Tomorrow's the Day

[breezymom]

It took me some personal drama elsewhere to realize this, but it might just remain true:

Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.

Well, it's gone this morning, so apparently she clicked the wrong person or was just nosing around.

 

[tuffbrk]

My heart breaks for you Breezy...and yeah, I'm betting she was nosing around on your page and clicked on friend request by accident.

Hang in there...

 

[breezymom]

Stuck yet AGAIN

So...12 flippin hours (no I really don't want to use the word flippin) before the first use of the new temporary order for the overnight pickup...

He calls me (surprise...he can say he didn't say it if he calls...wonder what's wrong, all of a sudden, with written word) to tell me that the person HE volunteered that is IN THE COURT ORDER to do that particular exchange can't do it...12 hours before...

He has something else this week on that day so she is coming home early and my exchange lady can do it, but seriously...now we're left RIGHT where we were BEFORE court and of course, I'm sure it's MY fault, somehow.

As a side note, he rambled on how he didn't make a scene at the day care, that the child was afraid of the male daycare worker (she has NEVER been when I've left her there...she's gone right TO him and he's been the only worker there because the other one is usually taking the kids to school), that there were NO other kids there (daycares HAVE to keep rosters), and...to top it off, that apparently the supervisor told HIM that she wouldn't take her own kids there but they still meet requirements.

Seriously. I can't make this crap up.

The police station is out. The day cares are ALL out because after that none will do it. He, once again, has made it so that I will have to do it by myself at one of the houses. I don't feel comfortable with that...does anyone blame me??

Suggestion time, if anyone has any. I'm tapped out.

 

[gr8rn]

So...12 flippin hours (no I really don't want to use the word flippin) before the first use of the new temporary order for the overnight pickup...

He calls me (surprise...he can say he didn't say it if he calls...wonder what's wrong, all of a sudden, with written word) to tell me that the person HE volunteered that is IN THE COURT ORDER to do that particular exchange can't do it...12 hours before...

He has something else this week on that day so she is coming home early and my exchange lady can do it, but seriously...now we're left RIGHT where we were BEFORE court and of course, I'm sure it's MY fault, somehow.

As a side note, he rambled on how he didn't make a scene at the day care, that the child was afraid of the male daycare worker (she has NEVER been when I've left her there...she's gone right TO him and he's been the only worker there because the other one is usually taking the kids to school), that there were NO other kids there (daycares HAVE to keep rosters), and...to top it off, that apparently the supervisor told HIM that she wouldn't take her own kids there but they still meet requirements.

Seriously. I can't make this crap up.

The police station is out. The day cares are ALL out because after that none will do it. He, once again, has made it so that I will have to do it by myself at one of the houses. I don't feel comfortable with that...does anyone blame me??

Suggestion time, if anyone has any. I'm tapped out.

Why is the police station out?

 

[breezymom]

Why is the police station out?

He won't drop her off there.

Even though I was given permission from the Chief, the judge said, "The police don't allow that."

 

[not2cleverRed]

I would suggest when he provides such information in a phone call that you follow up with an email, titled something like "Clarification of you phone call", and a brief message "verifying" the information. Breezy (and unemotional, factual).

For example, in the most recent instance. "I would just like to confirm that it is my understanding, based on your phone call, that A will be unavailable for the exchange today, and that based on this B will be handling the exchange." (I would not include anything about the past, only the most immediate logistics issues.) It is then up to him to deny it if you got the "facts" wrong and "misinterpreted" them.

Not that he can't still lie in court, but he's less likely. I hope.

I will also note that no matter how short and to the point, he can chose to misinterpret anything you write. (VOE. I have a ex.) But then, you are already having that problem with all other forms of communication with him.

 

[breezymom]

Not that he can't still lie in court, but he's less likely. I hope.

I will also note that no matter how short and to the point, he can chose to misinterpret anything you write. (VOE. I have a ex.) But then, you are already having that problem with all other forms of communication with him.

Boy do you have all that right. I have done the clarification thing in the past. I may do it again. However, it invites more dramatic, irrelevant responses from him (i.e. rambling). Believe you me, the phone conversation was probably the most comprehensible one I've had with him, however, it was still a rather 180 from my summary. Half the time I don't speak when he is rambling is because my brain is working overtime trying to figure out what the point to the whole conversation was, and this time was no different...just a tad better. It was out of order, was all, this time. The incomplete thoughts were actually countable on one hand.

It's frustrating.