Need some Info on Bifurcation....

[Headhunting55]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California

Hi,

I filed for divorce last january, and due to some health issues and other matters, I have been unable to complete my divorce. This divorce is uncontested. We still have to to do the Settlement agreement and few other things, but the Paralegal we were using was in a small accident and she will be unavailable for the next few weeks to help complete the process.

I am presently engaged to another woman, and we would like to be married as soon as possible, becuase My Mother is 96 years old, in rapidly failing health, and my wish is to have the ceremony performed in her living room....I want her to see the joy that has come into my life.

My Paralegal has strongly suggested the Bifurcation process, which will allow me to become, in the eyes of the law, a single man and allow me to re-marry, and then work out the final details of my divorce at a later time, when My paralegal becomes available.

I am a little unsure as to what forms I need for this, and where to obtain them.....can anyone direct me to a site where I can get the forms, as well as some instructions as to how to fill them out and file them?

I would be very appreciative....

Thanks!

 

[stealth2]

I don't know the answer to your question, but... Does your mother not already see the happiness in your life? Will the legalities really change that?

I'm not going to go into the poor decision regarding remarrying in haste...

 

[tranquility]

If all you need is a couple of weeks for your paralegal to get back and close things out, bifurcation is not going to speed things up. You're making a motion to the court to make two actions. One for the divorce and the other for the property settlement (and/or other matters). I don't see how the forms and motions will make things faster for you. But, google it. There seems a lot of specific websites to do what you want including listing the issues and time lines involved.

 

[Headhunting55]

I don't know the answer to your question, but... Does your mother not already see the happiness in your life? Will the legalities really change that?

I'm not going to go into the poor decision regarding remarrying in haste...

The re-marriage would not actually be in haste...we have known each other over 30 years, and have dated for a year since my wife and I separated.

As far as my Mother....she has know that I had not been happy for many years. She has met my Fiancee, and simply adores her, as do I. My Finacee want to get married....and my mother would give most anything to attend. We will bring the wedding to her.

In the 25 years I was married to my previous wife, my never once called my mother, sent her a birthday card, or even a thank you card for a birthday gift....they had virtually no communication. My Financee and my mother get along beautifully....So, while the legalities might not change anything, within my mothers view it would be a source of great happiness to see her son married to what has become the woman of his dreams.

 

[ecmst12]

You can have a private or religious ceremony without getting legally married, which can be done anytime after your divorce is final without involving your family.

 

[Headhunting55]

If all you need is a couple of weeks for your paralegal to get back and close things out, bifurcation is not going to speed things up. You're making a motion to the court to make two actions. One for the divorce and the other for the property settlement (and/or other matters). I don't see how the forms and motions will make things faster for you. But, google it. There seems a lot of specific websites to do what you want including listing the issues and time lines involved.

The reality is that it might actually be longer than a few weeks....perhaps a month or two, or more. The logistics of our work schedules, and things like the weather in Utah (we want the ceremony to outside if possible) and a few other issues make time a more important issue that it might otherwise be.

The prospect of becoming "single" in as little as 20 days works very well into our plans....and wrapping up the details of the Settlement, alimony, property division, etc can be easily handled later.

So, having said all that, can anyone direct me to any sites that might have the proper forms with, perhaps, some instructions on filling them/filing them properly?

Thank you!

 

[stealth2]

The re-marriage would not actually be in haste...we have known each other over 30 years, and have dated for a year since my wife and I separated.

I disagree with you, but be taht as it may.

If you want to get things moving quickly, agree to whatever your wife wants and settle. That will be the quieckest way to get you back to the altar.

 

[Headhunting55]

I disagree with you, but be taht as it may.

If you want to get things moving quickly, agree to whatever your wife wants and settle. That will be the quieckest way to get you back to the altar.

I am just curious as to the basis of your disagreement. What exactly do you disagree with, and why?

 

[Headhunting55]

You can have a private or religious ceremony without getting legally married, which can be done anytime after your divorce is final without involving your family.

Well, of course....we have discussed that. However, we WANT to get married. Legally and otherwise. This is a relationship that is quite wonderful, and we are both anxious to begin our life togther. This is not a "quickie"....we are both mature in age, have considered all elements in detail, and this is something we want to do. There have been a few barriers to own pursuing this in a more traditional manner, but we are ready to complete this now, and we just need to be aware of all of our options....Being about to shave a few weeks or a couple of months off the process would be terrific, considering how we want to conduct this wedding.

 

[tranquility]

The reality is that it might actually be longer than a few weeks....perhaps a month or two, or more. The logistics of our work schedules, and things like the weather in Utah (we want the ceremony to outside if possible) and a few other issues make time a more important issue that it might otherwise be.

The prospect of becoming "single" in as little as 20 days works very well into our plans....and wrapping up the details of the Settlement, alimony, property division, etc can be easily handled later.

So, having said all that, can anyone direct me to any sites that might have the proper forms with, perhaps, some instructions on filling them/filing them properly?

Thank you!

Google: california bifurcation divorce

Choose the most appropriate. I don't know your skill or knowledge and can't practice law for you. If you can't search and find, you can't do it. I'm thinking you heard something that will get you what you want and think it may be a check the box and move on kind of thing. It's not. It increases complexity while reducing the power the other party has over you. If everyone is in agreement in this divorce that is non-contested, it would be easier to just finish up that paperwork.

 

[ecmst12]

If you are truly at peace with the relationship and happy with each other and doing this for the right reasons, then you would know that there is absolutely NO reason to rush. If it's right now, it will be just as right a few months from now. Neither of you are going anywhere, right?

 

[Bali Hai]

You can have a private or religious ceremony without getting legally married, which can be done anytime after your divorce is final without involving your family.

Couldn't they have a private or religious ceremony without a divorce provided the church would agree? That's what I recommend and forget getting legally married. I detect OP is being pressured by the new love of his life to get things moving with all the legalities complete. Humongous RED FLAG!

 

[wavehopper27]

If this about wanting your ailing mother present at your new wedding, do like it was suggested and have a non legal ceremony and invite all the people you want. Then when your divorce is all sorted out, go to town hall and sign the paperwork to make your marriage legal.