Can an affair sex video be legally used in court to lock him out of his house?

[Proserpina]

Thank you for your response.

He went over there this morning and asked for the new house keys, and his keys to their ford explorer back. She locked him out and would not let him inside.

If he breaks down the door, he'll may be accused of being violent and wreckless which will negatively impact his potential custody rights. He's thinking of his son first.

They plan on splitting the custody 50/50, but she keeps the house and he keeps all the furniture/everything inside the house. They're trying to do a collaborative "alternative to court" approach.

He has an appointment with an attorney this Monday, but the attorney is a collaborative attorney. His wife is a litigator, and she has a litigator/collaborative attorney. He fears he's at a disadvantage.

Oh honey, he's not thinking of his son first.

He's not thinking of his son at all.

 

[Ohiogal]

I'm in a 1.5 year long affair, and we made a sex tape at my apartment. One week ago, his wife found the sex video at his house, and in an emotional frenzy, she changed the locks to their house so he cannot have access.

Okay, so you made a sex tape with a married man.

The house title is in both their names. She threatens to use the sex videos against him in court if he tries to re-enter. They're divorcing now. They have a son. The son was not around during sex video. The sex video depicts us having sex on my couch (nothing that exciting and certainly nothing illegal).

In what state are you located? Because in some states YOU can be sued for millions of dollars for screwing a married man. The fact that you have no morals is not relevant.

His wife is a successful insurance/medical malpractice attorney, and her father is a retired attorney and legal mediator. Her father warned my lover, "you will not find a judge in the state who will give you access to your house with those sex videos." Is this legal for her to use our sex videos against him?

Yes it is legal for her to use these sex videos against her spouse who committed adultery.

Also, are my privacy rights being violated that she has my sex videos and threatening to use them in court? This is in Washington, which is a no-fault state.

Your privacy rights are not being violated. YOU chose to be with a married man and VIDEOTAPE your sexcapades. The fact that the video exists means you have NO CONTROL of where it turns up. Hopefully, you are not a teacher or someone else who works with children or someone who has a contract that deals with morals because you might end up losing your job due to your extracurricular activities that show a lack of morals. Next time you decide to act -- don't videotape it. You did. Therefore, if it is aired on national television, don't scream about it. YOU CHOSE to display your butt, vagina and everything else on video. You also chose to screw a married man.

 

[Ohiogal]

Well, I was also asking for my own legal advice... did you read the end of the question asking about whether my privacy rights are violated?


I know affairs are a very touchy issue. Moral convictions should not interfere with my right to receive fair, reasonable, and accurate legal advice for this situation.

He has asked me to be involved in his divorce.

You are involved due to the fact that you were out to a married man. You can cause your ex to be liable for every dang dime he spent on his affair with the cheap mistress he screwed (oh yeah, that was you) -- from meals to the cost of the video tape to tape your sexcapades. He can also find himself losing custody and having to pay alimony not to mention replacing EVERY DANG DIME that went to your cheap affair.

 

[Ohiogal]

Yes, I was very upset about the sex tapes being discovered, but I sympathize with him. He and his wife have been heading for this divorce for 3 months. They unofficially separated three weeks ago. The sex tapes were created when they were separated and his wife took their son out of town "to think." He had them hidden in his library, and his wife was not known for snooping around. His wife neglected their marriage; she checked out of their marriage a long time ago. It was highly uncharacteristic and unexpected for her to snoop around last week and find the videos. His wife is an attorney and has a bar license to protect. She is intelligent and level-headed, and I don't think she will release our sex videos for the sake of her son. Her son needs a father.


They are pursing a collaborative approach without lawyers and trying to avoid court.

They have been heading for divorce for 3 months but you have been screwing him for 1.5 years? Okay. So the fact that you intruded upon his marriage and knew that he was not thinking of divorce until the last three months? YOU need help.
He apparently checked out of his marriage way before she did. Wifey should broadcast the sex videos to every place she legally can. Her son does not need a deadbeat philanderer who would have sex with any cheap piece that comes into view. Oh yeah. That would be you. And his son definitely doesn't need exposed toyou.

 

[Proserpina]

You are involved due to the fact that you were out to a married man. You can cause your ex to be liable for every dang dime he spent on his affair with the cheap mistress he screwed (oh yeah, that was you) -- from meals to the cost of the video tape to tape your sexcapades. He can also find himself losing custody and having to pay alimony not to mention replacing EVERY DANG DIME that went to your cheap affair.

Alimony (spousal maintenance) is not fault-based in WA state.

 

[Ohiogal]

Why don't I have privacy rights exactly?

You screwed a married man for the last 1.5 years. His wife wasn't looking at divorce until 3 months ago. YOU screwed the man on tape which made the act public. You can be the next porn star. May she post it on YOU TUBE. She has every right in the world to do so. Why? Because she has the tape. She found the tape that showed such trash having sex. And she could post it if she wanted.

 

[Ohiogal]

Thank you for your response.

He went over there this morning and asked for the new house keys, and his keys to their ford explorer back. She locked him out and would not let him inside.

If he breaks down the door, he'll may be accused of being violent and wreckless which will negatively impact his potential custody rights. He's thinking of his son first.

They plan on splitting the custody 50/50, but she keeps the house and he keeps all the furniture/everything inside the house. They're trying to do a collaborative "alternative to court" approach.

He has an appointment with an attorney this Monday, but the attorney is a collaborative attorney. His wife is a litigator, and she has a litigator/collaborative attorney. He fears he's at a disadvantage.

Really? He was thinking of his son when he was screwing you? Doubtful.

 

[Proserpina]

Well, if I were playing the OG drinking game, I'd probably be snockered by now.

That aside - I think we're being played, folks.

 

[Ohiogal]

I asked him to spend the night with me last Sunday night. When he got home at 6:30am Monday morning, his wife was standing at the front door waiting to confront him that she found the sex tape that night. He came back to my house at 7:30am.


Edit: I partly take blame for the sex tape discovery, because if he hadn't spent the night with me then his wife would never have snooped around that night. I shouldn't have insisted he spend the night.

Sweetie, for the last 1.5 years you have been nothing but the whore he has been using to get off on. You are the cheap bit on the side. If his wife decides to buy ad time to air the sex tape, you have no claim. YOU decided to screw a married man. If that means you lose everything, then guess what? You deserve it. You knew he was married. You knew that for the last three months, divorce has been an option though you have been screwing him for the past 1.5 years according to you.

How cheap are you? Apparently, very. I got a nickel. My dog is lonely. Will you please him? Because apparently that is your price.

 

[Ohiogal]

Alimony (spousal maintenance) is not fault-based in WA state.

Dissipation of marital assets is however. I missed the state in her first post.
Oh and if he is screwing the OP, he definitely can't think he will actually get alimony. That will be a consideration. Now she can open her wallet to support him.

 

[Ohiogal]

Well, if I were playing the OG drinking game, I'd probably be snockered by now.

That aside - I think we're being played, folks.

I'll send you some of the whiskey balls I made earlier. Chief ingredient: Whiskey. Followed by cocoa, graham crackers and everything else.

 

[I'mTheFather]

I got a nickel. My dog is lonely. Will you please him? Because apparently that is your price.

Seriously? What do you have against your dog??

 

[ecmst12]

OG you really need to get over your animosity towards single people who sleep with married people. THEY are not the ones breaking vows and THEY are not the cause of marriages breaking up. It's the sleazy MARRIED people who choose to have affairs that are causing the problem. The single people they victimize may be stupid and have low self esteem but you can't MAKE someone break their marriage vows if they didn't already want to.

 

[stealth2]

He has asked me to be involved in his divorce.

As a word of warning - the above should show you just how much he doesn't care about you. Run away. Quickly.

 

[cbg]

WHOA, there, girl, dial it down a notch, okay?

I don't disagree with you in theory, but how about we try to keep the board at a PG13 level, huh? I'm 500 miles away and I can hear you from here.