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Forgive me for the length and detail of this post but I need some advice and i can't turn to anybody at my work, my HR, and my family, and my union has no clue what to think. So here I go...
I recently filed for divorce after 17 co-dependent abusive years. I stayed with my wife despite at least six different affairs and constant drug abuse (all on her part). I found out early last year that she had been cheating on me with another man for at least two years. The cheating had stopped but it hurt me bad. I also found out in February that she got pregnant and had an abortion (I had a vasectomy seven years ago and also got tested...couldn't be my baby).
This event even lead me to a suicide attempt and nearly two weeks in the hospital. Well, with that background information everything escalated and I was arrested on August 22nd. I have been charged with perjury 1 (I accidentally typed felony 1 earlier, I just changed that) and 2 perjury, felony attempting to influence a public officer, and misdemeanor stalking. I was suspended from my current federal job two days after my arrest. Last Friday, HR called me back and said that I was clear to come back to work which I have happily done for the last four days. I work in a position with a public trust clearance. I am honorably discharged from the U.S. Air Force. Before this incident I had never been in handcuffs much less arrested. I have an advanced degree and work as a GS-11.
I have reviewed the evidence against me and in my opinion it is very thin. Almost everything they have, they have gotten from my wife. I personally have not given them anything. It looks to me more like a domestic dispute than anything else but my wife has played the victim very well, so well that I have not been able to see my three beautiful kids (which is the main reason I stayed in my marriage as long as I did) for over a month. I am hoping (and assuming) that several plea-bargains will be offered. I have a public defender, which ironically, my soon to be ex complained to the Assistant DA that I inflated my costs in order to qualify for and now they are going to contest that...I haven't been able to speak to him for more than a few minutes but we have our first real meeting next week and our first real court appearance in two months.
What are the chances that I can plead to no felony charges? Please anyone reading this that needs more information, please ask. I am worried and my public defender has told me nearly nothing and has just added to my worry.
Forgive me for the length and detail of this post but I need some advice and i can't turn to anybody at my work, my HR, and my family, and my union has no clue what to think. So here I go...
I recently filed for divorce after 17 co-dependent abusive years. I stayed with my wife despite at least six different affairs and constant drug abuse (all on her part). I found out early last year that she had been cheating on me with another man for at least two years. The cheating had stopped but it hurt me bad. I also found out in February that she got pregnant and had an abortion (I had a vasectomy seven years ago and also got tested...couldn't be my baby).
This event even lead me to a suicide attempt and nearly two weeks in the hospital. Well, with that background information everything escalated and I was arrested on August 22nd. I have been charged with perjury 1 (I accidentally typed felony 1 earlier, I just changed that) and 2 perjury, felony attempting to influence a public officer, and misdemeanor stalking. I was suspended from my current federal job two days after my arrest. Last Friday, HR called me back and said that I was clear to come back to work which I have happily done for the last four days. I work in a position with a public trust clearance. I am honorably discharged from the U.S. Air Force. Before this incident I had never been in handcuffs much less arrested. I have an advanced degree and work as a GS-11.
I have reviewed the evidence against me and in my opinion it is very thin. Almost everything they have, they have gotten from my wife. I personally have not given them anything. It looks to me more like a domestic dispute than anything else but my wife has played the victim very well, so well that I have not been able to see my three beautiful kids (which is the main reason I stayed in my marriage as long as I did) for over a month. I am hoping (and assuming) that several plea-bargains will be offered. I have a public defender, which ironically, my soon to be ex complained to the Assistant DA that I inflated my costs in order to qualify for and now they are going to contest that...I haven't been able to speak to him for more than a few minutes but we have our first real meeting next week and our first real court appearance in two months.
What are the chances that I can plead to no felony charges? Please anyone reading this that needs more information, please ask. I am worried and my public defender has told me nearly nothing and has just added to my worry.
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