Maybe this will help. I put 5,000 down of my own money up front to bring the price to 119,000. The house appraised at 156,000 in 09 when I bought it. we got married a year later,10, and the tax appraised value has gone down to 150,000 since I bought it in 09. So if I am looking at this right there is a neg equity since we have gotten married. My equity went from 37,000 in 09 to 36,000 currently.....yes or no?
You're confusing a lot of issues. Let's make it as simple as I can.
First. Equity is the difference between the value of the home and any debt on the home.
Initial equity is the equity at the time you got married.
Final equity is the equity at the time you got divorced.
If Initial equity > final equity, then marital equity is negative and you don't owe her anything.
If Final equity > initial equity, then the difference is marital equity and you owe her half.
Now, the only problem is how you define 'value of the home' both at the time of your marriage and at the time of your divorce. On paper, you might want to use the appraised value, but appraisals are often way off. More importantly, you should NOT use the appraised value for 'initial value' and something different for 'final value'. You should determine the value by the same method both at the beginning and at the end of the marriage. Otherwise, the answer will be skewed.
You really have three options:
1. Get a new appraisal from the same company that did the first appraisal. They may or may not be 'right' but chances are that they'll be wrong by the same amount in both appraisals.
2. Talk with a well-respected real estate expert who can evaluate the specific home and estimate how much the value has changed during your marriage based on local conditions.
3. Look your home up on Zillow.com which gives a 'fair market value' and shows how it has changed over time. Note, Zillow is notoriously inaccurate so you would be hoping that their errors at the beginning and at the end of the marriage are about the same.
If the two of you can't agree on a figure, plan on an expensive court battle.