Defying Judge's Order

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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CT

During a status hearing, the judge ordered my estranged husband (now pro se) to send to my attorney a copy of his divorce proposal.

We have a no contact RO, and he violates it every other week, it seems. We have an open case pending and two show cause hearings.

He simply has no respect for the law, does not like to be told what to do evidenced by his willingness to violate orders.

Anyway, the judge was firm on many issues with him, withdrew his petition for legal custody. So now he sends DIRECTLY to me, his divorce proposal, of course asking for legal custody. Control is a major issue for him. Anyway, I am at wit's end. In it he says he's not sending anything to my attorney. He is demanding to speak with me because he doesn't want a divorce.

OPINION NEEDED HERE:
Is it worth going back in front of the judge, incurring legal expenses, or should I simply tell my attorney to ignore it until he complies with the judge's order? We have a trial date set 8 months out.

 

[sandyclaus]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CT

During a status hearing, the judge ordered my estranged husband (now pro se) to send to my attorney a copy of his divorce proposal.

We have a no contact RO, and he violates it every other week, it seems. We have an open case pending and two show cause hearings.

He simply has no respect for the law, does not like to be told what to do evidenced by his willingness to violate orders.

Anyway, the judge was firm on many issues with him, withdrew his petition for legal custody. So now he sends DIRECTLY to me, his divorce proposal, of course asking for legal custody. Control is a major issue for him. Anyway, I am at wit's end. In it he says he's not sending anything to my attorney. He is demanding to speak with me because he doesn't want a divorce.

OPINION NEEDED HERE:
Is it worth going back in front of the judge, incurring legal expenses, or should I simply tell my attorney to ignore it until he complies with the judge's order? We have a trial date set 8 months out.

Ignore the STBX and refer this matter to your attorney. Let him handle the situation. Suggest that he file a contempt order against your STBX for both violating the RO and the judge's order, and include in there a request that he (the STBX) be directed to pay for your attorney's fees for this and any further violations of the orders. (When it hits them in the pocketbook, or they face possible fines and/or jail time for violations of the RO, they have a tendency to realize that the judge means business.)

 

[Flotus]

Ignore the STBX and refer this matter to your attorney. Let him handle the situation. Suggest that he file a contempt order against your STBX for both violating the RO and the judge's order, and include in there a request that he (the STBX) be directed to pay for your attorney's fees for this and any further violations of the orders. (When it hits them in the pocketbook, or they face possible fines and/or jail time for violations of the RO, they have a tendency to realize that the judge means business.)

That's just it! The judge is wishy-washy. I think he's got one foot in the pasture. He hurls warnings/threats of jail time and never follows through. You're absolutely right. However, going back and forth to court is now putting my job on the line. I am considering pro se for a number of reasons. But, I agree he needs to be held accountable. Thanks!