Thrown out, what is my legal standing?

[Bali Hai]

If she was illegally evicted, she would be able to get some.

Which is why I asked the question in the first place. But you stated that it wasn't relevant. Are you saying it's relevant now?

 

[ecmst12]

The reason he threw her out? Nope, still not relevent. The WAY he threw her out? Yes. Which I already said, if he changed the locks without a court order or physically removed her or her stuff, that's illegal and she can sue. If he told her to leave and she left voluntarily? Not illegal. If he told her to leave and she hasn't yet? She doesn't have to until he gives her 60 days written notice and if she has not left by then, he can take her to court for eviction.

 

[Zigner]

The reason he threw her out? Nope, still not relevent.

Still *probably* not relevant. There ARE exceptions. Again, I think they would have been mentioned in the OP, but ya never can tell around here

 

[Bali Hai]

Still *probably* not relevant. There ARE exceptions. Again, I think they would have been mentioned in the OP, but ya never can tell around here

They probably would have been mentioned if it were to OP's benefit to mention them, i.e. he changed the locks and I can't get in, or perhaps, I came home and all my stuff was at the curb side with a note not to come back, or maybe, he told me to leave and I did because I was afraid of him.

What would not be to OP's benefit to mention would be something like, I attacked him with a meat cleaver in a drunken rage, he got an RO and the police escorted me out, or perhaps, I was legally evicted.

 

[Bali Hai]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California

To answer some of the questions the posters are asking -
I am now a 63 year old woman. My "boyfriend" and I met 15 years ago. Fourteen years ago he purchased a house with his money, and we have lived together in this house since then. We never married or formed a legal partnership. He has thrown me out. I poured my heart and soul into that house, did all the landscaping and contributed to the value of the house. Do I have any legal standing to ask that he pay me something for the work I did? I have checks for monthly contributions I gave him to help pay bills.

He spoke of marriage at one point, and I was sure it was coming, but he never proposed.

I'm sure of the second coming of Christ and talk about it all the time.

At Christmas one year, in front of family, he gave me a diamond ring. His family I think considered us a "couple".

Was this diamond ring an engagement ring?

(Should have never moved in before marriage or partnership). He has had affairs over the years that he's mostly kept from me and I've ignored.

Sounds like a room mate arrangement.

He has had some health problems, and surgeries, that I've nursed him though. He's changed since surgery. I don't like drama, but sometimes when he's been drinking he escalates a discussion to "Get out" almost immediately. Yes, it is abusive, and I am prepared to leave unless a commitment is made for the future, and the level of anger changes. I remain civil, and expect he will also. I am still living in the house, and do not expect that the situation would de-evolve into restraining orders and such. If he wants to upgrade to Girlfriend 2.0, good luck to her! I am fine with moving on. Some recognition of my increasing the value of his property seems fair and in order to me. But again, I am not sure if there is a legal basis or not.

So when you say he has thrown you out, that's not the case at all.

You should have made an additional post instead of editing this one.

 

[Zigner]

Why is a tenant entitled to anything regarding the value of the property that is being rented?

 

[ecmst12]

You have no legal claim to his property. I would suggest you start looking for a new place. I won't say you never should have moved in with him outside of marriage, because that's silly. But you shouldn't expect to have a claim to anything from him without it. Since you were almost 50 when you met this guy, I assume you were accustomed to supporting yourself before this time, and you are still supporting yourself by the rent you pay to your boyfriend, so you shouldn't have any problems. But if you want to put your time and money into improving someone else's property, you should not be doing it under the delusion that it entitles you to anything.

But it doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship that you are getting much out of, so you should prepare to move on. Not because he's throwing you out, because you deserve better than you are getting. Consider therapy.

 

[Just Blue]

bump****************************......

 

[anearthw]

You played house for 15 years and had 15 years to walk away if you weren't happy.

Rather than lamenting the loss of any financial contribution to your pseudo-marriage (and I say that because there is no common-law in your state but you seem to feel that you have some sort of financial expectations from property that he owns) you should embrace the bonus points - you can walk away from this apparent alcoholic with anger issues and don't need to go through a legal divorce. A lot of people don't get that option. Count your lucky stars.