Should i stay or should i go

[Shawnbecker2000]

I live in california, Im married and have two children.
The oldest is my son from a previous relationship, the second is my daughter, from this marriage.

My wife can now afford to take care of her self after 13 years of marriage and school, She wants me to move out, taking my son with me.

With my job i cant provide the stabuility, my son has been used to.
I would also not be able to get him to school on time.

He would end up moving back with his real mom, which will cost me child support, as she has never worked, and only lived on welfare.
It would also be a difficult change for him.

My wife wants me to move out temporary and give her a break, even tho it will cost me everything.

We are civil to one another, so i think i should stay, what do you think?

 

[I'mTheFather]

Should I cool it, or should I blow?

 

[Proserpina]

I live in california, Im married and have two children.
The oldest is my son from a previous relationship, the second is my daughter, from this marriage.

My wife can now afford to take care of her self after 13 years of marriage and school, She wants me to move out, taking my son with me.

With my job i cant provide the stabuility, my son has been used to.
I would also not be able to get him to school on time.

He would end up moving back with his real mom, which will cost me child support, as she has never worked, and only lived on welfare.
It would also be a difficult change for him.

My wife wants me to move out temporary and give her a break, even tho it will cost me everything.

We are civil to one another, so i think i should stay, what do you think?

This really isn't a legal question.

 

[Shawnbecker2000]

If i leave, will i lose any rights i have to come back?

From a legal standpoint am i better telling her to leave if thats what she wants.

 

[Proserpina]

If i leave, will i lose any rights i have to come back?

From a legal standpoint am i better telling her to leave if thats what she wants.

Neither of you can "tell" the other to leave - it's going to be up to the court to decide who gets to stay in the marital home (regardless of who owns the home or whose name is or isn't on the lease).

Speak with a divorce attorney asap to discuss your options.

If you can't provide for your son, it only makes sense (truthfully) to let Mom have custody.

Even if that means paying child support.

 

[LdiJ]

I live in california, Im married and have two children.
The oldest is my son from a previous relationship, the second is my daughter, from this marriage.

My wife can now afford to take care of her self after 13 years of marriage and school, She wants me to move out, taking my son with me.

With my job i cant provide the stabuility, my son has been used to.
I would also not be able to get him to school on time.

He would end up moving back with his real mom, which will cost me child support, as she has never worked, and only lived on welfare.
It would also be a difficult change for him.

My wife wants me to move out temporary and give her a break, even tho it will cost me everything.

We are civil to one another, so i think i should stay, what do you think?

If you have been married 13 years and your son is a child of a prior marriage, just how old is he? There is always some way to get an older child back and forth to school, and what do you mean by "cannot provide the stability he is used to"?

If you get divorced you are not going to be living in the same household as your current wife, so you are going to be dealing with the problem eventually. Maybe its better to figure out how to do it now.

 

[Bali Hai]

I live in california, Im married and have two children.
The oldest is my son from a previous relationship, the second is my daughter, from this marriage.

My wife can now afford to take care of her self after 13 years of marriage and school, She wants me to move out, taking my son with me.

With my job i cant provide the stabuility, my son has been used to.
I would also not be able to get him to school on time.

He would end up moving back with his real mom, which will cost me child support, as she has never worked, and only lived on welfare.
It would also be a difficult change for him.

My wife wants me to move out temporary and give her a break, even tho it will cost me everything.

We are civil to one another, so i think i should stay, what do you think?

She can leave anytime she wants to. Offer to hold the door open for her.

Are you getting child support from your son's mother?