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[rolandofgilead]

State is Texas. No children in marriage. I have been married for five months and have found out it was a mistake. I suffer from panic attacks, I got a bad episode of panic attacks during the holidays. My wife told me she had obligations to her family and friends and left me at home for days at a time, at least during the evening hours, with me being scared out of my mind and panicking to the point of feeling like I was going crazy. The question is, I have been staying with my parents since Dec. 15 after I had a panic attack at work, it is now Jan. 6, and the reason I am staying there at parents is because just being around my wife gives me panic and anxiety, I guess because she flat out told me she had obligations with her family and had to go to parties and get togethers with friends during the holidays. She still calls me but tells me she will be out most of the evening and not home until late because she has to go be at family get togethers or friends parties who she works with. Not everday, but alot. My question is, if I file for divorce, will I be seen as having abandoned the home. I'm still paying all the bills, water, mortage, electricity. We have no children. I come home and feed the dogs also every day.

 

[mistoffolees]

State is Texas. No children in marriage. I have been married for five months and have found out it was a mistake. I suffer from panic attacks, I got a bad episode of panic attacks during the holidays. My wife told me she had obligations to her family and friends and left me at home for days at a time, at least during the evening hours, with me being scared out of my mind and panicking to the point of feeling like I was going crazy. The question is, I have been staying with my parents since Dec. 15 after I had a panic attack at work, it is now Jan. 6, and the reason I am staying there at parents is because just being around my wife gives me panic and anxiety, I guess because she flat out told me she had obligations with her family and had to go to parties and get togethers with friends during the holidays. She still calls me but tells me she will be out most of the evening and not home until late because she has to go be at family get togethers or friends parties who she works with. Not everday, but alot. My question is, if I file for divorce, will I be seen as having abandoned the home. I'm still paying all the bills, water, mortage, electricity. We have no children. I come home and feed the dogs also every day.

Since there are no kids, there is really not much down side to leaving the marital home. You will each be entitled to 1/2 of any marital equity (which is likely to be minimal).

Whose name is on the deed? Whose name is on the mortgage? And can either of you afford the home on your own? When was the home purchased? Where did the downpayment come from?

However, I would strongly encourage you to seek treatment for your panic disorder before making a decision to divorce. If you're already seeking treatment, you might want a second opinion. You seem to be blaming the problems on your wife, but it is clear that your disorder is causing you lots of problems. Even if you get a divorce, you're still going to have trouble dealing with life. Better to deal with the real problem first - and then decide about divorce.

 

[rolandofgilead]

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everything is in my name. the mortgage, I have been paying everything. The deed is in my name.

 

[mistoffolees]

everything is in my name. the mortgage, I have been paying everything. The deed is in my name.

Then file for divorce and ask for exclusive use of the marital home. You will have to pay her 1/2 of any increase in equity while you were married, but this number will be small.

But, seriously, seek professional help - or a second opinion if you're already seeing someone.

 

[nextwife]

Then file for divorce and ask for exclusive use of the marital home. You will have to pay her 1/2 of any increase in equity while you were married, but this number will be small.
But, seriously, seek professional help - or a second opinion if you're already seeing someone.

Likely non existant. Most homes have seen reverse equity in the past year.

 

[mistoffolees]

Likely non existant. Most homes have seen reverse equity in the past year.

Could be, although the real estate market in parts of TX isn't bad.

AT MOST, though, the number would be a small one. It might be zero as you say.