Anything I can do?

[NightSerpent]

My husband and I, who are currently in the middle of getting divorced, are living together. I make no income, and he's been supporting me(no kids). I have no family or friends I can stay with nearby, but I worked out a living arrangement that'll happen two months from now. In the meantime, I've been having to rely on him to support me. I had to submit out divorce as completely uncontested and with no alimony or anything like that, and had to say that I would pay for all of my medical debt that I acquired during the marriage. If I contested anything, he'd kick me out of my home. Even though I'm on the lease, he said if I forced my way in by calling the police, he'd just stay somewhere else and I'd have no food or utilities. So I did things his way: I was the petitioner, I served him already, and we signed and notarized the consent decree which he will submit after the 60 day period.

The problem is, he's dropping my phone line from our family plan, refusing to buy me any food, now, and things are so hostile at home, here. He won't destroy any of my property for fear of going to jail, but he's not taking care of me, and I have no money. Nadda. Zilch.

Is there anything I can do?

 

[Silverplum]

My husband and I, who are currently in the middle of getting divorced, are living together. I make no income, and he's been supporting me(no kids). I have no family or friends I can stay with nearby, but I worked out a living arrangement that'll happen two months from now. In the meantime, I've been having to rely on him to support me. I had to submit out divorce as completely uncontested and with no alimony or anything like that, and had to say that I would pay for all of my medical debt that I acquired during the marriage. If I contested anything, he'd kick me out of my home. Even though I'm on the lease, he said if I forced my way in by calling the police, he'd just stay somewhere else and I'd have no food or utilities. So I did things his way: I was the petitioner, I served him already, and we signed and notarized the consent decree which he will submit after the 60 day period.

The problem is, he's dropping my phone line from our family plan, refusing to buy me any food, now, and things are so hostile at home, here. He won't destroy any of my property for fear of going to jail, but he's not taking care of me, and I have no money. Nadda. Zilch.

Is there anything I can do?

Is it too obvious to encourage you to get a job (or two) and become self-supporting?

 

[NightSerpent]

Believe me, I'd love to have a job. I've looked and looked and looked and looked. But I've had no luck. At all.

 

[Silverplum]

Believe me, I'd love to have a job. I've looked and looked and looked and looked. But I've had no luck. At all.

Name of your US State?

 

[NightSerpent]

I'm in Arizona.

 

[Silverplum]

I'm in Arizona.

See if any of this might apply to you:

http://blog.sdsfamilylaw.com/determining-eligibility-for-spousal-maintenance-in-arizona/

http://www.divorcenet.com/resources/divorce/spousal-support/understanding-and-calculating-alimony-ar


(I have no connection to the linked people or ads, and am merely providing info to the poster. )

 

[Ohiogal]

My husband and I, who are currently in the middle of getting divorced, are living together. I make no income, and he's been supporting me(no kids). I have no family or friends I can stay with nearby, but I worked out a living arrangement that'll happen two months from now. In the meantime, I've been having to rely on him to support me. I had to submit out divorce as completely uncontested and with no alimony or anything like that, and had to say that I would pay for all of my medical debt that I acquired during the marriage. If I contested anything, he'd kick me out of my home. Even though I'm on the lease, he said if I forced my way in by calling the police, he'd just stay somewhere else and I'd have no food or utilities. So I did things his way: I was the petitioner, I served him already, and we signed and notarized the consent decree which he will submit after the 60 day period.

The problem is, he's dropping my phone line from our family plan, refusing to buy me any food, now, and things are so hostile at home, here. He won't destroy any of my property for fear of going to jail, but he's not taking care of me, and I have no money. Nadda. Zilch.

Is there anything I can do?

Well you never should have signed any of this. You should NOT be relying on ANYONE to support you and rather be self supportive. How long were you married? Alimony is not an entitlement. Any of the medical debt that acquired during the marriage is a MARITAL debt. You didn't have to state you would pay for it all. He could NOT kick you out of the house. If you were unable to support yourself, you could have filed for food stamps and emergency help. You chose however to continue relying on the man you are divorcing. So your only option is to become self sufficient as soon as possible.

 

[wavehopper27]

Go flip burgers, sweep a floor, pump gas, run a cash register, stock shelves. There are jobs out there for those that want them.

 

[NellieBly]

Please quit taking legal advice from this man. He cannot throw you out of your own home.

Call a women's shelter and see what services they offer. Perhaps they know a pro bono (free) lawyer that can help you straighten out this mess of a divorce you agreed to. If anything, you signed under duress.

You can also call a temp agency and see what employment opportunities there are.

 

[Ohiogal]

Please quit taking legal advice from this man. He cannot throw you out of your own home.

Call a women's shelter and see what services they offer. Perhaps they know a pro bono (free) lawyer that can help you straighten out this mess of a divorce you agreed to. If anything, you signed under duress.

You can also call a temp agency and see what employment opportunities there are.

Duress? Really? Where is the legal backup that she signed under duress. She made a bad decision. I wouldn't call it under duress. She is actually the one who filed. She made a trade -- him taking care of her because she couldn't or didn't want to avail herself of other options.