possible invasion of privacy

[LdiJ]

Would he be the reason she was fired from her job? I believe misto is right, she would be voluntarily unemployed and the court would expect her to get another job earning the same amount.

If she were the one paying CS or alimony, I could see your point.

Bali, he will be the one getting her fired if he makes a stink about it.

 

[mistoffolees]

Would he be the reason she was fired from her job? I believe misto is right, she would be voluntarily unemployed and the court would expect her to get another job earning the same amount.

Yes and no. You're really big on the difference between what SHOULD happen and what DOES happen when it suits you. I would suggest that you consider the same discrepancy here.

If ex gets fired for violating the law (even if OP is the one who turns her in), then the court SHOULD consider that a voluntary termination and not change CS or alimony. But there's no guarantee that that is what WOULD happen.

If she were the one paying CS or alimony, I could see your point.

And we don't know if she is paying CS or alimony.

The point is that OP really gains nothing by turning her in, but it could be harmful to his interests. He needs to consider the facts carefully before making a decision.

 

[LdiJ]

Yes and no. You're really big on the difference between what SHOULD happen and what DOES happen when it suits you. I would suggest that you consider the same discrepancy here.

If ex gets fired for violating the law (even if OP is the one who turns her in), then the court SHOULD consider that a voluntary termination and not change CS or alimony. But there's no guarantee that that is what WOULD happen.



And we don't know if she is paying CS or alimony.

The point is that OP really gains nothing by turning her in, but it could be harmful to his interests. He needs to consider the facts carefully before making a decision.

Absolutely. He puts his interests at risk to some extent or another. Unless he has a really vital reason why she shouldn't have been able to access his address (not related to child support or alimony) then it may not be a risk worth taking.

 

[Bali Hai]

Yes and no. You're really big on the difference between what SHOULD happen and what DOES happen when it suits you. I would suggest that you consider the same discrepancy here.

If ex gets fired for violating the law (even if OP is the one who turns her in), then the court SHOULD consider that a voluntary termination and not change CS or alimony. But there's no guarantee that that is what WOULD happen.



And we don't know if she is paying CS or alimony.

The point is that OP really gains nothing by turning her in, but it could be harmful to his interests. He needs to consider the facts carefully before making a decision.

We don't know if OP would gain anything or not. We don't know why the credit reports were accessed. Ex could be scheming to use the info. to his detriment.

If it was my ex that was paying me alimony and/or CS, I certainly wouldn't do anything to cause her to lose her job. But you can bet I would fire a 155mm Howitzer across her bow at a minimum.

 

[mistoffolees]

We don't know if OP would gain anything or not. We don't know why the credit reports were accessed. Ex could be scheming to use the info. to his detriment.

Which is why I suggested that OP should consider the facts before immediately filing a complaint.

If it was my ex that was paying me alimony and/or CS, I certainly wouldn't do anything to cause her to lose her job. But you can bet I would fire a 155mm Howitzer across her bow at a minimum.

I have no problem with that. He can certainly send her a letter stating that if she does it again, he will report it. He can also put a lock on his credit.

 

[Bali Hai]

Absolutely. He puts his interests at risk to some extent or another. Unless he has a really vital reason why she shouldn't have been able to access his address (not related to child support or alimony) then it may not be a risk worth taking.

He needs to ensure that his identity related information is secure. His ex compromised that and there is no excuse for that, not even the flimsy excuse that she was trying to find his address. There are plenty of legal ways to find someone's address.

 

[Bali Hai]

Yes and no. You're really big on the difference between what SHOULD happen and what DOES happen when it suits you. I would suggest that you consider the same discrepancy here.

If ex gets fired for violating the law (even if OP is the one who turns her in), then the court SHOULD consider that a voluntary termination and not change CS or alimony. But there's no guarantee that that is what WOULD happen.

I kind of remind you of a divorce court judge, don't I?

 

[tuffbrk]

This has got to be one of the oddest posts that I've seen in a while.

1) OP knows that his credit report was accessed
2) OP knows who accessed his credit report
3) OP knows why the party accessed his credit report
4) A party desiring to know an address...ran credit to obtain it?!

I have to tell you that there are very strict policies in place that govern who can access credit in banks. Typically, it requires an application from the party before a bank employee can run it. Further, the information typically is automated and uploads to an application. At least in larger banks that is the "norm" for how it works.

I find this whole thing quite strange unless OP receives alimony and is co-habitating....

 

[Zigner]

Bali, he will be the one getting her fired if he makes a stink about it.

That is not true. The person who committed the crime is the person getting themselves fired.

 

[Gwenillian]

OP how exactly do you *know* that your ex is actually the person accessing your credit report? Doesn't it just show up as XYZ Bank with the date the report was accessed & sometimes the reason (i.e. marketing/loan app/etc)?

The fact that your ex works for the same bank that might be checking whether or not you qualify for their fabulous new credit card doesn't necessarily mean she was actually trying to access anything.

Do you have proof she did it other than the fact it was the same bank?

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Why do I suspect that the OP did NOT apply for anything. Now, was it a "soft" access where they send out credit apps without actually NOT applying to the bank?

 

[LdiJ]

He needs to ensure that his identity related information is secure. His ex compromised that and there is no excuse for that, not even the flimsy excuse that she was trying to find his address. There are plenty of legal ways to find someone's address.

What are the odds that an ex wife doesn't ALREADY have all of the necessary information to commit identity theft if she wanted to do so?

 

[mistoffolees]

What are the odds that an ex wife doesn't ALREADY have all of the necessary information to commit identity theft if she wanted to do so?

Which is why OP needs to put a lock on his credit - if he hasn't done so already.

 

[Antigone*]

Which is why OP needs to put a lock on his credit - if he hasn't done so already.

He definitely needs to lock up his credit, but I think this ex was looking for more than just his address. She has the ability to use her position at the bank to possibly affect his accounts at other financial institutions or creditors.

I would file a complaint with the bank no matter what the consequences to her.

 

[Gwenillian]

He definitely needs to lock up his credit, but I think this ex was looking for more than just his address. She has the ability to use her position at the bank to possibly affect his accounts at other financial institutions or creditors.

I would file a complaint with the bank no matter what the consequences to her.

See I have a different take on this completely because I was accused of something similar and had absolutely NO access to my ex's or his wife's credit report. I was a teller - my pc was limited to the account info of whatever customer was in front of me (neither he nor his wife were even customers). The bank pulled one of their reports to send them some sort of marketing info. They had never applied for anything with this bank at all.

Just because the bank name shows up on there does not mean his ex is pulling it. Does she actually have a job with that kind of access?