Ladyatthebeach
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
To answer some of the questions the posters are asking -
I am now a 63 year old woman. My "boyfriend" and I met 15 years ago. Fourteen years ago he purchased a house with his money, and we have lived together in this house since then. We never married or formed a legal partnership. He has thrown me out. I poured my heart and soul into that house, did all the landscaping and contributed to the value of the house. Do I have any legal standing to ask that he pay me something for the work I did? I have checks for monthly contributions I gave him to help pay bills.
He spoke of marriage at one point, and I was sure it was coming, but he never proposed. At Christmas one year, in front of family, he gave me a diamond ring. His family I think considered us a "couple". (Should have never moved in before marriage or partnership). He has had affairs over the years that he's mostly kept from me and I've ignored.
He has had some health problems, and surgeries, that I've nursed him though. He's changed since surgery. I don't like drama, but sometimes when he's been drinking he escalates a discussion to "Get out" almost immediately. Yes, it is abusive, and I am prepared to leave unless a commitment is made for the future, and the level of anger changes. I remain civil, and expect he will also. I am still living in the house, and do not expect that the situation would de-evolve into restraining orders and such. If he wants to upgrade to Girlfriend 2.0, good luck to her! I am fine with moving on. Some recognition of my increasing the value of his property seems fair and in order to me. But again, I am not sure if there is a legal basis or not.
To answer some of the questions the posters are asking -
I am now a 63 year old woman. My "boyfriend" and I met 15 years ago. Fourteen years ago he purchased a house with his money, and we have lived together in this house since then. We never married or formed a legal partnership. He has thrown me out. I poured my heart and soul into that house, did all the landscaping and contributed to the value of the house. Do I have any legal standing to ask that he pay me something for the work I did? I have checks for monthly contributions I gave him to help pay bills.
He spoke of marriage at one point, and I was sure it was coming, but he never proposed. At Christmas one year, in front of family, he gave me a diamond ring. His family I think considered us a "couple". (Should have never moved in before marriage or partnership). He has had affairs over the years that he's mostly kept from me and I've ignored.
He has had some health problems, and surgeries, that I've nursed him though. He's changed since surgery. I don't like drama, but sometimes when he's been drinking he escalates a discussion to "Get out" almost immediately. Yes, it is abusive, and I am prepared to leave unless a commitment is made for the future, and the level of anger changes. I remain civil, and expect he will also. I am still living in the house, and do not expect that the situation would de-evolve into restraining orders and such. If he wants to upgrade to Girlfriend 2.0, good luck to her! I am fine with moving on. Some recognition of my increasing the value of his property seems fair and in order to me. But again, I am not sure if there is a legal basis or not.
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