I want to divorce but i am scared " san diego CA "

[Airbander]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA San diego

Hello,
I want to divorce but i am scared and worried and not sure what to do

i been married for 7 years now no kids no issue no fights but i feel like i am trap and not going anywhere in my life with my wife
we are two separate people with very little in commons and i dont like her nor i enjoy my marriage life with her or sexual life.

I want to move on but i am scarred of what will happen to her , i am nice guy but i cant say no or hurt anyone and i cant think about doing anything bad to her meanwhile i can leave because my wife does not make alot of money so i am talking care of her bills and mine

i make around 3000 a month or less after tax and she makes around 1000 or less or more a month so if i leave then she wont be able to pay bills or live on her on but she has family here i dont have anyone

i want to move on , leave and take divorce and leave everything for her

Please advise

Thanks

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

You are planning this with the wrong people. Take steps to shield your assets from a full out attack, then sit down and be honest with her. You owe her that. Attempt to work out an organized breakup, leaving her financially independent.

 

[ecmst12]

Step one: Get some therapy and figure out what you want and what's wrong in your life.

Worry about step 2 after that. Sounds like it will take a while.

 

[BigMouthWino]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA San diego

Hello,
I want to divorce but i am scared and worried and not sure what to do

i been married for 7 years now no kids no issue no fights but i feel like i am trap and not going anywhere in my life with my wife
we are two separate people with very little in commons and i dont like her nor i enjoy my marriage life with her or sexual life.

I want to move on but i am scarred of what will happen to her , i am nice guy but i cant say no or hurt anyone and i cant think about doing anything bad to her meanwhile i can leave because my wife does not make alot of money so i am talking care of her bills and mine

i make around 3000 a month or less after tax and she makes around 1000 or less or more a month so if i leave then she wont be able to pay bills or live on her on but she has family here i dont have anyone

i want to move on , leave and take divorce and leave everything for her

Please advise

Thanks

In California she will be entitled to spousal support equaling one-half of your income for half of the time you were married. So if you were married for 7 years, she will get 3.5 years of spousal support. Based on the basics provided in your post, she will get $1,000 a month from you, so you each will be forced to live on $2,000 a month.

If you plan to end this, the sooner the better. Remember for every 2 days you spend with her in this unhappy marriage you will owe her another day of spousal support. The longer you wait the longer you pay.

 

[Bali Hai]

In California she will be entitled to spousal support equaling one-half of your income for half of the time you were married.

She is entitled to have a court consider an alimony award. That doesn't mean she'll get any.

So if you were married for 7 years, she will get 3.5 years of spousal support. Based on the basics provided in your post, she will get $1,000 a month from you, so you each will be forced to live on $2,000 a month.

You don't have enough facts to say alimony is a given. OP is willing to leave her all marital assets.

If you plan to end this, the sooner the better. Remember for every 2 days you spend with her in this unhappy marriage you will owe her another day of spousal support. The longer you wait the longer you pay.

I agree that to divorce sooner rather than later is correct.