How likely am I to get sole custody of my 7 year old daughter?

[Yamibear88]

But could I be able to get sole custody he can have supervised visits and maybe counseling for both of them.

 

[Proserpina]

But could I be able to get sole custody he can have supervised visits and maybe counseling for both of them.

Mom, honestly - unless you have PROVE that he's a danger to the child (and I'm not convinced you can do that, it's unlikely that supervised visitation would last longer than an initial reintroduction period.

You can't get supervised visitation based on what you think he "might" do.

What do you think sole custody will give you?

 

[Yamibear88]

If theres a risk I think there is because why wait till he hurts her or worse when u can prevent it, makes no sense. But thank u I will speak to an attorney all I want is whats best for my child so if the court decides he can have her I will have no problem but I would rather do it through court so if anything ,Godforbid, does happen everything was documented. I just wanted to know what was my likelihood of getting sole custody but I guess it's not as good as I thought, my daughters doctor seems to agree with me but I would rather go to court before he does anything crazy

 

[Proserpina]

If theres a risk I think there is because why wait till he hurts her or worse when u can prevent it, makes no sense.

Because in this country, you're innocent until proven guilty. We also won't put you in jail because of what you MIGHT do.

But thank u I will speak to an attorney all I want is whats best for my child so if the court decides he can have her I will have no problem but I would rather do it through court so if anything ,Godforbid, does happen everything was documented. I just wanted to know what was my likelihood of getting sole custody but I guess it's not as good as I thought, my daughters doctor seems to agree with me but I would rather go to court before he does anything crazy

I'm just not sure you understand what sole custody is - and I'm still not entirely sure what you want to accomplish.

Sole custody doesn't mean that Dad has no rights, or that you control everything.

 

[Yamibear88]

Well all I want is that he doesn't try to manipulate situations like vacations which I know for a FACT that he will just to bother me, I want to be able to know that my daughter is safe in school that he can't take her, also I would love him to get evaluated and get his supervised visitations, he can be a good man but he has times where he does a 180 and feels anger towards me for being where I am now in life, he went to jail and I understand that was hard but it wasn't my fault and there r times that it seems like he wants her to get back at me, I want to be reassured that if he will be in her life it will be to stay not feel like he will be there a year and then decide he doesn't want to be for 8 months and my daughter will be left wondering and needing counseling, I just want commitment from him for her and know that I can trust him with her because he can be verbally abusive at times.

 

[Proserpina]

Well all I want is that he doesn't try to manipulate situations like vacations which I know for a FACT that he will just to bother me,

He'll have parenting time - he won't be able to mess with your vacations as long as your orders are clear.

I want to be able to know that my daughter is safe in school that he can't take her,

Sole custody does NOT mean that he can't take her from school. Only a restraining order can prevent that.

also I would love him to get evaluated and get his supervised visitations,

You can request psych testing. You will also be subject to the same.

he can be a good man but he has times where he does a 180 and feels anger towards me for being where I am now in life, he went to jail and I understand that was hard but it wasn't my fault and there r times that it seems like he wants her to get back at me, I want to be reassured that if he will be in her life it will be to stay not feel like he will be there a year and then decide he doesn't want to be for 8 months and my daughter will be left wondering and needing counseling, I just want commitment from him for her and know that I can trust him with her because he can be verbally abusive at times.

Mom, sole custody won't guarantee ANY of that. He'll be able to come and go as he pleases, to a huge extent. I'm sorry, but that's just the way it is.

 

[Yamibear88]

Yea I guess so, I guess I just wanted a plan be I just didn't want her to get hurt.

 

[Proserpina]

Yea I guess so, I guess I just wanted a plan be I just didn't want her to get hurt.

Hurting is part of life, part of being a child and part of growing up. It's your job, Mom, to teach her good coping skills for the things in life which will upset her.

 

[Yamibear88]

Yea your right

 

[Proserpina]

Yea your right

Mom, stick around the forums a bit and read some old threads.

Heck, go through the archives, too.

Honestly - that's how many (if not most) of us learned about all of this stuff (at least in part).

It's a free education and it will be an eye-opener for you. It is, truly, worth it

 

[Yamibear88]

Thank you I will