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[CdwJava]

Could be, but the GF may have given him those things.

I thought of that ... but, most minors are not going to think of that and many doctors are not too likely to just hand this info off to the child without mentioning something to the parents.

How do you know that she WASN'T injured in a sporting event?

Because she SAID she was not injured at a sporting event.

Oh, yeah. Because she's telling you a story so that the old man can sweep her off her feet and drive off into the sunset together.

Yep.

If she was abused, why hasn't SHE reported it to CPS. Or the police (including the State police)? Or a teacher? Or a school counselor?

Well, she coul dbe afraid that no one will believe her or because no one has done anything in the past. But, it could also be because the reports she made to her adult boyfriend are not entirely the truth.

To Mt8711:

I have heard similar stories many, many times. Most often they are at least partial fabrications (exaggerations) made up by a girl that wants to have her own way and do her own thing. Sometimes understandably, many times not. There may well be an element of truth here. If it is entirely true, then it is time to beat the bushes for someone to help her. Maybe the state police, maybe the county prosecutor, maybe a child advocacy group, and maybe child services. If you want to help her, then this needs to be reported. Until she is 18 she is a minor and subject to her parents' rules until such time as a court removes the parents' rights and responsibilities.

 

[mistoffolees]

To Mt8711:

I have heard similar stories many, many times. Most often they are at least partial fabrications (exaggerations) made up by a girl that wants to have her own way and do her own thing. Sometimes understandably, many times not. There may well be an element of truth here. If it is entirely true, then it is time to beat the bushes for someone to help her. Maybe the state police, maybe the county prosecutor, maybe a child advocacy group, and maybe child services. If you want to help her, then this needs to be reported. Until she is 18 she is a minor and subject to her parents' rules until such time as a court removes the parents' rights and responsibilities.

And, just in case there's any question, if the court DOES remove the parents' custody, it is extremely unlikely that you would be able to step in and take over. Almost zero chance.

 

[Mt8711]

She did give me the information bc I asked for it when she told me what happened. As I stated before I made a report of it, to avoid a criminal record charge the parents have given her legal permission to live with her older sister in a another town. Written and documented permission. I have received some helpful information from you all. The fact of the matter here is parents are our parents and we love them for that no matter what. I have apologized many days for not doing anything about it, but I thought the mother would've. They see a counselor and she knows of this incident, but due to the mother and daughter and politics won't say anything about it. The world is crooked. I have done my part and gotten her away from danger. And just so you know, upon any further relationship with her I will wait until the age of 18. Some people mature fasters than others, I always try to think about everyone else's perspective before speaking, it's a good practice, selflessness will go a long way.

 

[Alex1176]

Funny - since his advice was wrong...but it was what you wanted to hear - I'll give that to him.

I'm not sure that it was 100% wrong. Yes, there is such thing "interfering with parental rights", but I'm not sure that it's include everything. I think that for issuing RO the judge has to see some severe interfering and not meeting a guy ones a week without drugs, alcohol or any other illegal or immoral activities. But of course I can be wrong.

 

[mistoffolees]

I'm not sure that it was 100% wrong. Yes, there is such thing "interfering with parental rights", but I'm not sure that it's include everything. I think that for issuing RO the judge has to see some severe interfering and not meeting a guy ones a week without drugs, alcohol or any other illegal or immoral activities. But of course I can be wrong.

Yep. You can be - and you are.

If the parent of a minor tells OP to stay away and he doesn't, they can get a restraining order. No need to prove harm or the there are drugs, alcohol, or immoral activities. The parents have absolute authority over who can spend time with their child.

 

[CdwJava]

Laws vary by state, and not every state will give a restraining order simply to prevent the attentions of a suitor. In my state, for example, a civil harassment order would be issued if the parents could show a credible threat of harm to their child and not simply that he was talking to their daughter. They would have to show that the continued contact was a danger to their child, and that would require more than simply talking. I am sure that other states have similar standards. Some states do not allow non-DV protective orders at all.

So, Alex may not be off the mark to say that a judge may not issue such an order.

It might be nice to have such a weapon in the parental arsenal. But, it is not as easy as some might think, and it might not even be available as an option in many states.