Getting Ex to Leave

[itsamberduh]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CT
Here's a quick summary of the situation: A homeowner in CT had a live in boyfriend. The boyfriend never paid rent, though he did give the homeowner money on less than 5 separate occasions. Once was to pay an electric bill, and the other times were to pay back the homeowner for money that was borrowed for personal things. The boyfriend receives food stamps, which he used to buy shared food. The relationship is now over, and the homeowner asked the boyfriend to leave. The boyfriend won't leave and has made the living environment such that the homeowner moved back in with their parents.

There was never a lease, though paying rent was discussed verbally. Nothing was ever paid.

The homeowner has cut off the internet and cable, as they are no longer living in the home. Is there a way that the homeowner can have the boyfriend removed quickly? An eviction process seems like it will take a long time, and the boyfriend was never really a tenant. The homeowner can't get a restraining order because it's a homosexual relationship and local law enforcement has resisted becoming involved in past disagreements that became abusive. Though the ex boyfriend never actually hit the homeowner, he has mentally abused him and constantly yells and gets within an inch of the homeowners face when they fight. The ex boyfriend is also prone to "accidentally" walking into people to try to provoke them into fighting. If the homeowner remained in the home, the ex boyfriend would do things like get into his bed and refuse to leave, block his car in the driveway, etc. etc.

So now the homeowner is in the situation of paying the mortgage on a home he can no longer live in because of the ex boyfriend. What is the fastest way to get him out? Also, can he shut off the electricity? The ex boyfriend is leaving lights and appliances on 24/7 since the electric bill is in the homeowners name (obviously, the ex wasn't responsible for anything). He has already turned off internet and cable. The water is via a well. Also, the ex boyfriend is unemployed and has been the entire duration of the relationship, so it's tough for him to find a new place to live.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CT
Here's a quick summary of the situation: A homeowner in CT had a live in boyfriend. The boyfriend never paid rent, though he did give the homeowner money on less than 5 separate occasions. Once was to pay an electric bill, and the other times were to pay back the homeowner for money that was borrowed for personal things. The boyfriend receives food stamps, which he used to buy shared food. The relationship is now over, and the homeowner asked the boyfriend to leave. The boyfriend won't leave and has made the living environment such that the homeowner moved back in with their parents.

There was never a lease, though paying rent was discussed verbally. Nothing was ever paid.

The homeowner has cut off the internet and cable, as they are no longer living in the home. Is there a way that the homeowner can have the boyfriend removed quickly? An eviction process seems like it will take a long time, and the boyfriend was never really a tenant. The homeowner can't get a restraining order because it's a homosexual relationship and local law enforcement has resisted becoming involved in past disagreements that became abusive. Though the ex boyfriend never actually hit the homeowner, he has mentally abused him and constantly yells and gets within an inch of the homeowners face when they fight. The ex boyfriend is also prone to "accidentally" walking into people to try to provoke them into fighting. If the homeowner remained in the home, the ex boyfriend would do things like get into his bed and refuse to leave, block his car in the driveway, etc. etc.

So now the homeowner is in the situation of paying the mortgage on a home he can no longer live in because of the ex boyfriend. What is the fastest way to get him out? Also, can he shut off the electricity? The ex boyfriend is leaving lights and appliances on 24/7 since the electric bill is in the homeowners name (obviously, the ex wasn't responsible for anything). He has already turned off internet and cable. The water is via a well. Also, the ex boyfriend is unemployed and has been the entire duration of the relationship, so it's tough for him to find a new place to live.

He was ok to shut off the internet and the cable, but you would need to research landlord/tenant law for CT specifically to see if it is permissible to shut off the electric.

 

[Gail in Georgia]

Why in the world would a homeowner leave their personal home in the hands of such a person?

Yes, they must evict them. Have them research the steps to do so in their particular state. This is outlined in the attached:

http://www.jud.ct.gov/Publications/hm014.pdf


No, legally they cannot simply turn off the electricity.

It may benefit the homeowner to move back into their house after the steps to eviction have been initiated. Heaven only knows what this person might do to the house once the eviction process has been started.

Gail

 

[itsamberduh]

Why in the world would a homeowner leave their personal home in the hands of such a person?

Yes, they must evict them. Have them research the steps to do so in their particular state. This is outlined in the attached:

http://www.jud.ct.gov/Publications/hm014.pdf


No, legally they cannot simply turn off the electricity.

It may benefit the homeowner to move back into their house after the steps to eviction have been initiated. Heaven only knows what this person might do to the house once the eviction process has been started.

Gail

The homeowner left the home because the actions of the ex boyfriend made the home uninhabitable. The ex boyfriend continually gets in the face of the homeowner and tries to provoke a physical fight by bumping into him, blocking passage from room to room, barricading his car in the garage when he needs to go to work, etc. etc. The homeowner has called the police on the ex boyfriend multiple times and was told this was not their concern unless the ex boyfriend physically hits the homeowner. He had very little options besides leaving. If the homeowner gets provoked into acting and gets arrested, he will lose his job. The nature of his job requires him to keep a clean record.

He is very concerned about what the person will do to his house. He returned with his father to remove some of his belongings that he feared the ex boyfriend would damage or sell, and the ex boyfriend started harassing the father as well. The ex boyfriend "walked" into the father (purposefully, it was more of a shove using the side of his body rather than his hands) and the father shoved him back. He called the state police to have the father arrested for assault. Nothing happened, but the father won't be returning.

So, if I understand this correctly, my brother-in-law has to go through the lengthy (and expensive) process of an eviction in CT to get a non-paying non-tenant ex lover out of his house that he owns? In the meantime, he must continue paying the mortgage and all utilities that the ex boyfriend leaves? That doesn't seem right or fair. Can the eviction at least be expedited because it's not a tenant / landlord situation?

 

[nextwife]

THey could have, and should have, sinmply done a proper 30 day notice and evicted them. They would have been done within less than 60 days. Surely paying an attorney to evict is no more costly than moving AND being without one's home! Not to mention potential damage.

 

[Gail in Georgia]

"So, if I understand this correctly, my brother-in-law has to go through the lengthy (and expensive) process of an eviction in CT to get a non-paying non-tenant ex lover out of his house that he owns?"

Yes, although he can certainly consider offering the ex-boyfriend some money to move out. Oftentimes that's a quicker way to get someone out than going through the eviction process.


" In the meantime, he must continue paying the mortgage and all utilities that the ex boyfriend leaves?"

No. He can stop paying the mortgage and run the risk of losing his house to foreclosure.


" That doesn't seem right or fair. "

Look; the court will tell you that the idea of nonpayment of rent wasn't an issue when things were all lovey dovey with the two; it only became an issue when the relationship went south. These type of issues are fairly common when a romantic relationship goes sour. Unfortunately, the ex-boyfriend has established a residency (even if he hasn't been paying rent) and the police are going to tell your brother-in-law this is a civil, not criminal matter. Until a judge grants an actual eviction, the police are not going to assist your brother-in-law with the process of getting this fellow out.


"Can the eviction at least be expedited because it's not a tenant / landlord situation? "

The process remains the same; typically notifying the person residing there to get out in the manner required by the particular state, then (if they refuse), going the legal route through the court system.

Gail

 

[Justapixiegal]

What laws apply?

Can anyone please tell me if these are the legal procedures to remove an ex-lover in MO?

 

[sandyclaus]

Try asking the question in your own thread and you might get an answer.

 

[BL]

Try asking the question in your own thread and you might get an answer.

Plus look at the dates .