Relationship

[Mt8711]

I live in Arkansas. I'm 24 with a great legal history and outside of the occasionally speeding ticket I have done nothing wrong ever. My question is this and judge me lightly I have been talking to a girl who is 17 outside of a hug we have had no physical contact but we carry strong emotions for each other. Her parents don't like it who could blame them we've tried to talk but it always ends up with them yelling. I don't believe I am in any legal trouble but I don't know. They have threathened a no contact order. I have read up on that and I don't stalk harass send any unwanted contact or inappropriate contact or abuse mentally or physically her at all. What can they do and what can I do? Thank you

 

[cbg]

As long as she is even one minute under 18, she is under the care and control of her parents and they are GOD. Regardless of whether you think your behavior is inappropriate or not, if they say stay away then you STAY AWAY.

I do not know how to make it any more clear than that.

 

[sandyclaus]

I live in Arkansas. I'm 24 with a great legal history and outside of the occasionally speeding ticket I have done nothing wrong ever. My question is this and judge me lightly I have been talking to a girl who is 17 outside of a hug we have had no physical contact but we carry strong emotions for each other. Her parents don't like it who could blame them we've tried to talk but it always ends up with them yelling. I don't believe I am in any legal trouble but I don't know. They have threathened a no contact order. I have read up on that and I don't stalk harass send any unwanted contact or inappropriate contact or abuse mentally or physically her at all. What can they do and what can I do? Thank you

If you don't want to get into legal trouble, then listen to the parents and stay away from the girl until she turns 18. Until then, her parents get to decide whether or not you get to be anywhere near her. And it sounds to me that although there hasn't YET been any inappropriate contact, there is a strong possibility since you confess to carry 'strong emotions' for each other.

If you truly care about her, you will respect the parents' wishes and stay away for now.

 

[Mt8711]

Okay next question, I am well studied in this area due to circumstances, the legal age of consent is 16; the legal age for lawful marriage is 17 without parent permission. If that's the case then what's the deal with the other statements? I am aware that every state differs.

 

[Proserpina]

Okay next question, I am well studied in this area due to circumstances, the legal age of consent is 16; the legal age for lawful marriage is 17 without parent permission. If that's the case then what's the deal with the other statements? I am aware that every state differs.

Because they are not mutually exclusive statements. While she remains at home, under their roof, she plays by her parents' rules.

What I'm seeing too, is that a minor under the age of 18 cannot marry without parental consent:

http://www.lawfirms.com/resources/family/marriage-and-prenuptials/marriage-arkansas.htm

 

[cbg]

Because the age of consent and the age of majority are not the same thing. The law may give her permission to consent to sex at 16, but she is not a legal adult until 18. Her parents cannot make the illegal legal, but they can make the legal illegal.

 

[LdiJ]

Okay next question, I am well studied in this area due to circumstances, the legal age of consent is 16; the legal age for lawful marriage is 17 without parent permission. If that's the case then what's the deal with the other statements? I am aware that every state differs.

You cannot be prosecuted for statutory rape if she is over the age of consent, but you can be restrained from having contact with her and can be jailed for violating that restraining order if she is not a legal adult.

 

[stealth2]

I live in Arkansas. I'm 24 with a great legal history and outside of the occasionally speeding ticket I have done nothing wrong ever. My question is this and judge me lightly I have been talking to a girl who is 17 outside of a hug we have had no physical contact but we carry strong emotions for each other. Her parents don't like it who could blame them we've tried to talk but it always ends up with them yelling. I don't believe I am in any legal trouble but I don't know. They have threathened a no contact order. I have read up on that and I don't stalk harass send any unwanted contact or inappropriate contact or abuse mentally or physically her at all. What can they do and what can I do? Thank you

Honestly? A *normal* 24yo adult isn't going to be interested in a 17yo for any sort of serious relationship. Male OR female. Go find a girl your own age.

 

[Ohiogal]

Okay next question, I am well studied in this area due to circumstances, the legal age of consent is 16; the legal age for lawful marriage is 17 without parent permission. If that's the case then what's the deal with the other statements? I am aware that every state differs.

Why does an ADULT want to be with a CHILD?

A parent has a right to make decisions to protect the child. End of story. They can get a no contact order against you. If their daughter disobeys them, they can file a criminal complaint against you for corruption of a minor and against their daughter for incorrigibility. You may be 24 but you are very immature.

Leave the CHILD alone.

 

[Mt8711]

Okay very helpful. The fact is I know age difference is a bad thing, but it's the only con. However I am not fighting them to stay in contact with her, and I'm not giving any legal trouble. Next though is the parents have allowed for the father to beat this girl physically and mentally. He busted her nose open, put bruises all on her, and fractured her hips as well as threathened to kill her and shot guns off. This was before me and her started talking, but I had already known her for some time. Since then he has verbally abused her and hit her yet again. He's an alcoholic and both the parents have allowed for this to continue. I do appreciate honesty about this topic, but there are no needs to attack my state of position. The ones who look real mature ate the ones who point fingers (insert sarcasm).

 

[NellieBly]

If she's being abused in such a manner, have you contacted CPS and the police?

 

[mistoffolees]

Okay very helpful. The fact is I know age difference is a bad thing, but it's the only con. However I am not fighting them to stay in contact with her, and I'm not giving any legal trouble. Next though is the parents have allowed for the father to beat this girl physically and mentally. He busted her nose open, put bruises all on her, and fractured her hips as well as threathened to kill her and shot guns off. This was before me and her started talking, but I had already known her for some time. Since then he has verbally abused her and hit her yet again. He's an alcoholic and both the parents have allowed for this to continue. I do appreciate honesty about this topic, but there are no needs to attack my state of position. The ones who look real mature ate the ones who point fingers (insert sarcasm).

You need to call the police and CPS. The fact that you haven't done so either indicates that you really don't believe that she's in danger or you're OK with the situation.

 

[cbg]

I find it very curious indeed, the number of cases we hear about where the abuse is never mentioned until AFTER the adult looking for a relationship with a child/teen looking for emancipation is not given the answer he or she wants...

 

[CLJM]

I find it very curious indeed, the number of cases we hear about where the abuse is never mentioned until AFTER the adult looking for a relationship with a child/teen looking for emancipation is not given the answer he or she wants...

Well...if plan A doesn't work----move on to plan B, etc.

 

[mistoffolees]

I find it very curious indeed, the number of cases we hear about where the abuse is never mentioned until AFTER the adult looking for a relationship with a child/teen looking for emancipation is not given the answer he or she wants...

Especially when the adult claims to care so much about the child that they can't live their life without them - yet they don't care enough to do anything about the alleged abuse.