Tomorrow's the Day

[breezymom]

And I'm nervous as hell, but wish me luck. I've taken heed to the advice and stood my ground on different things and ignored much else. Kiddo's therapy is progressing...slowly but progressing, as is my own. I know the subpoenas went out and at least one will be there and it's one of the most important people. Now all I have to do is trust that the judge will see through his straw grasping and delusions.

I know there are always at least three versions of the truth: Mine, his, and the complete truth, but I've been as honest as I can be, so I hope that's noticed, for kiddo's sake. That and I need to get myself out of the continual abuse cycle because that is not only what's best for me, but for kiddo, as well.

So, tomorrow it is. Time to suck it up and keep it together and finish the hearing.

 

[LdiJ]

And I'm nervous as hell, but wish me luck. I've taken heed to the advice and stood my ground on different things and ignored much else. Kiddo's therapy is progressing...slowly but progressing, as is my own. I know the subpoenas went out and at least one will be there and it's one of the most important people. Now all I have to do is trust that the judge will see through his straw grasping and delusions.

I know there are always at least three versions of the truth: Mine, his, and the complete truth, but I've been as honest as I can be, so I hope that's noticed, for kiddo's sake. That and I need to get myself out of the continual abuse cycle because that is not only what's best for me, but for kiddo, as well.

So, tomorrow it is. Time to suck it up and keep it together and finish the hearing.

Good luck and best wishes...I will be sending thoughts out that the judge will understand the truth and rule accordingly.

 

[breezymom]

Thanks, guys. Oh...and I spoke with one of the last two options I had for daycare and what the lady did NOT want was exactly what Dad DID do at the last one, so one more left if something doesn't happen tomorrow, and I'm out of options.

 

[not2cleverRed]

Breath deeply. Stay calm. Wait your turn.

No matter how silly his behavior/assertions, be quiet and wait your turn.

When you have a "difficult" ex, this can be difficult - but be patient until it is your turn to say anything, no matter how tempting.

You'll do fine, I'm sure.

 

[breezymom]

Update

Well, we had a day certain, but the Judge forgot it was a day certain. We didn't get in until about 2:35 or so then spent another 10 minutes or so looking for another court date, which is when the judge found out that this date was the day certain.

We still aren't done. He kept trying to testify when he was supposed to be questioning the witnesses, and that's about all the detail I am going to put forth. He volunteered his friend (not sure if his friend knows yet or not) to do the other exchange and that's in the order as of current.

The judge again said that neither of us learned anything from the parenting class.

We don't go back again for another possibly 4 months.

So apparently I'm doing everything wrong and have learned nothing.

 

[AkersTile]

Well, we had a day certain, but the Judge forgot it was a day certain. We didn't get in until about 2:35 or so then spent another 10 minutes or so looking for another court date, which is when the judge found out that this date was the day certain.

We still aren't done. He kept trying to testify when he was supposed to be questioning the witnesses, and that's about all the detail I am going to put forth. He volunteered his friend (not sure if his friend knows yet or not) to do the other exchange and that's in the order as of current.

The judge again said that neither of us learned anything from the parenting class.

We don't go back again for another possibly 4 months.

So apparently I'm doing everything wrong and have learned nothing.

Dad's a douche. The judge is ignorant. Keep doing what you're doing.

 

[breezymom]

I don't have any ill toward the judge. I seriously just think they are so over-worked and there was SO much time in between that he barely remembered anything and had to just refer to notes.

I'm just losing a bit of faith really. My goal is to help things be more comfortable for kiddo. That's it.

 

[Ohiogal]

Well, we had a day certain, but the Judge forgot it was a day certain. We didn't get in until about 2:35 or so then spent another 10 minutes or so looking for another court date, which is when the judge found out that this date was the day certain.

We still aren't done. He kept trying to testify when he was supposed to be questioning the witnesses, and that's about all the detail I am going to put forth. He volunteered his friend (not sure if his friend knows yet or not) to do the other exchange and that's in the order as of current.

The judge again said that neither of us learned anything from the parenting class.

We don't go back again for another possibly 4 months.

So apparently I'm doing everything wrong and have learned nothing.

BREATHE! It will work out.

 

[breezymom]

Nearly forgot until now. The advice given to not respond to every little ridiculous request or comment is coming back to bite me. The judge was seemingly not happy about that, even when it was pointed out that the things to which I did not respond had nothing to do with the child.

 

[Proserpina]

Nearly forgot until now. The advice given to not respond to every little ridiculous request or comment is coming back to bite me. The judge was seemingly not happy about that, even when it was pointed out that the things to which I did not respond had nothing to do with the child.

Hang in there, breezy. Hang in there!

 

[not2cleverRed]

Well, we had a day certain, but the Judge forgot it was a day certain. We didn't get in until about 2:35 or so then spent another 10 minutes or so looking for another court date, which is when the judge found out that this date was the day certain.

We still aren't done. He kept trying to testify when he was supposed to be questioning the witnesses, and that's about all the detail I am going to put forth. He volunteered his friend (not sure if his friend knows yet or not) to do the other exchange and that's in the order as of current.

The judge again said that neither of us learned anything from the parenting class.

We don't go back again for another possibly 4 months.

So apparently I'm doing everything wrong and have learned nothing.

We definitely need a dislike button.

Just out of curiosity, which county is this?

 

[breezymom]

Ummmmmm

Ok...my first gut instinct is HELL no. Not legal question but pertinent to my legal situation...

I seriously just got a stupid friend request from Dad's new girlfriend...

 

[breezymom]

Ok...my first gut instinct is HELL no. Not legal question but pertinent to my legal situation...

I seriously just got a stupid friend request from Dad's new girlfriend...

Of course we all know my response will be null or a polite, "Thanks, but no thanks," and probably the former rather than the latter, but I just don't think considering everything that is going on/has gone on, that this is a good idea at all.

 

[armstrong1988]

Well, Good luck! You can do it.

 

[Proserpina]

Ok...my first gut instinct is HELL no. Not legal question but pertinent to my legal situation...

I seriously just got a stupid friend request from Dad's new girlfriend...

It took me some personal drama elsewhere to realize this, but it might just remain true:

Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.