a hard time for both of you and you both may have made mistakes but that it wasn't meant to hurt them
4) Get yourself and your children into therapy.

Especially you. Anyone who can "move on" that quickly and get into a serious relationship that quickly is rebounding. During Parenting classes, it was explained that you should never get seriously involved with someone until a full year after the divorce is FINAL. 85% of divorced folks who remarry in less than that time wind up divorcing (that percentage was quoted in 2005). The suggested way to look at it is - You missed having a TV. You got another TV. What you do not immediately realize is that the new TV is the same as the old TV just a newer/prettier/skinnier/more-hair-on-his-head/fun model. The components though are the same.

Give yourself some time. Your whole family needs therapy - not a replacement. Good luck.

 

[tbraquet]

The order has not been signed yet. The ex just brought it to me today to look over.

 

[Antigone*]

The order has not been signed yet. The ex just brought it to me today to look over.

get an attorney.

 

[tuffbrk]

The order has not been signed yet. The ex just brought it to me today to look over.

You need to bring it to an attorney for a review. Call around, get a consult. When you find someone you seem to "click" with ask what an attorney review and recommendation would cost. Proceed from there.

 

[tbraquet]

I would love to get an attorney, but I can't afford one. I have 4 kids and very little income. The child support I get and the income I make barely pay the bills now. And I would not ask my bf to pay for the attorney either, One it is not his divorce, 2 he can't afford to pay for an attorney.