fathers rights

[abubobby]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? va

wife divorces me . gets custody of son hardly allows me to see child. child support ordered in Alaska. moved to Texas to live with family. never could get on feet financially. never paid child support. child passes age of 18 yrs goes into air force and is now 28 attending college. Ex-wife asks the state of Alaska to transfer order to virginia and collect child support under the Child Support Recovery Act of 1992. the new amount after raising the monthly amount and adding 6% interest $132,000 .
I have remarried and have two boys 5yrs and 8yrs that I am supporting. My present status is unemployed. the Virginia child support agency is suspending my drivers license. I think my son should receive the support but since my wife is not able to account for the expenses that she could not afford. I am wondering if she was in a hardship. She was in the air force and is now retired. I never had a career. When a guardian Ad litem is assigned there is a down to the penny accounting required. I think I am being forced to pay for her new car or house. She severed parental rights years ago and still would not allow me to even talk to my son on the phone. This is America right I do have rights ...or when a man is divorced he loses all rights. Do I have any defense here?

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? va

wife divorces me . gets custody of son hardly allows me to see child. child support ordered in Alaska. moved to Texas to live with family. never could get on feet financially. never paid child support. child passes age of 18 yrs goes into air force and is now 28 attending college. Ex-wife asks the state of Alaska to transfer order to virginia and collect child support under the Child Support Recovery Act of 1992. the new amount after raising the monthly amount and adding 6% interest $132,000 .
I have remarried and have two boys 5yrs and 8yrs that I am supporting. My present status is unemployed. the Virginia child support agency is suspending my drivers license. I think my son should receive the support but since my wife is not able to account for the expenses that she could not afford. I am wondering if she was in a hardship. She was in the air force and is now retired. I never had a career. When a guardian Ad litem is assigned there is a down to the penny accounting required. I think I am being forced to pay for her new car or house. She severed parental rights years ago and still would not allow me to even talk to my son on the phone. This is America right I do have rights ...or when a man is divorced he loses all rights. Do I have any defense here?

How are you supporting two children while unemployed? Why did you have TWO more children and not pay support for the one already born?

Be prepared. The next step in the mess you CHOSE to make is JAIL. Hopefully the mother of the little ones is prepared to support them without your assistance.

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? va

wife divorces me . gets custody of son hardly allows me to see child. child support ordered in Alaska. moved to Texas to live with family. never could get on feet financially. never paid child support. child passes age of 18 yrs goes into air force and is now 28 attending college. Ex-wife asks the state of Alaska to transfer order to virginia and collect child support under the Child Support Recovery Act of 1992. the new amount after raising the monthly amount and adding 6% interest $132,000 .

That was to be expected.

I have remarried and have two boys 5yrs and 8yrs that I am supporting. My present status is unemployed. the Virginia child support agency is suspending my drivers license. I think my son should receive the support but since my wife is not able to account for the expenses that she could not afford.

Are you kidding? The money is not and never was your son's money. It was meant to reimburse MOM for raising the child without your help at all.

I am wondering if she was in a hardship. She was in the air force and is now retired. I never had a career. When a guardian Ad litem is assigned there is a down to the penny accounting required.

That is not correct.

I think I am being forced to pay for her new car or house.

Very possibly. Probably a few Coach purses, too. And she's PERFECTLY entitled to do that.

She severed parental rights years ago and still would not allow me to even talk to my son on the phone. This is America right I do have rights ...or when a man is divorced he loses all rights. Do I have any defense here?

You had rights, you simply chose not to enforce them.

Pay the money. You owe it.

 

[Eekamouse]

You didn't pay child support to your son's mother during his entire childhood? What sort of jerk are you? I guess your other two kids are about to find out. When you wind up in jail, their mom gets to explain to them how their father didn't do anything for his first child and is now going to do the same to them, too. How have you survived all these years not working? Have you leeched off of mothers on welfare rather than holding down a job? Is the mother of your other sons on welfare now so that I am supporting you with my taxes? Get a job, you leech, and start paying your obligations to the kids you've made.

 

[I'mTheFather]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? va

I think I am being forced to pay for her new car or house.

That seems fair since she was forced to pay for your share of supporting your child for 18 years.

 

[sandyclaus]

SHE severed parental rights? Honey, she doesn't have the authority to do that herself. It would have happen voluntarily (by you), or the state would have had to terminate your parental rights through the courts (for cause, such as abandonment, failure to support, incarceration, etc.).

For 18 years, you had every opportunity to go to court yourself and assert those parental rights you are claiming she severed on your behalf. And you never did that... WHY?

As for not being allowed to visit, again, you could have gone to court and gotten a visitation order that would have REQUIRED her to allow you to see your son. And again, you never did that... WHY?

Because you failed to make any meaningful effort to pay the child support you were ordered to pay in the last 18 years, your ex-wife decided to pursue you through the Virginia CSE to get the money you have owed all along. They suspended your driver's license, presumably because you STILL are not making any effort to pay those arrears off. But that's ok - you're not employed and have no career. What do you need to be driving for anyway? Time to learn how to use public transportation or other alternative options to get yourself around town.

You decided to have two more children. How are you supporting THEM? Or ARE you?

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? va

wife divorces me . gets custody of son hardly allows me to see child. child support ordered in Alaska. moved to Texas to live with family. never could get on feet financially. never paid child support. child passes age of 18 yrs goes into air force and is now 28 attending college. Ex-wife asks the state of Alaska to transfer order to virginia and collect child support under the Child Support Recovery Act of 1992. the new amount after raising the monthly amount and adding 6% interest $132,000 .
I have remarried and have two boys 5yrs and 8yrs that I am supporting. My present status is unemployed. the Virginia child support agency is suspending my drivers license. I think my son should receive the support but since my wife is not able to account for the expenses that she could not afford. I am wondering if she was in a hardship. She was in the air force and is now retired. I never had a career. When a guardian Ad litem is assigned there is a down to the penny accounting required. I think I am being forced to pay for her new car or house. She severed parental rights years ago and still would not allow me to even talk to my son on the phone. This is America right I do have rights ...or when a man is divorced he loses all rights. Do I have any defense here?

So you are a lazy deadbeat who never thought he should support his child. How did she sever parental rights years ago? You had rights years ago. But you knew there was a court order and you didn't pay. You now get to pay for the rest of your life. You knew that you were to support YOUR child and YOU CHOSE not to do so. How are you supporting your young children now? You don't work. You shouldn't be able to drive -- that is a consequence of being a deadbeat. It is not as though you have a job to get to. Quite frankly, you are pathetic. And a GAL has nothing to do with child support. You owe $132,000 to reimburse her for supporting your child (plus interest).

Quit making excuses, man up, and start financially supporting your children.

 

[nextwife]

The problem I DO have with the license suspension is that the younger kids are also entitled to support. They had no say in being born second or after there were arearrages. It seems like a collection arrangment could be made that allows income to flow to both the arrearage account and the minor children.

 

[Ohiogal]

The problem I DO have with the license suspension is that the younger kids are also entitled to support. They had no say in being born second or after there were arearrages. It seems like a collection arrangment could be made that allows income to flow to both the arrearage account and the minor children.

That would be possible IF this man had any intent of EVER supporting any of his children financially. Based on the history -- that is not his intent. He doesn't ever plan to work. Hence, the younger children are not being punished by the state -- if anything they are being punished by the fact that a deadbeat is their father.

 

[tuffbrk]

I just love the title of the thread - Fathers Rights - You never bothered to learn what your rights were for years. Money becomes involved and your license is suspended so NOW you're interested in learning what your rights are. Sheesh.

You need counseling to get your head on straight. You are actually painting yourself as a victim as opposed to the 28 yo who had to learn to live his life without a Dad and your ex who scrimped and did without for years to ensure your son was brought up as best as she could manage with no financial assistance from you. Being in the military pretty much ensures that she was just barely over the financial limits to be disqualified for any type of assistance.

And yet you're online painting a "poor me" picture. Now your current wife and children will go through the same cycle of barely getting by as your ex and your son lived.. .And you get to witness it first hand this time around.

Gotta love karma.

 

[CSO286]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? va

wife divorces me . gets custody of son hardly allows me to see child. child support ordered in Alaska.

Ok, so what kind of custody order was in place? What kind of parenting time were you awarded? When/if she denied you access, did you file contempt? Try to enforce the order in any way?

moved to Texas to live with family. never could get on feet financially.

So, you moved thousands of miles away and mooched off relatives.

never paid child support.

see above.

child passes age of 18 yrs goes into air force and is now 28 attending college. Ex-wife asks the state of Alaska to transfer order to virginia and collect child support under the Child Support Recovery Act of 1992. the new amount after raising the monthly amount and adding 6% interest $132,000 .

So ex moved to VA?
Child support arrears (past sue support) in almost every state will accrue interest. This is normal.
So, yes, if you failed to pay your support from the time ofthe divorce until the child emancipated, you would owe a significant amount, plus interest.

I have remarried and have two boys 5yrs and 8yrs that I am supporting.

How are you supporting these two boys? You're working now?

My present status is unemployed. the Virginia child support agency is suspending my drivers license.

So, you really aren't supporting your two new children, either.....

As well they should I would have expected Alaska to have done in within the first year of your non-payment. (state thresholds vary for drivers licnese suspension).

I think my son should receive the support but since my wife is not able to account for the expenses that she could not afford.

Well, that money you should have been paying to mom was meant to reimburse her for the money she already spent providing for your [mutual] child. You know, things like a roof over his head, food, lights, daycare, school fees, clothes, etc. If you never paid it, then it is still owed to mom.

I am wondering if she was in a hardship. She was in the air force and is now retired. I never had a career.

Or maybe she just wants you to pay what you owe.

When a guardian Ad litem is assigned there is a down to the penny accounting required.

No, this is untrue. Accounting for the child support spent is usually only done in high dollar cases (think five figure monthly obligations) or cases where the CP has history of mismanaging the support. Occasionally, it can be done when the order is established if the parties agree.

I think I am being forced to pay for her new car or house.

So> The money is owed to the CP to use as they see fit. You should have paid it when it came due, as it came due.

She severed parental rights years ago and still would not allow me to even talk to my son on the phone.

Onlyu a court can sever your parental rights. According to you, you moved far far away. Then it sounds like Mom moved closer to where you were. What did you do to try to maintain a relationship with your child?
What did you do when mom denied you contact? If you failed to take legal action when she denied access, then that is on you.

This is America right I do have rights ...or when a man is divorced he loses all rights. Do I have any defense here?

You have the right pay the debt you owe.

Waht rights do you think are being violated here?

Your defense? "Your Honor, once we got divorced, I took off and never got a job. But I don't think I should have to pay any of this support, or if I do, it should go to the kid. K?"